How To Meet Women On The Internet

Let’s face reality – meeting women on the internet has become one of the fastest and easiest ways to start dating a multitude of women.

The stigma of dating over the internet has long faded away.  Today, its perfectly acceptable to turn to the internet to meet beautiful girls.

The only problem is… they’re not usually all that beautiful, are they?

Who hasn’t gone to sites like Match.com and eHarmony, gotten in touch with a girl who had a great picture in their profile, only to meet up with them and find out that picture was from 5 years and 100 pounds ago?

Meeting women on the internet isn’t hard.  But knowing how to meet women on the internet the RIGHT way is a skill few men have learned to master.

If you’re not worried about the quality of the women you meet, then just send out enough emails and you’ll get a number of women ranging from hideously ugly to butt-nut crazy ready and willing to date you.

But if you want to get a QUALITY girl, someone who’s mentally stable, attractive, and most of all – fun – then here are some tips you need to know about how to meet women on the internet.

TIP 1:  Be Extremely Specific About The Type Of Woman You Want To Meet.

Very few guys ever write in their profile what it is they are really looking for.  They either ignore this completely or keep it too general.

Here’s the thing though – if you are extremely clear and specific about the type of girl you’re looking to meet, it will actually GET those types of women to respond to you!

And contrary to popular believe, it won’t scare off too many girls who don’t fit the profile of the woman you want either.  Most women respect a guy who knows what he’s looking for, and they’ll contact you anyway hoping they can “broaden your horizons.”

It’s a very powerful thing to be specific with what you’re looking for in a girl.  Don’t be afraid to go into detail about how you want your girl to look and act.

TIP 2:  Explain What You’re NOT Looking For.

Telling people in your profile what you’re not looking for can be just as effective – if not more so – than telling people what you are looking for.

For instance, saying something like: “I am NOT into girls who like to be smacked around, so if you’re into abusive guys, please, do not contact me.”

In this instance, you’re actually using what you’re not looking for to communicate to girls reading your profile that you’re not someone who’s abusive, and this implies you respect women and would never hurt them.

But you’re phrasing it in such a way where you’re putting the girl in a position where she has to prove to YOU that she’s worthy of your time, and not the other way around.

This is a very powerful tactic.

TIP 3:  Don’t Include A Picture In Your Profile.

Profiles with pictures get a lot more searches than profiles without pictures, but I’ve found that if you’re the one contacting women (and let’s face it, very few women send out emails on these sites), it doesn’t matter if you don’t have a picture up.

In fact, it works out better.  Just say in your profile “I’m worried about some crazy girl on this site cyber-stalking me, so I’m not putting up a picture.  But if you email me, I’ll send one to you. Promise.”  That will be good enough for a response from a girl.

The key here is to let their imagination fill in the gaps of what you look like, and have the words in your profile be what attracts them to you as opposed to your picture.

This is a great technique for guys who maybe aren’t all that attractive, or are insecure about their looks.

TIP 4:  Sign Up For Multiple Dating Sites

Just like you wouldn’t just hang out in one bar or club to meet girls, you don’t want to hang out on just one website to meet girls either.  It’s always best to belong to multiple dating websites if you can, because it increases the number of women you can meet!

Here are some of the sites I like to use to meet women on the internet…

• MySpace
• Match.com
• eHarmony
• Plenty Of Fish
• Yahoo Personals
• OKCupid.com
• J-Date
• Craig’s List

Some of these sites are free, some you have to pay for, but all of them will get you results!

So don’t just limit yourself to one dating site.  Go for two or three if you can.

TIP 5:  Write Funny Emails

Humor is the most attractive thing you can do online.  Writing emails that aren’t the same old “hey, what’s up?” or boring emails like “I noticed you liked blah, blah, blah in your profile, I like blah, blah, blah too,” are very powerful.

And the easiest way to do that is to write emails that are light-hearted and funny.

Sending an email that says something like: “Hey, just wondering how many guys with half-naked pictures of themselves have contacted you today.  I’m taking a survey. (Don’t ask.)” can get a girl to respond to you instantly.

TIP 6:  Get The Girls On The Phone Quickly

Don’t spend too much time emailing back and forth.  People are very different over email than they are on the phone.  By the third email, you should be asking for her number.

Once you have the number, call her up and talk to her.  This is where you’ll find out if there’s some chemistry there, and if there is, you can go ahead and set up a time to meet.

The biggest mistake guys make is they wait too long to talk to a girl on the phone.  Don’t let this happen to you!  Understand that she’s probably getting contacted by lots of other guys, so if she’s a winner, you don’t want to lose her to someone else.

Work fast, and you’ll see some good results.

How To Meet Women After Divorce

Most guys who’ve gone through a divorce can be scared of betting back into the dating game.

After all, being in a marriage meant never having to actively go out and attract women.

