How To Meet Women

Looks like Speed-Dating is getting down to the nitty gritty… guys looking for hot chicks, girls looking for MONEY.  Read the following, if you can stomache it.

Jan. 25, 2007— Jimmy Cyrus is a 25-year-old New York City bachelor who works 16-hour days.

He also happens to be wealthy, an asset that makes him eligible for the upcoming “Natural Selection” speed-dating event open only to “rich guys” and “hot girls.”

Cyrus, who works in real estate, is one of nearly 150 well-to-do single men in the running for the Feb. 7 Manhattan matchmaking event.

If he makes the cut, the ticket costs $500. But for that steep a fee Cyrus may have a chance to meet Heather Tierney, a 27-year-old entrepreneur living in New York, who has also applied to attend the matchmaking event. If the Indianapolis native is chosen, her entrance fee is just $30.

Speed-dating is nothing new. For the past few years, single Americans have spent evenings in bars getting paired up with other singletons in four- to eight-minute “dates.”

But the upcoming “Natural Selection” gathering puts a spin on the trend by reinforcing some age-old ideas about relationships: Men go for looks, and women prowl for money.

Yes, let’s bring out the most shallow possible needs of our customers!  Jeesh.  Personally, I see this as a HUGE disaster for the men who participate in this sucker.  I mean, if all you want is a hot chick who’s after money, why not just hire an escort?  It’s New York, you know you could find a high class one who’d be happy to give you sex for your fat wallet.

At least with the escort, you’re bank account is somewhat protected.  The girls who’d go to these things looking for rich guys could verry well be looking to entrap some poor sod.  They’ll either lead him on while milking him dry, or worse, get knocked up and have a piece of his paycheck FOREVER!

*shudder*

It’s true - money can’t buy you love.  It CAN buy you sex, though.  So if that’s all you’re after, why pay $500 to go to a freakin SPEED DATING event?  Spend that $500 on a sure thing.  Or better yet, get some nice new clothes with that money, and go out and meet a woman on your own!

I get the feeling there are going to be a lot of men taken advantage of at this event.  But that’s what you get for celebrating the worst people have to offer.

Some guy who writes a blog called (gayly enough) Sticky Butter write a diatribe about how he believes all men are a *little* gay.

I would like to start off by saying the opinions expressed in this post are not the opinions of all men. Probably not the opinions of all women either. It is however, the bold opinion of the man writing this post, me. Now why in hell would I be thinking such…I’ll say nonsense for arguement sake, in the first place. The answer…I really don’t have one. Not one that would make reasonable sense. It may be a cummulation of observations that I have stored away for such a moment as this one. Or it could be solely because of the middle aged gentleman I caught taking a peak at the hardware before I hit the shower after a long workout. Whatever the reason, who’s to say I am completely off base here. Is what I am going to say controversial? Maybe. Uninformed? Maybe. Truthful? Maybe. It could be all three and more for all I know. But what I do know is that it is an interesting idea.

Take for instance, the simple act of peeing in a public urinal. Gentlemen, you know the usual scene. Man walks in and pisses in the short urinal instead of the big boy one that is right next to you. Why? For what reason? To more efficiently fight the urge to look at your junk out of the corner of his eye to see what your holding? Chances are he will do it anyway because men are wired in a way that makes us very competitive. And the size of your “member” seems to be a big determinant of your manhood. Personally, I find it pretty easy to look down and away or straight ahead at the wall, but I to have fell to the temptation to sneak a peak just like the rest of you. Does it make you gay? Well…no. A little gay? Yeah maybe.

Not yet convinced that all of us may have a little gay in us? (Pun not intended) Think on this thought. You are going to have to swallow (again, not intended) your pride and ego on this one. Somewhere during your life time you have wondered what it would be like to kiss another guy. You don’t have to admit it out loud if you don’t want to. But dammit if it ain’t true. Now the thought alone does not make you gay or bi-sexual unless you act on it, or in a movie where your getting boo-coo dollars to do it (Brokeback Mountain). But does it make you a little gay? Yeah maybe.

Still unconvinced? How about the infamous prank known to all men as Tea-bagging. What is not gay about dropping your nuts on another man’s chin? Should I mention Brown-nosing? Not only is that gay, its raunchy gay. Now we’ve all done them. And are they a little gay? Yeah maybe. [Sidebar: Guys also think that fucking a guy in the ass is not gay because you are not receiving it, or receiving a blow job from another guy is not gay because you are not performing that act. Just to clear all that up. No matter how you try to reason them out, both are very gay. You are gay. Deal with it.]

