How To Meet Women On The Internet

Let’s face reality – meeting women on the internet has become one of the fastest and easiest ways to start dating a multitude of women.

The stigma of dating over the internet has long faded away.  Today, its perfectly acceptable to turn to the internet to meet beautiful girls.

The only problem is… they’re not usually all that beautiful, are they?

Who hasn’t gone to sites like Match.com and eHarmony, gotten in touch with a girl who had a great picture in their profile, only to meet up with them and find out that picture was from 5 years and 100 pounds ago?

Meeting women on the internet isn’t hard.  But knowing how to meet women on the internet the RIGHT way is a skill few men have learned to master.

If you’re not worried about the quality of the women you meet, then just send out enough emails and you’ll get a number of women ranging from hideously ugly to butt-nut crazy ready and willing to date you.

But if you want to get a QUALITY girl, someone who’s mentally stable, attractive, and most of all – fun – then here are some tips you need to know about how to meet women on the internet.

TIP 1:  Be Extremely Specific About The Type Of Woman You Want To Meet.

Very few guys ever write in their profile what it is they are really looking for.  They either ignore this completely or keep it too general.

Here’s the thing though – if you are extremely clear and specific about the type of girl you’re looking to meet, it will actually GET those types of women to respond to you!

And contrary to popular believe, it won’t scare off too many girls who don’t fit the profile of the woman you want either.  Most women respect a guy who knows what he’s looking for, and they’ll contact you anyway hoping they can “broaden your horizons.”

It’s a very powerful thing to be specific with what you’re looking for in a girl.  Don’t be afraid to go into detail about how you want your girl to look and act.

TIP 2:  Explain What You’re NOT Looking For.

Telling people in your profile what you’re not looking for can be just as effective – if not more so – than telling people what you are looking for.

For instance, saying something like: “I am NOT into girls who like to be smacked around, so if you’re into abusive guys, please, do not contact me.”

In this instance, you’re actually using what you’re not looking for to communicate to girls reading your profile that you’re not someone who’s abusive, and this implies you respect women and would never hurt them.

But you’re phrasing it in such a way where you’re putting the girl in a position where she has to prove to YOU that she’s worthy of your time, and not the other way around.

This is a very powerful tactic.

TIP 3:  Don’t Include A Picture In Your Profile.

Profiles with pictures get a lot more searches than profiles without pictures, but I’ve found that if you’re the one contacting women (and let’s face it, very few women send out emails on these sites), it doesn’t matter if you don’t have a picture up.

In fact, it works out better.  Just say in your profile “I’m worried about some crazy girl on this site cyber-stalking me, so I’m not putting up a picture.  But if you email me, I’ll send one to you. Promise.”  That will be good enough for a response from a girl.

The key here is to let their imagination fill in the gaps of what you look like, and have the words in your profile be what attracts them to you as opposed to your picture.

This is a great technique for guys who maybe aren’t all that attractive, or are insecure about their looks.

TIP 4:  Sign Up For Multiple Dating Sites

Just like you wouldn’t just hang out in one bar or club to meet girls, you don’t want to hang out on just one website to meet girls either.  It’s always best to belong to multiple dating websites if you can, because it increases the number of women you can meet!

Here are some of the sites I like to use to meet women on the internet…

• MySpace
• Match.com
• eHarmony
• Plenty Of Fish
• Yahoo Personals
• OKCupid.com
• J-Date
• Craig’s List

Some of these sites are free, some you have to pay for, but all of them will get you results!

So don’t just limit yourself to one dating site.  Go for two or three if you can.

TIP 5:  Write Funny Emails

Humor is the most attractive thing you can do online.  Writing emails that aren’t the same old “hey, what’s up?” or boring emails like “I noticed you liked blah, blah, blah in your profile, I like blah, blah, blah too,” are very powerful.

And the easiest way to do that is to write emails that are light-hearted and funny.

Sending an email that says something like: “Hey, just wondering how many guys with half-naked pictures of themselves have contacted you today.  I’m taking a survey. (Don’t ask.)” can get a girl to respond to you instantly.

TIP 6:  Get The Girls On The Phone Quickly

Don’t spend too much time emailing back and forth.  People are very different over email than they are on the phone.  By the third email, you should be asking for her number.

Once you have the number, call her up and talk to her.  This is where you’ll find out if there’s some chemistry there, and if there is, you can go ahead and set up a time to meet.

The biggest mistake guys make is they wait too long to talk to a girl on the phone.  Don’t let this happen to you!  Understand that she’s probably getting contacted by lots of other guys, so if she’s a winner, you don’t want to lose her to someone else.

Work fast, and you’ll see some good results.

After all, being in a marriage meant never having to actively go out and attract women.

Typically, guys who were good with women before getting married find that their skills with the ladies just “aren’t what thy used to be.” And guys who struggled until they found their (now ex) wives believe they’re going to struggle even worse now that they’re back on the market.

Add to that the fact that a freshly divorced man tends to be older, fatter, and balder than he was when he first got married, and his insecurities about his looks can actually prevent him from getting success with new women!

