The Best Way To Deal With Rejection Is To Make Sure It Never Happens!

It’s probably the thing every guy hates the most when it comes to dealing with girls…

REJECTION.

Nothing stings more than having a pretty girl shoot you down.

After all, it takes a lot of effort to walk up to a girl you don’t know and start talking to her, right?

Well, here’s the good news – its COMPLETELY possible to avoid almost ALL rejection from women.

(And no, this has nothing to do with not talking to them to avoid rejection.  This is about meeting the girls you want, and getting them to respond positively to you!)

So let’s talk about how you can almost completely eliminate any and all rejection from women…

First of all, a disclaimer:  You can never 100% eliminate rejection.

There will always be girls out there who are mean, insensitive, and sadistic.  Maybe they’re having a bad day, or maybe they’re just not good people.  Either way, circumstances will cause them to reject you.

But guess what?  IT’S NO BIG DEAL!

Rejection happens.  You have to accept this if you ever want to have success in life.  The important thing is to not let it get to you.

See, rejection from girls STINGS because we unconsciously seek their approval.

We think to ourselves:  “If this hot girl is attracted to me, then I must be a person of value!”

Basically, we’re seeking to get an ego boost from the acceptance of pretty girls.

And when such a girl rejects us, in our mind, we’ve just gotten proof the opposite is true.  That we’re not desirable, or worth-while, or of value.

Because we were looking for the girl to give us some measure of self-esteem, and we were denied, we then beat ourselves up because we feel bad about ourselves.

That is how rejection works.

So what we want to do is MINIMIZE the chance of getting rejected as much as possible – not just to protect our self esteem, but to ensure the best possible chance of attracting the girl in question.

Here are a few strategies to do this…

1.  Be Truly Confident

The only way I know of to really take the sting out of rejection is to be truly confident.  This means believing in yourself and being secure about who you are, to the point where you don’t need validation from others to feel good about yourself.

A truly confident man likes who he is, faults and all, and doesn’t need others to feed his ego or bolster his self esteem.  He is the source of his own validation, and because of that, he can never really be rejected.

2.  Only Approach Girls Who Are Open To It

A big mistake guys make is approaching women who don’t want to be approached.

For whatever reason, they just don’t want to deal with being hit on.  Maybe they’re having a bad day, maybe they’re already in a relationship, maybe they’re feeling anti-social, or they’re sick, or whatever.

Either way – they don’t want to deal with guys trying to pick them up!

So if you DO approach them, they will try to shine you on and go about their day.  Some women will be nicer about it than others.  But the end result is the same – they will reject you.

In my course, The Art Of Approaching, I teach an extremely simple trick anyone can use to tell if a girl is open to being approached by you.  This is a technique I use all the time.

It helps you to zero in on girls who are less likely to reject you, so your interactions are almost always beneficial!

By eliminating the girls who aren’t open to being approached, you have a MUCH better chance of succeeding, and limit your exposure to rejection.

3.  Adjust Your Techniques To The Girl

If you’re able to get past the initial approach successfully, this is where most guys mess up.  They will try to pick up on a girl, without paying any attention to what she responds to.

Every woman is different, and responds to different things.  An approach that works well with one girl may not work well with another.

For example, some girls love it when you come up to them and are very direct with your interest.  You can say things like “You’re the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen and I just wanted to meet you,” and they will love it!

But if you try that on another type of girl, they may think you’re “creepy” or “a liar” or “a player.”  You just never know until you begin talking to the girl what she responds to.

The biggest thing to remember when meeting a woman is to PAY ATTENTION.

Is she smiling at you?  Is she laughing at your jokes?  Does she look interested in what you’re talking about?

Too often, guys are just focused on what they are saying, and not on what the girl is reacting to.  And because of this, they keep heading down the wrong path until the girl removes herself from the conversation.

In my course, I try very hard to teach guys not only how to pay attention to the girl, but how to read her responses and adjust their strategy to ensure that she remains interested in you.  In fact, in the Advanced version of my course, I even talk about how to think strategically so you can tailor your approach to any girl in any situation.

And it’s really not that hard to do, once you know what to look for and put it into practice.

So if you want to learn these strategies to eliminate almost all rejection from women, go check out the Art Of Approaching course here:

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Once you get rid of rejection from women, meeting them becomes fun and exciting!  And dare I say… EASY!

So what are you waiting for?  Eliminate rejection from your life once and for all!

And as always, I love hearing from my readers.  So please, be sure to leave your questions and creative responses in the comment area below.