If you are still not convinced, you are probably a narrow-minded homophobic douchbag. But here I go. One more reason why you are probably a little gay. Porno. We all watch it, we all love it. Nothing is better to watch than some chick getting face fucked, ass raped, gangbanged, or pussy plowed over and over again. Unless of course it’s you doing all those things. [Disclaimer: Actually face fucking, ass raping, gangbanging and pussy plowing another human being without proper consent is wrong and I do not personally condon those actions] Now here’s the gay factor. Do you want to watch some dude with a pencil thin dick doing all those things you dream you could do just once? No fucking way! You want the guy strapped with a Colt .45 handling that business. Is that a little gay? Yeah maybe.

So there you have it. A few reasons why, if you think about it, you may just be a little gay.

The author of this post is not gay. He has never had a gay encounter. He is fiance’d to a beautiful woman whom he loves dearly. But does this post make him a little gay? Yeah maybe.

Not that there’s anywthing WRONG with that… =)
On a side note - I have never, nor have I ever met anyone - who has “teabaged” another guy. Nor have I ever heard of “brown nosing” another dude in the context this guy is using it. But I think it’s pretty obvious that if you do ANYTHING with your junk or ass that has to do with another guy, that’s pretty darn gay.

I think this blog post was inspired by that scene from the 40 Year Old Virgin where the guys are spouting out reasons why each other is gay. Like “Know how I know you’re gay? I once saw you bake a loaf of bread with cheese in it.” That’s what this sounds like. “Want to know how I know you’re gay? Because I once saw you dip your balls on another man’s chin.”

Personally, I think some of this guy’s logic is flawed.  Like the porno stuff.  So you see another guy’s dick… big deal.  Is looking at a dick while you’re focusing on the woman gay?  Not in my book.  And what if the only porno you watch is lesbian?  Is that still gay since there are no dicks around?  Maybe I’m just a homophobic douchbag, but I think intention has a lot to do with truly being “homosexual.”  But if you’re using “gay” as an adjective to describe situations and things, then yeah, I guess we’ve all been accidentally gay before.

(Not that there’s anything wrong with that! =)

Looks like the creaters of Viagra are about to get rammed themselves…

NEW YORK (AFP) - A leading American AIDS group said it was suing Pfizer, the producer of Viagra, accusing the company of increasing the spread of sexually-transmitted diseases through “irresponsible” marketing.

AIDS Healthcare Foundation, the largest AIDS healthcare, prevention and education provider in the United States, accused Pfizer of deliberately pitching the erectile-dysfunction drug at men who did not need it.

“Pfizer’s direct to consumer marketing of Viagra as a drug to enhance sexual performance is primarily aimed at men who don’t necessarily suffer from a clinical diagnosis of erectile dysfunction,” the group’s president, Michael Weinstein, said in a statement.

“We believe it is not only irresponsible, but also illegal, especially in light of the drug’s known use as part of a ‘circuit party cocktail’ of drugs that is fueling the spread of STDs and HIV,” he added.

Viagra has become increasingly popular on the club circuit to counteract the side effect of erectile dysfunction associated with the use of party drugs such as ecstasy, amphetamine and crystal methamphetamine.

The case is being brought under a Californian law and accuses Pfizer of “unlawful, unfair and fraudulent business practices.”

The lawsuit alleges that Pfizer’s “unlawful and deceptive marketing of its erectile dysfunction drug Viagra has caused an increase in the spread of sexually transmitted diseases including, but not limited to, HIV/AIDS.”

It further accuses Pfizer of maintaining its marketing strategy despite what the group says is “clear evidence of its illegality and harmful effects.”

Weinstein said the lawsuit was aimed to force Pfizer to stop advertising the medication “in the reckless manner it has been doing” and require the company to undertake a public information campaign about the alleged risks of Viagra.

The lawsuit specifically outlines what the AIDS Healthcare Foundation calls “the increased risks of transmission of sexually transmitted diseases associated with using Pfizer’s Viagra.”

Pfizer dismissed the allegations, saying in a statement that its advertising made clear Viagra does not protect against sexually transmitted diseases, while rejecting claims it was promoting the recreational use of the drug.

“Pfizer does not promote Viagra for recreational use. We have always been committed to safe and appropriate use of Viagra for the treatment of erectile dysfunction,” the statement said.

“Pfizer recognizes that the transmission of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases is a significant public health issue,” it added.

In late 2005, the AIDS Healthcare Foundation demanded Pfizer withdraw an advertising campaign that suggested using Viagra to ring in the new year.

“What are you doing New Year’s Eve?,” said the advertisement, which appeared in national newspapers, showing a middle-aged man with greying hair.

“It is an outrage that, by referencing the biggest party night of the year, Pfizer would employ an advertising strategy that encourages the use of Viagra as a ‘party drug’,” Weinstein said at the time.