Luckily, meeting women after a divorce doesn’t have to be difficult. Here are some simple steps you can follow to help you start meeting more women right away…

STEP 1: Figure Out What You Want

Most guys don’t know how to get back into the dating game because they have no idea what they actually want! So before you even start thinking about meeting girls, figure out what your goals are.

Are you looking to get back into a serious relationship? Or do you just want something casual and fun? Do you want to get married again? Or do you want to enjoy being single for a while?

What about the type of woman you want? Would you be willing to date a single mom? Do you want to go after a younger woman? An older woman?

Think about what you want to have, and once you figure out what you’re looking for, you’ll find that you’ll be able to achieve it easier than if you had no idea what it was you wanted.

STEP 2: Set Aside Time To Meet New Women

The life of a freshly divorced man can be difficult and hectic. Maybe you had to move to a new place? Maybe you have to work harder to pay for alimony. Maybe you have kids and you have to spend time with them.

The list of things you have to deal with now that your single can be long and overwhelming. But if you want to meet a new woman, you must set aside time to focus on your dating life!

Give yourself a little bit of time every day to focus your energy and attention on meeting girls, and then set aside at least 1 or 2 days for a “date night,” or a night where you can actually go out with a woman you’ve met.

If you don’t make time for bringing women into your life, guess what? IT WON’T HAPPEN! So schedule accordingly.

STEP 3: Use Online Dating Services

If you’re nervous about getting back into the field, or you just want a fast way to start meeting women on your busy schedule, the internet is a great place to start.

Women online are actively looking for a great guy to date, so you know the girls you contact on these sites would be in the market. But more than that, it’s also extremely easy to meet lots of women! Just send them an email and see if they respond. It’s as simple as that.

STEP 4: Use Your Friends And Family

Don’t forget about the power of networking when it comes to meeting new women. Ask your friends and family members to introduce you to a woman they think would be a good match for you.

Some guys don’t like to go this route, because they don’t want to seem like they need help. But meeting a woman through friends and family is actually much easier than meeting a woman on your own, because you have a system in place to “build you up” before the girl ever meets you.

Having a female friend or your mother play matchmaker can be really beneficial. Just make sure you’re clear with the people helping you out what you are looking for in a woman.

STEP 5: Be Social

When you’re married, most of your social life revolves around your wife and family. However, after a divorce, you have to get out of the house and actively be social with other people.

Go to your kid’s soccer games or school events, and mingle with other single parents. Go to happy hour with your co-workers after you get off the job. Invite people to go to sporting events and movies with you.

Do whatever you can think of to get out of the house and mingle with other people. This is how you meet new women, or people who can introduce you to new women.

Here are some extra tips to help you out with your quest to meet a new girl to have in your life…

• Never talk bad about your ex-wife when you meet a new woman. This can come off as you being bitter with women, and could reflect badly on you. If the subject of your ex comes up, just say “There was a time when she was the light of my life, but now I’m moving on.” It’s better to be classy than bitter.
• Brush up on your conversation skills. Don’t be afraid to chat up a woman innocently. Ask questions, be interested in her. You don’t have to go for the date right away.
• Don’t worry about your age, weight, or bald spot. If you let these things bother you, they’ll lower your confidence and keep you from success with a girl. Better to focus on the reasons WHY a woman would be attracted to you than reasons why she WOULDN’T.
• Text messaging can be great for dating. Be sure to use texting to keep in touch with all the new women you meet. If you aren’t used to texting, learn to love it! It will really help you when setting up a date.
• Go after what you want. Don’t settle for a woman you don’t really like just because she’s convenient. Date as many women as it takes to find one that actually makes you happy.

Most of all, remember that dating is supposed to be fun and exciting! Try and have a good time meeting new people and being more social. If you’re not having fun, it’ll be hard to meet the right woman for you.

But if you’re paying $30 a month for these sites, you are probably missing out on one of the single best online dating sites around. And best of all, it’s free!

I am, of course, talking about Craig’s List.

Craig’s List was started by Craig Newmark in 1995 to better help people connect through events around San Francisco. Since that time, this simple site has exploded into a national community.

Craig’s List is, at it’s heart, a classified ad site. It allows people to find places to live, find work, buy and sell stuff, and even find dates – just like the classified ads in the back of your local newspaper.

Anyone who’s ever visited Craig’s List may be skeptical about fining quality women on such a “low rent” looking website. But if you’re judging a book by its cover, you’re really missing out.

Here are the advantages to using Craig’s List for dating purposes:

1. Large Userbase

Craig’s List gets literally millions of visits a day. This means that your chances of meeting a great woman on this site is greatly increased.

2. Local Targeting

Craig’s List is divided into sections for local areas. This means you can actually meet women who are local to your area quickly and easily.

3. It’s Free!

Most dating sites require a monthly subscription. But Craig’s List is a free site, which means that more women use it than your typical dating website. This means more chances for you to meet the right girl!

4. Dedicated Community

Craig’s List is more than a service site, it actually has people who visit the site daily, multiple times. It has message boards, and is updated constantly. They also have members who moderate the website. All this contributes to a vibrant community that you can become a part of – something most dating sites lack.

So now that you know why Craig’s List is a great site to meet women on, let’s talk about how you can go about using Craig’s List to find dates.

