Have you ever heard that old familiar lament:

“Nice Guys Finish Last, Jerks Get Laid?”

At first glance, it would seem that is true.

There are a lot of Jerks out there who are able to attract tons and tons of women.

And there are a lot of Nice Guys who struggle with getting girls, and feel frustrated.

After all, who wants to have to be a jerk in order to get women?

Here’s the thing…

YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE A JERK TO GET WOMEN!

You just have to change a few things you tend to be “nice” about…For instance:

1.  Social Restrictions

We tend to believe that there are “acceptable” and “unacceptable” things to do around women.

And while this is true to some extent, Nice Guys are often wrong about the limits of what is acceptable.

Like being sexual around women.  Many Nice Guys believe this is “inappropriate behavior.”

But that’s wrong!

Being sexual around a woman is a very powerful way of communicating your interest in her.

Little things like flirting and joking about sex can go a long way into making you a potential lover instead of just a potential “friend.”

2.  Inability To Act

Too often, “Nice Guys” wait around for the girl to make the first move to initiate romance.

This is a DEADLY mistake!

Women take their cues from the men they’re with.  If you want to escalate into a physical relationship, you have to be the one to make the first move.

This can be scary.  It’s possible to get rejected.

But if you don’t do it, you won’t succeed!

Actions speak louder than words, and if you allow yourself to act and go in for a kiss, or not be afraid to touch her, then you communicate all the right things…

Things like aggressiveness, confidence, and sexuality — all things women find irresistibly attractive!

3.  Diarrhea Of The Mouth

Way too many Nice Guys like to talk about boring stuff.

They do nothing to captivate the girl.  Their stories don’t inspire romance or attraction.

In short:  Nice Guys are neutered!

The real trick with women is to be playful!  Have fun with them!

Crack jokes.

Tease them.

Have a good time.

Show her a little bit of attention instead of focusing on yourself — but don’t take yourself for granted either!

If you just talk, and talk, and talk without knowing what you’re saying, you’re going to bore the girl you’re with.

And girls who are bored with you will not be attracted to you.

If you look at the three points above, you can see that the Jerks who get all the women do these things.

BUT, Nice guys can do them too, and not have to act like a complete horses ass to do them!

You can still be the Nice Guy you’ve always been, but just change three simple tactics and see a drastic improvement in your success with women.

Here’s a recent success story I got from a Nice Guy who followed my advice…

NICE GUY SUCCESS STORY:

Dude, your stuff works!

I went out last night and took the lead much more.  Also, thinking of what you told me, I pressed forward on every sexual innuendo opening that popped up.  It is amazing how quickly girls opened up.

I ended up talking to this guy and the two girls with him about hotel porn and the fact that everybody, including women watches it (something I’d never thought I’d talk to women about before).

We talked about Michael Ninn and porn with real storylines and started dreaming up porn careers for ourselves.

Anyway, long story short, when they closed the club we ended up at his place nearby; nice and big with a Japanese garden.  We joked around and the girls did stupid dances to the indian electronica that was playing and eventually at like four am we paired off.

I just got back!

That is the quickest result I have had yet and it was fun to be so open.  Thanks!

R. (recovering Nice Guy)

If you want to have really effective successes and turn your luck around, you really need to read my book The Art Of Approaching.

This information is truly LETHAL stuff.

The Nice Guy above emailed me a few times about his problems, and I gave him the EXACT SAME information I just gave you.

And look what it got him!

Listen to Uncle Joseph, Matthew, I don’t steer you wrong!

If you don’t start applying the strategies in my book, you’ll have to be happy with what you’re getting right now.

But if you can imagine going out to meet women armed with the “secret weapons” I give you that can help boost your confidence and get beautiful girl after beautiful girl to date you…

Well, I’m sure you’re starting to realize the possibilities.  =)

To download your book right now, click on the link below:

Check Out The Art Of Approaching Here!

And if you’re REALLY serious about improving your success with women, you need to check out my Pure Personality course so you can learn how to showcase your natural personality to get women attracted to you, so you can be a “nice guy” and still get more women than a rockstar on tour!