Viagra appeared on the market in 1998 and has since earned Pfizer billions of dollars in sales.

But despite being the world’s biggest drugmaker in terms of revenues, Pfizer is currently suffering as generic drugmakers pump out rivals to some of its best-selling medications and on Monday unveiled 10,000 job cuts.

Well, I guess it would make sense that a drug designed to help people have sex would lead to the spread of AIDS and other STDs… but c’mon! Viagra as a party drug? Puh-lease.

I know lots of guys out there who’ve suffered from “That cheating bitch” syndrome who would dance with joy at hearing this…

DETROIT, United States (AFP) - Philanderers beware: spouses caught cheating in Michigan could end up spending the rest of their life in prison.

And not the emotional kind.

The state’s appeals court recently ruled that extramarital flings can be prosecuted as first-degree criminal sexual conduct, a felony punishable by up to life in jail.

“We cannot help but question whether the Legislature actually intended the result we reach here today,” Judge William Murphy wrote in a unanimous Court of Appeals panel, “but we are curtailed by the language of the statute from reaching any other conclusion.”

“Technically,” he added, “any time a person engages in sexual penetration in an adulterous relationship, he or she is guilty of CSC I,” the most serious sexual assault charge in the state’s criminal code.

Michigan still lists adultery as a felony, although no one has been convicted of the offense since 1971.

This is pretty scary.  I bet if more states listed adultery as a felony, you’d see a LOT less cheating going on.

Well, it looks like colleges are wanting to see more ladies in the geek labs…

ATLANTA - Georgia Tech freshman Val Uyemura caught a glimpse of her future even before she started classes in electrical engineering. “When I went to orientation, they split us up by major and I was the only woman,” Uyemura said.

Uyemura, 18, whose parents have engineering degrees, is one of 87 women out of 855 engineering majors enrolled at the school. Nationally, women make up only about one-fifth of students in engineering programs.

Experts argue that if the United States is to remain competitive with other countries in the engineering field, it will have to find better ways to encourage women to join the profession.

“One of the reasons has to do with the negative stereotype in engineering — the nerd drinking Cokes and eating Twinkies until 3 in the morning,” said William Wulf, president of the National Academy of Engineering. “The really important attribute of an engineer is creativity. Somehow that’s not what high school girls are hearing about.”

The U.S. lags behind countries such as China and India in producing engineers and scientists out of college each year, and women and minorities are key to improving that standing, Wolf said. They bring the diverse perspectives needed for the innovation that can set the U.S. apart, he said.

A 2003 study by the University of Michigan’s Institute for Research on Women and Gender found that females choose other careers because they don’t see engineering as a way to help others. The study, conducted over 17 years, followed Michigan students from 6th grade through college and beyond.

Georgia Tech offers annual engineering camps for middle- and high-school girls, and the university’s students and alumni regularly visit schools to talk to science and math classes. A mentoring program also connects female engineering majors in their third and fourth years with freshmen who want to major in engineering.

Still, female enrollment hasn’t changed much at the Atlanta university in the last decade, and programs elsewhere meant to encourage women to join the field have generally proven ineffective.

Personally, I think this is a great initiative.  More female engineers means more male engineers get a chance to hook up.  And then they can create really smart offspring that go on to invent all kinds of cool stuff!  It’s win-win!

So the train wreck that was once Brittany Spears continues…

Little after they went public about their romance, Britney Spears is giving her man, Isaac Cohen, a lesson on how celebrities like to spend their time.

According to recent reports, the fresh couple has been spotted spending their time in the Hugh Hefner suite of a Las Vegas hotel on Saturday night.

Although Britney claimed she was there with work purposes, sources confirmed to People magazine that the two stayed in the Fantasy Tower wing of The Palms hotel where a room costs as much as $40,000 a night.

The luxurious suite with amazing views boasts a jacuzzi pool, a glass elevator, an eight-foot rotating bed and a fully stocked bar.

A source who spotted the couple told People: “They seem very happy together.”

Britney Spears and model-actor Isaac Cohen were seen dancing and smoking cigarettes at gay nightclub 81/2 for about an hour before returning to their luxury suite.

Not so long ago, rumors were the pop singer was negotiating a 20-week, $15 million exclusive performance contract with Palms Hotel and Casino in Vegas so this might be part of the deal.

According to Page Six, Britney is far from shy when it comes to showing up in public with her boyfriend. Britney Spears took her new love to the opening of the Sideways Restaurant & Lounge in L.A. Thursday night.

The pair “ordered tons of the kobe sliders and Louisiana crab cakes,” said a source, who added, “They drank a lot of vodka cranberry cocktails.” The couple then made out at the table for all to see, “engaging in major public displays of affection.”