Typically, guys who were good with women before getting married find that their skills with the ladies just “aren’t what thy used to be.” And guys who struggled until they found their (now ex) wives believe they’re going to struggle even worse now that they’re back on the market.

Add to that the fact that a freshly divorced man tends to be older, fatter, and balder than he was when he first got married, and his insecurities about his looks can actually prevent him from getting success with new women!

Luckily, meeting women after a divorce doesn’t have to be difficult. Here are some simple steps you can follow to help you start meeting more women right away…

STEP 1: Figure Out What You Want

Most guys don’t know how to get back into the dating game because they have no idea what they actually want! So before you even start thinking about meeting girls, figure out what your goals are.

Are you looking to get back into a serious relationship? Or do you just want something casual and fun? Do you want to get married again? Or do you want to enjoy being single for a while?

What about the type of woman you want? Would you be willing to date a single mom? Do you want to go after a younger woman? An older woman?

Think about what you want to have, and once you figure out what you’re looking for, you’ll find that you’ll be able to achieve it easier than if you had no idea what it was you wanted.

STEP 2: Set Aside Time To Meet New Women

The life of a freshly divorced man can be difficult and hectic. Maybe you had to move to a new place? Maybe you have to work harder to pay for alimony. Maybe you have kids and you have to spend time with them.

The list of things you have to deal with now that your single can be long and overwhelming. But if you want to meet a new woman, you must set aside time to focus on your dating life!

Give yourself a little bit of time every day to focus your energy and attention on meeting girls, and then set aside at least 1 or 2 days for a “date night,” or a night where you can actually go out with a woman you’ve met.

If you don’t make time for bringing women into your life, guess what? IT WON’T HAPPEN! So schedule accordingly.

STEP 3: Use Online Dating Services

If you’re nervous about getting back into the field, or you just want a fast way to start meeting women on your busy schedule, the internet is a great place to start.

Women online are actively looking for a great guy to date, so you know the girls you contact on these sites would be in the market. But more than that, it’s also extremely easy to meet lots of women! Just send them an email and see if they respond. It’s as simple as that.

STEP 4: Use Your Friends And Family

Don’t forget about the power of networking when it comes to meeting new women. Ask your friends and family members to introduce you to a woman they think would be a good match for you.

Some guys don’t like to go this route, because they don’t want to seem like they need help. But meeting a woman through friends and family is actually much easier than meeting a woman on your own, because you have a system in place to “build you up” before the girl ever meets you.

Having a female friend or your mother play matchmaker can be really beneficial. Just make sure you’re clear with the people helping you out what you are looking for in a woman.

STEP 5: Be Social

When you’re married, most of your social life revolves around your wife and family. However, after a divorce, you have to get out of the house and actively be social with other people.

Go to your kid’s soccer games or school events, and mingle with other single parents. Go to happy hour with your co-workers after you get off the job. Invite people to go to sporting events and movies with you.

Do whatever you can think of to get out of the house and mingle with other people. This is how you meet new women, or people who can introduce you to new women.

Here are some extra tips to help you out with your quest to meet a new girl to have in your life…

• Never talk bad about your ex-wife when you meet a new woman. This can come off as you being bitter with women, and could reflect badly on you. If the subject of your ex comes up, just say “There was a time when she was the light of my life, but now I’m moving on.” It’s better to be classy than bitter.
• Brush up on your conversation skills. Don’t be afraid to chat up a woman innocently. Ask questions, be interested in her. You don’t have to go for the date right away.
• Don’t worry about your age, weight, or bald spot. If you let these things bother you, they’ll lower your confidence and keep you from success with a girl. Better to focus on the reasons WHY a woman would be attracted to you than reasons why she WOULDN’T.
• Text messaging can be great for dating. Be sure to use texting to keep in touch with all the new women you meet. If you aren’t used to texting, learn to love it! It will really help you when setting up a date.
• Go after what you want. Don’t settle for a woman you don’t really like just because she’s convenient. Date as many women as it takes to find one that actually makes you happy.

Most of all, remember that dating is supposed to be fun and exciting! Try and have a good time meeting new people and being more social. If you’re not having fun, it’ll be hard to meet the right woman for you.

How To Meet Women On MySpace

One of the most popular online social networking websites operating today is MySpace.  Despite the popularity of other sites like Facebook and Twitter, MySpace is still going strong and isn’t going away anytime soon.

With a userbase of over 200 million members, MySpace is the perfect candidate to use in your efforts to meet women.  In fact, it’s one of the best resources available to guys looking to find women to date!

Why is this?

Because not only is MySpace free to use (a feature which ensures many, many women will use it), but MySpace actually augments, and to a certain extent, replaces the social lives of the women who use it!

What I mean by this is, women who use MySpace regularly depend on it to keep in touch with friends and fulfill their social needs.  A busy girl with no time for dating or going out with friends can still feel connected to people by logging onto MySpace, chatting, sending emails, and seeing updates from their friends.