Step 1: Create a new email address

One thing you’re going to want to do before you start using Craig’s List to find love is create a “dummy” email address. This will help you keep from getting spammed from the site, since lots of disreputable people use Craig’s List to harvest email addresses, so it’s a good idea to have a “throw away” email address that you use just for Craig’s List.

Step 2: Create an account on Craig’s List

Creating an account is free. Just sign up using the email address you created. This will allow you to repost your ads very easily, something which will come in handy later.

Step 3: Write An Ad

Next, you’re going to want to craft an ad to post on Craig’s List, explaining the type of girl you’re looking for.

Step 4: Create Up To 5-10 Ad Variations

Craig’s List has strict guidelines on posting duplicate content. They don’t want their site spammed by ads, so you’ll want to re-write your ad at least 5-10 times, so you are able to post it often.

Step 5: Post Your Ads

Once you have all your ad variations ready to go, post your ad. You’re going to want to post your ad at least twice a day, once around noon, and once around 5 or 6 o’clock. This will increase the likelihood of your ad being seen.

Step 6: Repost Your Ads

Every 3 days, you’ll be allowed to repost the same ad you posted before. Just log into your account and look at all your posts, then select the ones you’d like to repost.

Step 7: Keep Reposting Your Ad

You will want to repost your ad often, since this is the key to success with having women on Craig’s List respond to you.

Step 8: Browse Ads From Women

In addition to posting your ad, you’ll also want to browse ads that girls have posted on Craig’s List.

Step 9: Email Women you’re Interested In

Once you find an ad you’re interested in, be sure to email her. Use the Craig’s List email address you created though, don’t use your personal email.

Now that you know the general process of meeting women on Craig’s List, let’s talk about two important factors – where to post, and how to craft a great ad.

First off, you have two choices of categories to post in on Craig’s List. The first is “Men Seeking Women,” and the next is “Causal Encounters.”

The “Men Seeking Women” section is where women browse looking for guys that seem interesting. This is a section for finding dates. The “Casual Encounters” section is for more physical interactions, such as casual sex, one night stands, etc.

Figure out which section is more for you, and post there. You can of course post in both sections if you like, but I’ve found it’s best to focus your efforts on one section only.

Now let’s talk about crafting a winning ad.

The first thing you want to do is create a great headline. Your headline is what’s going to get people to click on your ad. Usually, you want to have some type of benefit in the headline to entice women to check you out.

For instance, a headline like “Looking For A Great Girl I Can Wine, Dine, And Romance” showcases a big benefit to the girl. Every girl likes to be romanced, so why shouldn’t they check out your ad?

Another great tip is to include a picture in your ad. Ads with pictures get clicked on more than ads without pictures. If you’re wary about putting your image on Craig’s List, just find a generic picture of a romantic restaurant or something like that to include in your ad. Any picture will do, just so Craig’s List can list your ad as having a picture in it in the results listing.

Use humor in your ad when you can. Showcasing a fun, funny attitude will make you stand out from the others and get you more responses. You always want to try and communicate your fun personality to girls, and this is especially true online.

Talk about yourself in the ad. Don’t just give details like hair color, body size, height, etc. Also include things you’re passionate about, things you like doing, and your idea of what a great date will be.

Then, talk about the type of girl you’re looking for. Be specific! The more specific you are, the more chance you have of getting a girl you like!

Always tell the girl that she must send you a picture, or at least a link to a MySpace or Facebook page so you can see what she looks like. Don’t just assume they’ll send a picture. Let them know you’re happy to share a picture of you in return. Most girls will respond well to this. If a girl emails you asking for a picture, give her one of you, but always ask for one in return.

Longer ads actually tend to do better than shorter ones. Long ads stand out, and girls will take time to read the ad if it’s interesting. So don’t worry if your ad seems long.

Use proper grammar, punctuation, spelling, and spacing. The nicer your ad looks, the easier it is to read, and the more responses it will get!

When you combine regular ad posting with emailing women directly on Craig’s List, you’ll start to see lots of women contacting you.

But just a few words of warning…

Warning 1: There are lots of “fake women” posting personals on Craig’s List. These are done by SPAMMERS looking to harvest email addresses. If you get a generic “hey, thanks for emailing me” ad, be wary, since it’s typically some spammer trying to get you to sign up for a porn site.

Warning 2: Women can be suspicious of guys online, so always be up-front and honest with them. Women have safety issues most guys don’t, don’t do what it takes to make a woman feel good about contacting you.

Warning 3: Don’t spend too much time emailing. Try and get the girl’s number so you can call or text her as soon as you can. Too much emailing might get you stuck as an “online fantasy.”

Warning 4: There are crazy women on Craig’s List, so if you’re going to meet them, always meet them at a neutral place, like a coffee shop, never have them come directly to your place. You want to screen them first to see if they’re stable before inviting them into your home.

Warning 5: Don’t give up! Too many guys post one ad on Craig’s List and then quit. If you want to be successful, you have to post regularly and often, and keep emailing women until you find a good one.

When you follow all these tips, you’ll get amazing success with meeting women on Craig’s List.