Last week, Britney and her K-Fed look-alike were seen cruising around Marina del Ray, California, on a private powerboat. The next night they met up at the W Hotel’s Whiskey Blue bar in Westwood.

Britney, who filed for divorce from Kevin Federline in November, and Isaac have been dating for a month now and it looks like they’re making progress.

The Las Vegas trip was Britney’s first appearance after hosting a New Year’s Eve bash at the Pure nightclub where she reportedly fainted from too much alcohol although her representatives denied the rumors.

Not only has she popped out two kids to the world’s biggest trailer trash “baby daddy,” but she’s apparently a plastic surgery addict AND a hard drinker, smoker, partier.  If she’s lucky, she’ll end up looking like Tara Reid.  If she isn’t, she’ll end up looking like this.

That’s the problem with party girls.  Once they get older, their partying starts to show. Brittany ain’t so sexy no more.

So I found this interesting news article about a guy who wanted to take on his wife’s last name, instead of the traditional “other way around.” Check it out.

LOS ANGELES - Mike Buday isn’t married to his last name. In fact, he and his fiancee decided before they wed that he would take hers. But Buday was stunned to learn that he couldn’t simply become Mike Bijon when they married in 2005.

As in most other states, that would require some bureaucratic paperwork well beyond what a woman must go through to change her name when marrying.

Instead of completing the expensive, time-consuming process, Buday and his wife, Diana Bijon, enlisted the
American Civil Liberties Union and filed a discrimination lawsuit against the state of California. They claim the difficulty faced by a husband seeking to change his name violates the equal protection clause of the 14th Amendment.

“Diana and I feel strongly about gender equality for both men and women,” Buday said. “I think the most important thing in all of this is to bring it to a new level of awareness.”

Mark Rosenbaum, legal director of the ACLU in Southern California, said it is the first federal lawsuit of its kind in the country. “It’s the perfect marriage application for the 17th century,” Rosenbaum said. “It belongs in the same trash can as dowries.”

Isn’t a Buday that thing that squirts water into your ass? No wonder he wanted it changed.

Anyway, this is the ultimate example of being pussy-whipped. Just because ONE DUDE out there is gay enough to give up his last name, means that we have to have some type of legal battle to make it cool for EVERY guy out there to cut his balls off at will. Jeesh.

Suck it up, man! So what if your kids will be made fun of in French Class! Stand by your heritage! Pussy.

So I ran across an article by a guy named David Zinczenko who keeps a blog about the “Mysteries of the Sexes” over on Yahoo, and he had a really interesting article about how men are just as concerned about how they look as women.  Check the snippage…

David Zinczenko writes:
But the truth is that men care almost as much about their appearance as Lindsay Lohan cares about New Year’s Eve. The survey I did for my book Men, Love & Sex showed that 9 in 10 men aren’t satisfied with their appearance — and that they’d jump at the chance at changing one particular part of their body if they could. Consider these truths about men and their appearance — and then ask yourself, Who’s really more vain, women…or men?

* Women may buy more shoes, but men drop the big bucks. When asked how much he’d pay for rock-hard abs (if it was only that easy), the average guy would invest $5,000 of his own money in himself. For movie-star looks in general, he’d drop $17,600. The scary fact: Although more women actually pay for cosmetic enhancements, men who seek medical help for their appearance are twice as likely to opt for an invasive cosmetic procedure like liposuction rather than a non-invasive appearance boost.

* Men care more about their boobs than you do. Check this out: Only 34 percent of women surveyed said they’d want bigger breasts, but 38 percent of men said they’d want larger pectoral muscles. (If you were wondering, the circumference of the average man’s chest is two inches larger than that of a woman’s.) Men either have the pecs that are strong enough to break knuckles, or we’re subjected to the ubiquitous man-boob barbs. And that hurts. Beating pecs as the top male body issue by the tiniest of jiggles: Just over 40 percent of guys say the gut is the No. 1 body part they’d like to change.

* $1.1 billion can buy a lot of hair gel. One of a man’s biggest frets comes when he looks down the shower drain and says goodbye to the mane that defines his manhood. American men spend more than $300 million on toupees annually. And $800 million on hair transplants (up to $20,000 for each procedure, which is performed on more than 24,000 men annually-and just 7,000 women).

Personally, I don’t think this is a vanity thing, I think it’s an INSECURITY thing.  I’d say that 99% of everything guys do is based around getting a hot chick to sleep with them, and because of our culture, we feel pressure to look a certain way.

I think most guys would be content to be fat, man-boobed, bald slobs if they could still get laid by a hot chick every night.