Check Out Pure Personality Here!

Start enjoying real success with women right now.

And as always, please leave any questions or comments you might have in the comment area below.  I love hearing from my students and readers, and look forward to seeing your creative responses!

Good Humor Can Make Any Woman Attracted To You

A lot of guys really get caught up with their “looks” when it comes to attracting women.

They think only “good looking guys” can get girls into them.  However, they’re only focusing on ONE SMALL ASPECT of attraction.

See, men place a large importance on physical attractiveness because that’s what initially attracts us to women – their looks.

So we assume that women must be attracted to our looks as well!

Now, I’m not going to tell you that your physical appearance plays no role in whether or not a woman finds you attractive, because it does.

But it isn’t as IMPORTANT as you might think it is.

To women, physical appearance is only a SMALL FACTOR when it comes to attraction.  (Sure, there are exceptions, but for the most part, I’ve found this to be the case.)

A bigger factor in a woman’s attraction to a man is how he can make her FEEL.

Understand – women are emotional creatures.  They’re more hard-wired to respond emotionally than men are.  This is just how nature made them.

If you can appeal to her EMOTIONALLY, even if you’re not her “physical type,” you can still attract her.

And nothing creates emotion more powerful than HUMOR.

So let’s talk about how you can use humor to attract women to you…

First of all, let me just get something straight with you:  YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE FUNNY TO USE HUMOR!

Yes, I know, that might sound confusing.  Let me explain…

A big obstacle most guys run into with using humor is that limiting belief:  “But I’m just not that funny!”

However, this means they don’t really know what “humor” means to begin with.

See, “Humor” is a state of mind.  It’s an attitude.  It’s about being positive, not about being funny.

“Funny” is a verb to describe something you do.  “Humor” is meant to describe what you’re experiencing.

So when I talk about using “humor,” I’m really talking about using fun, positive energy to excite and inspire people around you.

And most of the time, that will make the people around you laugh, joke, and have a good time!

So get the idea out of your head that you need to be funny to use humor.  It’s just not the case!

Instead, you should focus on the following things…

1.  Smile

This is a simple thing, but too often guys forget to smile!  A smiling person is always more attractive than someone who’s frowning or looking serious.

Plus, emotions follow body language, so if you want to change your emotions, change your body.  If you smile, then you’ll eventually feel like you’re having a good time.

In addition, women love nice smiles.  So give them what they want!

2.  Be Positive

People in general love positivity.  This is because people in general don’t feel good most of the time, so someone who can come along and inspire them, and MAKE them feel better is highly prized.

I have a very good friend of mine who is not funny at all.  Yet, he is one of the most positive people on the planet Earth, and women flock to him because they just love his attitude.

Positivity goes a long way to making people feel good around you, and when you’re gone, they’ll miss that feeling.  This is a key element in attraction.

3.  Have Fun

Don’t get too caught up in what other people think is “fun.”  Instead, focus on having a good time yourself.  If you’re having fun, you can ensure that other people can join you and have fun as well.

If you’re bored, you’re not doing anyone any favors.  Try and focus on your own state of mind and have a good time no matter what you’re doing.

4.  Talk With And Engage People

This is the most important step, because if you don’t talk with or engage people, you won’t be able to spread your humor to them.

When you’re having fun and being positive, you’ll naturally feel more outgoing and engaging with people.  In fact, you might even start joking around and make people laugh!

So its important to do this – especially with women.  I like to say:  If you can make a girl have fun with you, you can make her sleep with you!  And the more engaging you are, the more fun that girl will have!

If you want to learn more about how to talk to women, be engaging in conversation, and how to be more humorous and fun in general, then you need to check out my course The Art Of Approaching.

In it, I share with you my PROVEN STRATEGIES for meeting and attracting women.

Check It Out Here!

And if you want a super-intense bootcamp on how to maximize your personality for attractiveness, check out my course Pure Personality.