Not only that, women on MySpace tend to skew younger, which means the average age for girls who use MySpace is between 18 and 30.  This actually makes meeting the women on MySpace a much easier task, because many of the women you’ll be contacting aren’t as jaded as women who’ve been playing the dating game for years.

On top of everything else, there’s a huge advantage to using MySpace to meet women because people don’t think of it as a “dating site,” therefore you’ll find lots of girls aren’t expecting guys to contact them and try and pick them up.

This means the barrier to meeting women is far less than a site that’s more of a “meat market,” like Match.com.  The reason for this is because girls on dating sites get deluged with emails from guys trying to “get with them.”  On MySpace, girls typically only get emails from people they know.

So here are a few easy steps you can follow to start meeting beautiful women on MySpace…

STEP 1:  Create A Profile

Creating a profile on MySpace is free and very easy to do.  In fact, the whole process will take you less than five minutes to complete.

STEP 2:  Fill Out Your Profile

Once your profile is created, you’ll want to put information about yourself on it.  Think of it like creating a profile for a dating site.  You’ll want to have a flattering picture of yourself, an interesting headline that will grab people’s attention, and some information about yourself and the type of woman you are looking to meet.

Be sure to include your interests in your profile.  This is a great way to give people conversation topics to chat with you about after checking out your profile.

You can also personalize your profile by changing the theme of your layout, adding music you like, adding videos you enjoy, and a whole host of other things to make your profile more personal.

STEP 3:  Add People You Know As Friends

After your profile is created, invite some people you know to become friends with you.  Having a small number of friends helps you look more “normal.”  It’s inadvisable to begin contacting women right away without having any friends yet, since this makes it look like you’re just trying to use the site to meet chicks (something that’s actually a turn off for most girls on MySpace!)

MySpace makes this easy by accessing your address book and sending out friend requests via email.  But be sure to only send an invite to people you feel comfortable letting see your profile!  You may want to uncheck coworkers and the like.

STEP 4:  Search For Women

MySpace has a great search feature that allows you to look for exactly the type of people you’d like to be “friends” with.  Just click the Search button, but be sure to use the “Advanced Search” option.

This will allow you to search based on gender, age, race, height, and most importantly, location!

I typically like to search for women, age 18-30, who are interested in dating, within 10 miles of my zip code.

The results you get should be numerous, especially if you live in or around a big city.  Simply browse through the pictures in the results, and find girls you think are attractive, and check out their profile pages.

STEP 5:  Contact Women

Once you find a profile you like, click the button to send them an email.  This is done through MySpace’s system.

Your email should be short, sweet, and most of all – fun and interesting!

Sending an email that just says “Hey what’s up?” won’t get you anywhere.  Instead, make your email one to two paragraphs, commenting on something about her and how well you think you’d get along.

So sending an email like:

“Hey, I was just checking through MySpace and stumbled across your profile.  You seem totally awesome!  Seriously, if you were living in the 80’s, you’d probably be ranked up there with Def Leopard and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, that’s how awesome your profile is, lol.

Anyway, we should chat.  Email me back and tell me what your favorite 80’s movie is, and we’ll compare notes.”

As you can see, the response above is short, interesting, somewhat humorous, and bound to get a girl’s attention.

Contact as many women as you like using this method.

STEP 6:  Follow Up

You’ll find most women you contact will begin to respond to you.  Continue to email back and forth, and even add them as a friend if you like them.  Allow them to get to know you.

Once enough rapport has been built up, you say you’re bored with email and ask them for their number so you can text them.

Telling them you’re going to text them as opposed to call them is important, because then they’ll be sure to give you their cell phone number, and they’re not committing to have to talk to you on the phone.  Most girls will be willing to share their cell phone number if you approach them like this.

Once you have the number, start texting, ask when a good time to chat is, and then call them up at the appropriate time to set up a date, or a get-together.

It’s really that simple to meet women on MySpace.  And you’ll find the quality of women, in terms of looks, is much better than most paid dating sites!

Here are some other quick tips to help you use MySpace to get dates…

• Download MySpace Messenger so you can chat with your friends and other women when you’re online.  IM sessions go a long way towards establishing rapport!
• Look through your friend’s friends to find girls you like.  Meeting through someone you both mutually know can make the transition to romance much easier than approaching a girl you don’t know.
• Dating is a numbers game, so try and meet as many women through MySpace as possible to maximize your chances of finding a winner.
• Ask women you meet throughout your life if they’re on MySpace, and get their email so you can add them as friends.  This is a great way to keep in touch and follow up with women you’re interested in.
• Don’t worry about messing things up with one girl.  There are so many women on MySpace, and new ones signing up every day, you’ll always have another chance to get things right.