I’ll say this though - as if I haven’t said it a million times already - looks are NOT as important as many guys think.  It is important to look the best you possibly can, but fretting over your hair, chest size, or whatever is a poor waste of your time.  If you’re going bald, shave your head and be proud of it!  (Bald men are supposed to be extremely verile, after all, and baldness is a look.  Just grow some facial hair to offset it!) If you’re overweight, work to get in shape, but know that having a gut won’t be the end of the world.

I’m sure if you got rid of TV and Magazines telling us what we have to look like, a lot of this “vanity” stuff would go away.

Okay, so lots of guys out there use Myspace to meet women.  In fact, my cousin met his current girlfriend through Myspace, and I know more than a few PUAs who use Myspace to hook up with numerous girls.  It’s a great website.

But it has it’s drawbacks.

Lately I’ve been getting a flood of friend requests from super-hot girls.  But when I would go to check out their profiles, a blue screen would pop up with a friendly picture of Tom on there, asking me to download the “Free Myspace Browser” so I could view some good old fashioned adult content.

I thought this thing was legit, mostly due to the picture of Tom on it, until my spider-sense started tingling.  So I went to Google and did a search on this free browser I needed to download, and sure enough - it was EVIL!

Apparently, had I downloaded and installed this free browser, my computer would have instantly been inundated with adware.  Grrrrr!

So I did a bit more checking, and found out that Myspace has been targeted by hackers and spammers as a way to get to people, and that since most of this stuff comes through your “friends” profiles, people aren’t as warey as they usually are.

Check out this article on myspace spam for more info.

If you use Myspace, beware.

I got an email from a reader who can’t be bothered with taking time to memorize stuff.  And I can’t say I blame him…

Some of David D stuff has worked well and my dating success has improved…. but your right it only works for a little while and I just want to be me (I’m an interesting person in any case)

In saying that I love your concepts and look forward to learning them ONLY if it doesnt involve me having to write shit down and say it morning and night. (you know what I’m saying?) I just couldn’t be bothered doing that as I’m not a routine type person.

So I guess my questions are: Does Renegade Rapport involve NLP as mentioned, and is it really easy to use and apply (and I mean EASY!).

Cheers for your reply in advance,

Gary,
Coolum Beach Qld Australia.

Hi Gary,

I’m right there with ya, bro.  I HATE to sit down, memorize things, and write stuff out.  That’s why I developed the system I did.

See, I have an insanely short attention span.  I’m the type of guy who used to go cross-eyed in school lectures and spend his time doodling in his notebook.

In short:  I DON’T THINK Seduction should be a chore!

I mean, honestly, who wants to have to get a PhD in psychology just to get laid?

That’s why I set out to develop the system I did.  Because I didn’t want to have to spend my time memorizing patterns, routines, and comebacks.  I wanted to spend my time going out and MEETING CHICKS!

The upcoming Renegade Rapport product does have some NLP applications taught in it, but it’s more concept based.

Because of this, it is SUPER EASY to do.  To quote a Gyko commercial - even a caveman could do it! (Though I hear they have their own method of pick-up, lol)

Renegade Rapport is about learning how to connect with people, and in that regard, it’s about practical application, rather than memorization.

Understand:  I’m a lazy bastard!  The other systems were too time consuming for me.  I think Mystery Method is amazing, but I don’t like trying to figure out “Okay, is now the time I transition from C2 to S1?” when I’m talking to a girl.

I’ve found the Renegade Rapport and Self-Mastery Method to be much easier for me to grasp and apply.  I can’t promise it won’t take you some time to learn, but I can promise it won’t be as intensive as other courses out there.

If you can understand a few basic concepts, you should be able to easily apply these methods in any interaction.

If you want to learn more about Renegade Rapport and the Self-Mastery Method, click here.

I got a rather interesting question from a reader who is wondering about what direction the seduction community will be taking in 2007.  I found it quite intriguing, especially since I personally believe that 2007 is going to see a shift away from a lot of what has become “standard fare” in the seduction community, and will move towards more “natural” methods of attraction.

I have a question I’m hoping you could answer.

From my perspective Neil Strauss understands the “training wheels” theory of using routines to develop the natural ability to communicate and attract women. I’m troubled though by the over-exposure and almost disturbing obsession with certain routines found in The Game like Jealous Girlfriend which Neil Strauss is still promoting.

The evolution in the community seems to be headed towards natural game in the style of Juggler. I’ve even heard rumors that Tyler Durden’s long anticipated Blueprint E-Book will ditch routines and instead focus on how to become a “cool” guy who has appropriate social skills not just with women but with everybody.

I’m just wondering if you had any thoughts regarding this in relation to your product which ditches the community’s long held focus on routines. Is this truly the future of the community?