There, I go into incredible detail on how you can tailor your personality to be irresistible to women – so much so it doesn’t matter what you look like!

Check Out Pure Personality Here!

And as always, I love to hear from you guys.  So leave your questions and creative responses in the comment section below!

The Best Way To Deal With Rejection Is To Make Sure It Never Happens!

It’s probably the thing every guy hates the most when it comes to dealing with girls…

REJECTION.

Nothing stings more than having a pretty girl shoot you down.

After all, it takes a lot of effort to walk up to a girl you don’t know and start talking to her, right?

Well, here’s the good news – its COMPLETELY possible to avoid almost ALL rejection from women.

(And no, this has nothing to do with not talking to them to avoid rejection.  This is about meeting the girls you want, and getting them to respond positively to you!)

So let’s talk about how you can almost completely eliminate any and all rejection from women…

First of all, a disclaimer:  You can never 100% eliminate rejection.

There will always be girls out there who are mean, insensitive, and sadistic.  Maybe they’re having a bad day, or maybe they’re just not good people.  Either way, circumstances will cause them to reject you.

But guess what?  IT’S NO BIG DEAL!

Rejection happens.  You have to accept this if you ever want to have success in life.  The important thing is to not let it get to you.

See, rejection from girls STINGS because we unconsciously seek their approval.

We think to ourselves:  “If this hot girl is attracted to me, then I must be a person of value!”

Basically, we’re seeking to get an ego boost from the acceptance of pretty girls.

And when such a girl rejects us, in our mind, we’ve just gotten proof the opposite is true.  That we’re not desirable, or worth-while, or of value.

Because we were looking for the girl to give us some measure of self-esteem, and we were denied, we then beat ourselves up because we feel bad about ourselves.

That is how rejection works.

So what we want to do is MINIMIZE the chance of getting rejected as much as possible – not just to protect our self esteem, but to ensure the best possible chance of attracting the girl in question.

Here are a few strategies to do this…

1.  Be Truly Confident

The only way I know of to really take the sting out of rejection is to be truly confident.  This means believing in yourself and being secure about who you are, to the point where you don’t need validation from others to feel good about yourself.

A truly confident man likes who he is, faults and all, and doesn’t need others to feed his ego or bolster his self esteem.  He is the source of his own validation, and because of that, he can never really be rejected.

2.  Only Approach Girls Who Are Open To It

A big mistake guys make is approaching women who don’t want to be approached.

For whatever reason, they just don’t want to deal with being hit on.  Maybe they’re having a bad day, maybe they’re already in a relationship, maybe they’re feeling anti-social, or they’re sick, or whatever.

Either way – they don’t want to deal with guys trying to pick them up!

So if you DO approach them, they will try to shine you on and go about their day.  Some women will be nicer about it than others.  But the end result is the same – they will reject you.

In my course, The Art Of Approaching, I teach an extremely simple trick anyone can use to tell if a girl is open to being approached by you.  This is a technique I use all the time.

It helps you to zero in on girls who are less likely to reject you, so your interactions are almost always beneficial!

By eliminating the girls who aren’t open to being approached, you have a MUCH better chance of succeeding, and limit your exposure to rejection.

3.  Adjust Your Techniques To The Girl

If you’re able to get past the initial approach successfully, this is where most guys mess up.  They will try to pick up on a girl, without paying any attention to what she responds to.

Every woman is different, and responds to different things.  An approach that works well with one girl may not work well with another.

For example, some girls love it when you come up to them and are very direct with your interest.  You can say things like “You’re the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen and I just wanted to meet you,” and they will love it!

But if you try that on another type of girl, they may think you’re “creepy” or “a liar” or “a player.”  You just never know until you begin talking to the girl what she responds to.

The biggest thing to remember when meeting a woman is to PAY ATTENTION.

Is she smiling at you?  Is she laughing at your jokes?  Does she look interested in what you’re talking about?

Too often, guys are just focused on what they are saying, and not on what the girl is reacting to.  And because of this, they keep heading down the wrong path until the girl removes herself from the conversation.

