Why you should never put all your eggs in one basket...

Hey there,

It’s a common question I get asked by almost every single one of my students…

“Joe, there’s this one girl I really like.  How do I get her?”

And my answer is always the same…

“You don’t.”

Now, that might seem a bit pessimistic.  After all, why can’t we go after the girl we want?

Short answer:  You CAN go after the girl you want, and its possible you can GET the girl you want.  But that doesn’t necessarily mean you should put ALL YOUR EFFORT into going after the girl you want.

See, dating really comes down to a numbers game.  And when you limit yourself to one particular girl, you’re actually HURTING your chances of getting the right girl for you.

(The reason being that “one special girl” you like so much might not be the girl you should be going after.)

So when I hear that question about the “one special girl,” I get worried.

Here’s what you SHOULD be doing to not only increase your chances with that girl you like so much, but also ensure that if it doesn’t work out with her, you’re not completely out of luck…

This is a technique I learned the hard way.

See, I used to be the type of guy who’d find a girl, fall madly in love with her, and focus all my efforts on trying to “woo” her to me.

I’d try to be her friend, I’d try to come off as “non threatening,” and I was very careful to try not to scare her off…

In short:  I did everything you’re not supposed to do.

Understand – guys who place ALL their efforts on ONE GIRL will almost always FAIL, because they don’t have any options!

Back when I was a “desperate chump,” I placed so much importance on that “one special girl,” that not only did I get all bent-out-of-shape when things didn’t go right, but I also IGNORED many opportunities with other women because I wasn’t paying attention.

See, when it comes to “one girl,” you have to deal with the fact that:

1. You might not be her type.
2. She might be in a relationship with someone else already.
3. She may not be looking to get involved with anyone romantically.
4. She might just see you as “a friend.”
5. She may be too busy for a relationship at the moment

There are just any number of things that could prevent ONE GIRL from wanting to be with you, and you can’t deal with all of them.

However, when you’re dating multiple girls, you have OPTIONS, and that gives you a great deal of power!

When you’re seeing many different girls, if one doesn’t work out, guess what?  You just move on to another.  Because you’re not totally invested in any ONE girl, even if you get rejected, or she’s too busy/flaky, etc., you don’t have to worry about not having someone else to fall back on.

Having more than just one choice when it comes to women is the BEST thing for keeping your confidence high, and ensuring that you end up with something, instead of nothing.

And keep in mind - these aren’t girls you “settle” for.  Each woman you see should be a girl you actually like and find attractive!

But the best part is, you can STILL try and attract that “one special girl” while you’re dating other girls.

In fact, it actually HELPS you with that special chick you have your heart set on!!!

How?

Simple.  First of all, if the girl is too busy or flaky, you have other options, so you’re not constantly waiting around for her to show you some attention.

Second, she’s not as important to you since you have other options, so its easier to take chances and treat her in a way most other guys don’t.  A.K.A. a bratty little girl!!!

Third, having other women around you and dating you will make you more attractive to that girl you like.  This may sound “counter-intuitive,” but its true.  The social proof of other girls finding you attractive will make that “one special girl” take more notice of you.

So here’s what you need to do…

Start meeting AS MANY GIRLS AS YOU CAN.  The more girls you meet, the more of them you can start dating.  In my course, The Art Of Approaching, I show you how to easily start meeting lots of girls really quickly.

Check it out for yourself here!

Then, start flirting and trying to attract these women, along with that particular girl you want.

I show you EXACTLY how to build attraction and flirt with girls in the course.  It’s fun, and much easier than you think!

And keep working on that girl you like, while still juggling all the OTHER girls.  Eventually, she’ll come around.

But if you REALLY want to know more about building attraction with women, then check out my Renegade Rapport course.  It’s all about how any man can instantly create powerful, emotional connections with girls and get them super-attracted to you fast!

Discover these attraction secrets here!

Remember – always keep your options open!  Play the numbers, and eventually, you’ll find an amazing girl who’s totally into you, and you don’t have to “pine” after her.

In fact, it’s not unusual for guys to spend anywhere from an hour to two hours a day working out!

From personal experience, when I work out, I’ll be at the gym five days a week, alternating between an hour of cardio and an hour of weight training.