Take care,
John

Hi John,

I can tell you this…

I do agree with Neil Strauss that pre-canned routines can be great training wheels for guys new to dating and seduction, because it helps them to get out and actually INTERACT with women.

I know when I first started trying to improve my skills with women - this was my bread and butter.

I had something like 15 routines memorized and ready to go.  I’d spend hours making up my own stuff and testing it out.

Having something to say to a girl can sometimes be the difference between success and failure - especially when you’re just starting out.

I don’t see the pre-canned stuff ever going away.  If one type of routine gets too well known, as you seem to think the Jealous Girlfriend is, a new one will always pop up to replace it.  That’s the nature (and beauty) of the technology.

Out with what doesn’t work, in with what does!

But I would have to agree with you that I feel the new method I am trying to popularize is going to be the future of the community.

(For those of you wondering about this new method, check this link out.)

I won’t be so arrogant as to say it definitely WILL be, but I’m hoping it is, because I feel it’s a much more natural way of teaching men seduction.

The success I have had with it has been very encouraging to me - especially since I’ve basically tried out every system there is out there.

The Renegade Rapport product is actually going to be the next building block off the Art Of Approaching, so it doesn’t do away with pre-canned material entirely, but it does take the focus off routines and more on genuine interaction between two people.

The seduction community has always tried to emulate the “natural seduction” methods of guys who just seem to be able to attract women wherever.

I’d even go so far as to say that more so than Juggler (and definitely more so than Tyler Durden), Zan over at enlightenedseduction.com has mastered this process.

And I think that when people see Renegade Rapport for themselves, they’ll have an even better understanding of how a natural truly operates.

Okay, so when I heard there were pictures out there of Brittany Spears showing off her junk, I gotta admit… I was curious.

I mean, who wouldn’t be, right?  After all, she is a music superstar with a “goody two shoes” image.  The whole “good girl gone bad” thing can be pretty hot.  Plus I wanted to know if having 2 kids had changed things for her.  Actually, i was more curious as to if K-Fed changed things for her.  But judging from these pictures, I can’t really tell:

Brittany Spears With No Underwear.

So now we’ve seen Brittany and Paris in all their Glory.  If we can get images of Lindsey Lohan, we’d have the holy trinity of celebrity nudity here!

Someone from the eHarmony blog picked up on my review about the dating website.  Check it…

eHarmony Blog Writes:
What shall I say to this? This reviewer believes that eHarmony is not for “charming dudes” at all!

(Snip…)

He’s in the wrong website.

If by “wrong website,” the blogger means “Website where it’s really, really hard to meet a good girl,” then he/she’s probably right.

I don’t believe the site is for “charming dudes.”  I believe the site is not for ANY dudes.  At all.  Most men (ie:  Those who aren’t male models who are looking to hook up with a hot chick) would have better luck on other dating sites.  eHarmony has a HUGE repository of unattractive women, and their clunky communication process makes it very hard to interest any girls you might find interesting on there.

If eHarmoney was a free site, it would be one thing.  But it isn’t!  It’s a pay site.  So you’re spending hard earned money to meet butt-ugly women (for the most part).  I’m not saying eHarmoney won’t work for guys.  I’m sure there is some measure of success there.  However, being quite an average looking guy myself, I can go on 4-5 dates with women from Match.com and Yahoo Personals in the time it takes for me to be ALLOWED to email 1 chick from eHarmony.

Dating’s a number’s game, and eHarmony is rigged to favor the women.  So the blogger above is right, the site is DEFINITELY not for me.

I found the ultimate dating site for rich guys who don’t want to waste their time…

SeekingArrangement.com

This is just WAY too funny!  In a way, it’s kind of like a more honest Millionaire Match website.  Basically, you sign up as either a rich man or woman, or a man or woman looking for a sugar daddy/mommy.  In your profile, you state how much you’re willing to pay or accept for a beneficial “arrangement.”

It’s pretty much an escort site for old men and hot young women.  But I will say this — the girls on the site appear to be quite attractive!  Most of them seem to be based in New York or Canada, and they look to be either college students or models.  The prices range from “I want a jaguar!” to “Give me $2K a month and I’ll be happy.”  The girls list what they’re willing to do in exchange for their sugar daddy’s attention, but for the most part, you can guess they’re willing to whore themselves out for the green at the end of the day.

I haven’t signed up for this service (lord knows I don’t make nearly enough money to be anyone’s sugar daddy), but if there are any rich readers out there who want to give it a shot and report back to me on how it is, please feel free!  I think the service is free to sign up with.

At last — some honesty in online dating!  lol.

Donovan has a rather interesting field report up on his blog.