In my course, I try very hard to teach guys not only how to pay attention to the girl, but how to read her responses and adjust their strategy to ensure that she remains interested in you.  In fact, in the Advanced version of my course, I even talk about how to think strategically so you can tailor your approach to any girl in any situation.

And it’s really not that hard to do, once you know what to look for and put it into practice.

So if you want to learn these strategies to eliminate almost all rejection from women, go check out the Art Of Approaching course here:

Check Out The Art Of Approaching Now!

Once you get rid of rejection from women, meeting them becomes fun and exciting!  And dare I say… EASY!

So what are you waiting for?  Eliminate rejection from your life once and for all!

And as always, I love hearing from my readers.  So please, be sure to leave your questions and creative responses in the comment area below.

How To Be More "Sexy" To Women

Hey there,

If you’re anything like me (and most heterosexual men), you’re probably of the belief that its impossible for men to be sexy.

I mean, let’s face it.  The female body is a thing of beauty!  And the male body, well…

Let’s just say that most men find nothing at all to be proud of when it comes to their own bodies.

But hey, there’s gotta be SOMETHING about men that’s appealing enough to make women want to spend some “sexy time” with us right?  So what is it?  And most of all…

How to you USE IT to get girls?

Well, in today’s article, I’m going to teach you how to be a “sexy man” and get more attention from the ladies than you know what to do with.

So let’s get started…

First of all, let’s cover the BIGGEST mistake guys make when it comes to “Sexiness.”

Because so many guys see women as sexy, they tend to think that doing the things that women do to turn them on is what it means to be sexy.

WRONG.

In order to be a sexy man, the last thing you should do is act like a woman!

Female energy attracts masculine energy.  So you adopting traits of women will not really attract them.

If you want to be sexy, you need to BE MORE MANLY.

Because let’s face it, women are attracted to manliness just like men are attracted to femininity.  The more manly you are, the more women will respond to you and find you sexy.

(And the best part is, you don’t need to be “Good Looking” to be sexy!  This is about the aura you project to others!)

Now, I’m not saying you need to be “Ultra-manly” to be sexy.  There’s no need to go out into the wild and kill an animal with your bare hands and eat it raw while getting a tattoo of John Wayne across your face.

Being manly is more about the “energy” people pick up on around you.

So what is “masculine energy?”

Well, masculine energy is about being confident, being a leader, being a protector, a provider, and being AGGRESSIVE.

Let’s cover each of these in turn…

1.  Being confident

People in general are insecure creatures.  So they tend to gravitate towards people who seem secure in themselves and have a strong vision.  When you’re confident, people naturally gravitate towards you and look up to you.  And when this happens with women, attraction is not too far off.

2.  Being a leader

People are sheep.  And sheep need shepherds.  Being a strong leader is about directing people to do what you want them to, without being overbearing or forceful.  Women are naturally submissive, and when they find a man who can take control and lead them – effectively taking uncertainty out of their lives – they find that extremely appealing.

3.  Being a protector

Women are naturally weaker than men physically.  So on some subconscious level, they want to feel safe and protected.  When a man shows that he’s willing to protect a woman, that makes him a lot more attractive to her.  Getting in fights over girls isn’t ever a good idea, but showing you’re willing to protect her from harm can go a long way.

4.  Being a provider

This is something that is often mistaken for “being a guy with money.”  And its true that guys with money are able to provide very well for their ladies.  However, being a provider isn’t just about how much money you make.  It’s about taking care of a woman’s needs – physically, mentally, and emotionally.

A man who is able to provide for his woman on these three levels is someone that woman NEVER wants to lose!

5.  Being aggressive

This is probably the most misunderstood masculine trait.  Lots of guys think this means they have to be “jerks” or “ass holes.”  They think it means they have to badger women and be overbearing.

But this really isn’t the case.  Being aggressive means knowing what you want, and not being afraid to go after it.  In short:  Its about your ability to achieve your goals.

Women love men with ambition, and the only way to get what you want out of life is to aggressively pursue it.