Meeting women on MySpace can be fun, easy, and most of all – effective!  Instead of wasting your time on paid dating sites, give MySpace a shot and see what kind of results you can get.

How To Meet Women At The Gym

If you’re the type of guy who likes to work out and take care of yourself, then chances are you spend a lot of time at the gym.

In fact, it’s not unusual for guys to spend anywhere from an hour to two hours a day working out!

From personal experience, when I work out, I’ll be at the gym five days a week, alternating between an hour of cardio and an hour of weight training.

And that time at the gym adds up!  Some people even go further by joining classes, getting a personal trainer, and hanging out at the local juice bar.  So it’s no surprise that because some of us spend so much time at the gym, we’d like to know how to meet women there!

After all, it’s not just the fact that some guys spend a lot of time working out at the gym, there’s also the fact that some very attractive women spend a lot of time there too!  (In an effort to remain as attractive as possible, of course.)

But as much as it makes sense to try and meet girls during your workout, it can seem like a very daunting task!  But if you know a few simple tricks for meeting women at the gym, you might be surprised to find that it’s actually easier to do than you think.

Let’s go through the tips now…

TIP #1:  Taking Advantage Of Cardio

Typically, people will do cardio workouts for anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour.  Let’s face it, that’s a LONG time to do nothing but run in place!

If you see an attractive girl you’d like to meet doing cardio, see if you can get on a machine next to her to do your cardio.  This will give you the opportunity to start up a conversation with her.

You’ll be amazed at how easy it is to talk to someone when they’re doing a cardio workout, and that’s because cardio is BORING.  The girl will typically be watching closed-caption TV, flipping through a magazine, or listening to music on an iPod.  But talking to someone can pass the time just as fast, and as long as your approach is smooth, she’ll be more than willing to chat with you!

TIP #2:  Find Out Her Playlist

One of the biggest obstacles guys face at the gym is competing with iPods.  People like to listen to music when they work out, and seeing a pair of ear-plugs can scare you off from starting a conversation.

But I’ve found that actually asking the woman about the music she listens to when working out is a great way to not only get her to listen to you instead of music, but a good way to quickly bond with her over mutual interests.

The way I do it, is I’ll try and get the girl’s attention, either by waving at her or tapping her on her shoulder.  This will get her to pause her music and look at me.  Then I’ll say…

“Sorry to bother you, do you mind if I ask what music you’re listening to?”

When she give you her answer, you can respond:

“I’m getting kind of bored with my music, so I’m looking for some new stuff to listen to during my workout.  What kind of music do you think is the best to workout to?”

From there, I can start talking about favorite bands, concerts I’ve been to, etc.  It’s a great way to get her attention away from her iPod and focused on you!

TIP #3:  Offer Advice

Often times, you’ll see girls working out throughout the gym on various machines or weights.  A great way to start up conversations with them is to offer them advice or feedback on their form.

Just make sure that it’s “friendly” suggestions, and that you’re not telling them they’re doing things wrong.

People at the gym who work out without personal trainers usually have mistakes in how they are using machines or performing a certain exercise.  So if you can offer them some tips on how to make their workout more effective, they’ll actually really appreciate it!

And once you offer them your advice, you can start asking them about their training goals, and carry on the conversation from there.

This is a very effective way of meeting girls who are weight training.

TIP #4:  Join A Class

Most gyms offer a variety of classes you can sign up for.  These range from yoga, to spinning, to dancing, etc.

Here’s a tip – most of these classes are filled by a majority of WOMEN.  So taking a class can give you a tremendous opportunity to meet girls!

Not only that, but many classes can become social functions, and give you excuses to talk and chit-chat with girls.  I can’t tell you how many girls I’ve dated because I was the only guy in their class at the gym.

You’ll also notice a lot of the girls in your classes also work out at the gym, so you have a great way of meeting them if you see them in the general training area.  Just approach them and say “Hey, aren’t you in my spinning (or whatever) class?”

Seriously, it does not get much easier than that!

TIP #5:  Take Advantage Of The Juice Bar

Most gyms nowadays have some type of juice bar, or place where you can sit down and drink a protein shake or smoothy.  Take advantage of this when you’re trying to meet women at the gym!

There are two ways you can utilize a juice bar…

The first is to invite women you meet while working out to join you for a drink.  This is a great way to do an “instant date” after meeting a girl.  Instead of letting the girl just leave after she’s done working out, ask her if she’d be interested in grabbing a drink with you at the smoothy bar.

Then, sit down and chit-chat with her.  It’s just like getting coffee together, but much quicker and easier.

The second way to use the juice bar area is to actually see if there are any women you’d like to meet there already, and ask to join them while you drink your beverage.  Most women won’t refuse you, and you can start chit-chatting with them after you sit down.

Ultimately, there are lots of great ways to meet women during your workout.  Just keep trying different methods until you find one that works for you.