The reason its interesting is because it’s not only a report from the guy who did the pick-up, but it also get’s the girl who got picked-up’s point of view.

Here’s my favorite part, where she’s writing about her experience:

Her: First of all, let me tell you something about myself. I’m not your typical shy, submissive asian girl. On the contrary, guys are intimidated by me. I’m very sensible and i’m very proud of my logical brain.

Usually with guys, i can sense the bullshit coming miles away. I tend to be very dismissive of guys’ so-called “lines.” And i thought i was immune to pick-ups. that is, until i met Sean. He blew me away and i was just too taken aback to react with my “logical brain.”

And one more thing, about the time that this happened, i was a little upset about boys, the last thing i want is to date one.

This just goes to show what we in the dating advice industry say all along…

THIS STUFF WORKS.

This girl thought she was “pick up proof,” which is kind-of silly, since every guy she’s ever been with has picked her up in some way, shape, or form.  Her mentality wasn’t even that of a girl who was INTERESTED in being with a guy!

But when you use the right techniques, you can completely overcome that - whether she doesn’t like your looks, or your lifestyle, or anything like that.  It can be overcome.

The whole point of these dating tactics that I teach is about by-passing a girl’s logical/critical factors, and dealing specifically with her emotional mind.  When guys don’t do this, that’s when her “bullshit alarm” goes off.  But when you’re able to connect with her in such a way where you can access her emotions, they completely BYPASS her logical mind saying - “YES! YES!  I WANT THIS!”

The proof is in the pudding.  Just read what she said!  It’s all there.

I recently got a question from a student who calls himself SGH, trying to stump me.

Here’s his question…

QUESTION:Hi Joe,

When we think about the whole concept of dating, and why most men struggle to get a girlfriend or in some cases even simply just a date for the evening or so, we need to go way down the rabbit whole, where no man has gone before.

Simply put, I believe that the whole “Mating Game” is based on a set of fixed rules, which cannot be changed.

For example your material teaches guys to rely on their personality to achieve success in the dating game.

The simple truth however is that like other animals we mate with those which are the strongest candidates. This is all based on physical qualities.

Call it survival of the fittest is you like, but someone who is tall/muscular is automatically perceived as being essentially in a better state of health, thus a stronger candidate.

The truth is that people are more likely to be attracted to someone who has all the “required” physical qualities than someone who has a attractive personality example.

I mean, would you rather sleep with someone who is physically attractive yet has no personality … or would you rather sleep with someone who has a great personality but not so much physically attractive?

Can you please express your views on this.

thanks, SGH

Well, HELLO MR. FANCY PANTS. =)

You break it down like you got a PhD in evolutionary biology.  But there are some massive flaws in your argument that I hope you don’t mind me pointing out…

First of all, human beings aren’t animals.

Sure, we’re a species, and though we share some similarities with the animals on our planet, I assure you, we are DIFFERENT in many ways.

For instance, I’m willing to bet you don’t go around sniffing people’s butts, eating your poo, and picking fleas off of strangers just for a snack.

(And if you do, I’m afraid you’re beyond my ability to help! =)

See, you’re the type of guy who still buys into the idea that “Looks Matter.”

And thought they DO matter, they don’t matter in the way YOU think they do.

It’s important to look as good as you can, but you don’t have to be tall and muscular to get hot chicks.

Just look around life and see how many short, scrawny guys are out there with hotties.  That should be proof.

Your problem my friend (and the problem of many men) is that you focus too much on YOUR insecurities about your looks, and then project your own biases onto other people.

Let me ask you this…

Would you ever want to bang a fat chick?

Answer honestly now…

In your case, judging from your email, I’m willing to bet the answer to that is NO.

But there are lots of guys out there who like to bang Large Women.

(Heck, some of them ONLY like fat women!)

How do you explain that one with your evolution theory?

Answer:  YOU CAN’T!

Because human beings have a more complicated mental and emotional structure than any other animal on the planet.

And because it’s complicated, it allows for lots of leeway when it comes to so-called “survival instincts.”

The fact is, we don’t always mate with the best possible match for us.

And that is DEFINITELY true for women.

Dude, I’d take the Pepsi challenge with my tubby old ass against a mute muscle-man any day of the week.

Because personality, willpower, and smarts can get any chick you want against muscles and looks any time.

I’ve seen it happen time and time again, and experienced it myself.

Women are emotional creatures.  If you can tap into their emotions, you can generate attraction with them, no matter what you look like.

Physical attributes may be a factor in the short term, but in the long term, unless you have an emotional connection, you’re going to fall flat.

The only good looking guy I would ever worry about is one who also knows and practices my techniques!

And in that case, I’d wish him well, and find another woman to pick up…

(Because there are a gazillion of them out there!)