And that time at the gym adds up!  Some people even go further by joining classes, getting a personal trainer, and hanging out at the local juice bar.  So it’s no surprise that because some of us spend so much time at the gym, we’d like to know how to meet women there!

After all, it’s not just the fact that some guys spend a lot of time working out at the gym, there’s also the fact that some very attractive women spend a lot of time there too!  (In an effort to remain as attractive as possible, of course.)

But as much as it makes sense to try and meet girls during your workout, it can seem like a very daunting task!  But if you know a few simple tricks for meeting women at the gym, you might be surprised to find that it’s actually easier to do than you think.

Let’s go through the tips now…

TIP #1:  Taking Advantage Of Cardio

Typically, people will do cardio workouts for anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour.  Let’s face it, that’s a LONG time to do nothing but run in place!

If you see an attractive girl you’d like to meet doing cardio, see if you can get on a machine next to her to do your cardio.  This will give you the opportunity to start up a conversation with her.

You’ll be amazed at how easy it is to talk to someone when they’re doing a cardio workout, and that’s because cardio is BORING.  The girl will typically be watching closed-caption TV, flipping through a magazine, or listening to music on an iPod.  But talking to someone can pass the time just as fast, and as long as your approach is smooth, she’ll be more than willing to chat with you!

TIP #2:  Find Out Her Playlist

One of the biggest obstacles guys face at the gym is competing with iPods.  People like to listen to music when they work out, and seeing a pair of ear-plugs can scare you off from starting a conversation.

But I’ve found that actually asking the woman about the music she listens to when working out is a great way to not only get her to listen to you instead of music, but a good way to quickly bond with her over mutual interests.

The way I do it, is I’ll try and get the girl’s attention, either by waving at her or tapping her on her shoulder.  This will get her to pause her music and look at me.  Then I’ll say…

“Sorry to bother you, do you mind if I ask what music you’re listening to?”

When she give you her answer, you can respond:

“I’m getting kind of bored with my music, so I’m looking for some new stuff to listen to during my workout.  What kind of music do you think is the best to workout to?”

From there, I can start talking about favorite bands, concerts I’ve been to, etc.  It’s a great way to get her attention away from her iPod and focused on you!

TIP #3:  Offer Advice

Often times, you’ll see girls working out throughout the gym on various machines or weights.  A great way to start up conversations with them is to offer them advice or feedback on their form.

Just make sure that it’s “friendly” suggestions, and that you’re not telling them they’re doing things wrong.

People at the gym who work out without personal trainers usually have mistakes in how they are using machines or performing a certain exercise.  So if you can offer them some tips on how to make their workout more effective, they’ll actually really appreciate it!

And once you offer them your advice, you can start asking them about their training goals, and carry on the conversation from there.

This is a very effective way of meeting girls who are weight training.

TIP #4:  Join A Class

Most gyms offer a variety of classes you can sign up for.  These range from yoga, to spinning, to dancing, etc.

Here’s a tip – most of these classes are filled by a majority of WOMEN.  So taking a class can give you a tremendous opportunity to meet girls!

Not only that, but many classes can become social functions, and give you excuses to talk and chit-chat with girls.  I can’t tell you how many girls I’ve dated because I was the only guy in their class at the gym.

You’ll also notice a lot of the girls in your classes also work out at the gym, so you have a great way of meeting them if you see them in the general training area.  Just approach them and say “Hey, aren’t you in my spinning (or whatever) class?”

Seriously, it does not get much easier than that!

TIP #5:  Take Advantage Of The Juice Bar

Most gyms nowadays have some type of juice bar, or place where you can sit down and drink a protein shake or smoothy.  Take advantage of this when you’re trying to meet women at the gym!

There are two ways you can utilize a juice bar…

The first is to invite women you meet while working out to join you for a drink.  This is a great way to do an “instant date” after meeting a girl.  Instead of letting the girl just leave after she’s done working out, ask her if she’d be interested in grabbing a drink with you at the smoothy bar.

Then, sit down and chit-chat with her.  It’s just like getting coffee together, but much quicker and easier.

The second way to use the juice bar area is to actually see if there are any women you’d like to meet there already, and ask to join them while you drink your beverage.  Most women won’t refuse you, and you can start chit-chatting with them after you sit down.

Ultimately, there are lots of great ways to meet women during your workout.  Just keep trying different methods until you find one that works for you.