In fact, it’s not unusual for guys to spend anywhere from an hour to two hours a day working out!

From personal experience, when I work out, I’ll be at the gym five days a week, alternating between an hour of cardio and an hour of weight training.

And that time at the gym adds up!  Some people even go further by joining classes, getting a personal trainer, and hanging out at the local juice bar.  So it’s no surprise that because some of us spend so much time at the gym, we’d like to know how to meet women there!

After all, it’s not just the fact that some guys spend a lot of time working out at the gym, there’s also the fact that some very attractive women spend a lot of time there too!  (In an effort to remain as attractive as possible, of course.)

But as much as it makes sense to try and meet girls during your workout, it can seem like a very daunting task!  But if you know a few simple tricks for meeting women at the gym, you might be surprised to find that it’s actually easier to do than you think.

Let’s go through the tips now…

TIP #1:  Taking Advantage Of Cardio

Typically, people will do cardio workouts for anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour.  Let’s face it, that’s a LONG time to do nothing but run in place!

If you see an attractive girl you’d like to meet doing cardio, see if you can get on a machine next to her to do your cardio.  This will give you the opportunity to start up a conversation with her.

You’ll be amazed at how easy it is to talk to someone when they’re doing a cardio workout, and that’s because cardio is BORING.  The girl will typically be watching closed-caption TV, flipping through a magazine, or listening to music on an iPod.  But talking to someone can pass the time just as fast, and as long as your approach is smooth, she’ll be more than willing to chat with you!

TIP #2:  Find Out Her Playlist

One of the biggest obstacles guys face at the gym is competing with iPods.  People like to listen to music when they work out, and seeing a pair of ear-plugs can scare you off from starting a conversation.

But I’ve found that actually asking the woman about the music she listens to when working out is a great way to not only get her to listen to you instead of music, but a good way to quickly bond with her over mutual interests.

The way I do it, is I’ll try and get the girl’s attention, either by waving at her or tapping her on her shoulder.  This will get her to pause her music and look at me.  Then I’ll say…

“Sorry to bother you, do you mind if I ask what music you’re listening to?”

When she give you her answer, you can respond:

“I’m getting kind of bored with my music, so I’m looking for some new stuff to listen to during my workout.  What kind of music do you think is the best to workout to?”

From there, I can start talking about favorite bands, concerts I’ve been to, etc.  It’s a great way to get her attention away from her iPod and focused on you!

TIP #3:  Offer Advice

Often times, you’ll see girls working out throughout the gym on various machines or weights.  A great way to start up conversations with them is to offer them advice or feedback on their form.

Just make sure that it’s “friendly” suggestions, and that you’re not telling them they’re doing things wrong.

People at the gym who work out without personal trainers usually have mistakes in how they are using machines or performing a certain exercise.  So if you can offer them some tips on how to make their workout more effective, they’ll actually really appreciate it!

And once you offer them your advice, you can start asking them about their training goals, and carry on the conversation from there.

This is a very effective way of meeting girls who are weight training.

TIP #4:  Join A Class

Most gyms offer a variety of classes you can sign up for.  These range from yoga, to spinning, to dancing, etc.

Here’s a tip – most of these classes are filled by a majority of WOMEN.  So taking a class can give you a tremendous opportunity to meet girls!

Not only that, but many classes can become social functions, and give you excuses to talk and chit-chat with girls.  I can’t tell you how many girls I’ve dated because I was the only guy in their class at the gym.

You’ll also notice a lot of the girls in your classes also work out at the gym, so you have a great way of meeting them if you see them in the general training area.  Just approach them and say “Hey, aren’t you in my spinning (or whatever) class?”

Seriously, it does not get much easier than that!

TIP #5:  Take Advantage Of The Juice Bar

Most gyms nowadays have some type of juice bar, or place where you can sit down and drink a protein shake or smoothy.  Take advantage of this when you’re trying to meet women at the gym!

There are two ways you can utilize a juice bar…

The first is to invite women you meet while working out to join you for a drink.  This is a great way to do an “instant date” after meeting a girl.  Instead of letting the girl just leave after she’s done working out, ask her if she’d be interested in grabbing a drink with you at the smoothy bar.

Then, sit down and chit-chat with her.  It’s just like getting coffee together, but much quicker and easier.

The second way to use the juice bar area is to actually see if there are any women you’d like to meet there already, and ask to join them while you drink your beverage.  Most women won’t refuse you, and you can start chit-chatting with them after you sit down.

Ultimately, there are lots of great ways to meet women during your workout.  Just keep trying different methods until you find one that works for you.