And out of all the women on the planet, I’ll bet you good money there are ones that like short scrawny guys.

But even if you find them, there’s no guarantee you’ll be able to attract them…

UNLESS you know my material.

Check it out here:

The How To Meet Women Course

It’s the new world order, my friend.  Welcome to it.

Talk soon,

Joseph Matthews

There’s a very interesting study profiled by the BBC recently about how most men who pay for sex already have a partner.  Check this out…

The BBC Reports:
Glasgow’s Sandyford Initiative analysed data on 2,500 men who attended a sexual health clinic. One in 10 said they had paid for sex.

Of those around one in four said they repeatedly used prostitutes, 43% had a partner and 20% had a sexually transmitted infection.

Data collected between October 2002 and February 2004 appears in the journal Sexually Transmitted Infections.

The researchers warned that their figures could be an under-estimate of the true numbers who pay for sex.

They found that over half of those men who admitted paying for sex had done so while abroad, while 40% said they had paid for it locally.

An interesting finding of the study was that the majority of the men who pay for sex use condoms, except when recieving oral sex, and that there was a relatively high occurance of STDs with this group - none of which was HIV, however.

But on a bigger scale, why is it what the majority of men who pay for sex already have a partner at home?  (This is one of the questions women just don’t want to know the answer to.)

In my humble opinion, it’s because the guy who goes looking for it elsewhere isn’t getting what he needs from his partner.  In other words, the chick he’s with isn’t “putting out enough.”

Sure, there may be a “dog” factor in all this, as in men just can’t keep it in their pants.  But that may only account for a small percentage.  I think the bigger problem is that men wind up with a partner they’re not happy with, or their partner stopped trying to please them or meet their sexual needs.

Men are sexual beasts, damn it!  We need it at least once a day.  And if our cravings aren’t met, we look for it elsewhere.  Frankly, I’m not shocked at these statistics.  I think most married men find sex workers convenient because you don’t get any crazy “stalker” girlfriends coming along and ruining your family/marriage/relationship, whatever.  As Charlie Sheen used to say:  “I don’t pay hookers for sex, I pay them to go away.”

But here’s the thing:  I really don’t believe in cheating on your partner.  If you’re unhappy, you either have to take steps to fix the problem, or break up and find a better match for yourself.  None of this “sneaking around” bullshit.  You’re together with your partner for a REASON, and if your needs aren’t being met, either do something about it or leave.  Don’t just SETTLE because you don’t think you can do any better or your scared of being alone.  Would you rather run the risk of getting (and passing along) an STD than just DTB (that’s dump that bitch, for those of you not hip to my jive) and move on with your life?

Part of what I love about what I teach in the Art Of Approaching is that it’s EMPOWERING.  It gives you control over an aspect of your life that was previously thought to be uncontrolable.

In other words:  Be a man, go for what you want, and do not settle for anything less!

Yet another bizaar fettish I don’t really understand…

From Hoes.com:
No, we’re not talking about eating p*ssy or licking ass. We’re talking about women sitting their asses right down on a man’s f*cking face like it’s a barstool. His face is literally engulfed in ass, almost to the point of suffocation. In most cases, these submissive men are laying on their backs when a woman walks over either fully clothed, with panties on or bare ass nekkid, planting her lucisous ass on his face, covering both his nose and mouth. Still can’t see the difference between facesitting and eating p*ssy? Look at it this way. You can’t eat p*ssy when someone is sitting on your face. All you can do is hope she stands up before you pass out from not being able to breathe.

Yes, this seems like a healthy endeavor for men to partake in.

NOT.

I really believe there’s a damaged psychology that goes along with men wanting to be “dominated.” There’s a kind-of submissiveness forced upon men by society, media, and even parents nowadays that too many men just accept and secretly harbor. Male energy is an AGGRESSIVE energy. We were meant to be hunters. We were meant to be strong, to be protectors. So why is it that there are men out there who want to be dominated? Suffocated to death by ass? (How would that look on a coroner’s report? Admittedly, I can think of worse ways to go…)

It’s a question everyone should be asking themselves:

“Why are so many men single nowadays?“

Seriously. There are so many single guys out there, and even worse, there are a great number of men out there in relationships they are UNHAPPY WITH!

So what is the reason for this strange and unsettling phenomenon?

I’ll tell you: Too many men are taught the WRONG THINGS about women.

This is a real epidemic. Worse that SARS, Bird Flu, or the Black Plague. This is bed because this wrong knowledge makes a WHOLE lotta men (and women) very unhappy. Face it, being lonely SUCKS. And the only thing worse than that is being with someone who makes you miserable.

Yet, we find that is the case time and time again.

So what’s a guy to do?

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