So if you know how to show others that you’re someone who goes after what he wants, women WILL take notice!

Understand:  All these traits are sexy, but if you can showcase all five of them to women, they will find you almost irresistible!

Here’s what you need to do to learn everything it takes to be a sexy man who can attract women to him like flies to honey…

First, check out my course The Art Of Approaching.  In there, I’ll teach you everything you need to know about how to make yourself more attractive and sexy to women.

(No, it doesn’t have anything to do with spending 3 hours a day in the gym!)

These are techniques and methods any man can use to get results with girls quickly.

Check Out My “Sexy” Methods Here.

And if you really want to get in-depth in how you can become trigger immense attraction in any woman, then you should check out my Renegade Rapport course.

This is the most in-depth course on creating attraction in any woman I’ve ever created.  You’ll learn techniques so amazing, you can even attract a girl to you BEFORE you talk to her!

Check Out How To Attract Women Here!

After you learn these techniques and strategies, you’ll be able to transform yourself into a confident, sexy man that women will LOVE.

Try it for yourself.  You’ll see!

Oh, and as always, I love to hear from you guys.  So leave any questions, comments, or creative responses below.  And be sure to follow me on Facebook and Twitter!

A Secret Technique For Bars & Clubs - REVEALED!

Has this ever happened to you?

You’re feeling lonely, so you decide to go out and meet a girl, and *maybe* get lucky.

So you get all dressed up, and go out to a nearby bar or nightclub hoping to meet a hot chick.

You spend the night talking to girls, drinking, trying to have a good time – and maybe you even meet a girl who seems into you!

But at the end of the night, you end up going home ALONE.

For whatever reason, things with the girls just didn’t work out.  Maybe their friends dragged them away at the last minute.  Maybe some competition from another guy stole them away.  Maybe they just got too drunk and decided to go home without you.

Either way, the result is the same:  You didn’t get what you wanted!

(Trust me, this happens to the best of us!)

BUT, if you know just one simple, secret technique you can use at any bar or club, I can GUARANTEE you with 99% certainty that you’ll never leave that bar or club without a girl.

And here’s the secret…

DON’T GO TO BARS OR CLUBS TO PICK UP CHICKS!

Now, bear with me here, because I’m going to explain this strategy in a way you might not be familiar with.

I’m not saying you can’t go to a bar or club to pick up girls if that’s what you enjoy doing.  But I’m saying if you want a guarantee of leaving with a girl at the end of the night, you pick up girls BEFORE you go into a bar or club, and then take them there on a DATE.

Here’s how this works…

When people go anywhere – in this case a bar or a club – they usually don’t go out alone (especially if the person in question is a hot girl).  This means they’re going out with friends.

And when you show up somewhere with people, or meet people you already know someplace, there’s a MENTAL ANCHOR that makes us want to STAY with those people, and makes those people want to stay with us.

I like to call this phenomenon “group think.”

“Group think” is a way groups of people stay anchored to each other.  So if that hot chick in the bar shows up with her two friends, chances are she’s going to leave with her two friends.

So when you go out to pick up a girl in a bar or club, unless she’s there by herself with no plans to meet anybody – you’re going to have to deal with the obstacle of pulling her AWAY from her friends!  And because of the way Group Think works, that can be quite a difficult task!

And even if she’s willing to break out of “group think,” her friends might not be!  They may want her to stick around, or feel protective of her, or whatever!  So they’ll be trying to keep her anchored to them in any way they can.

BUT, you can turn this situation around and use it to your advantage!

If you go out and pick up a girl elsewhere – say you meet a girl at work, or at school, or at the grocery store, a local coffee shop, or even the internet – and you invite her to go to a bar with you, guess what?

If she shows up with you, SHE WILL LEAVE WITH YOU!

It doesn’t matter what “other guys” might do to try and steal her away.  If she went out to a bar or club with you, mentally, you’ve ANCHORED that girl to yourself.

So you guys can drink, dance, have a good time, and at the end of the night, you can pull her back to your place for a little “zip, bang, pow!” action.

By meeting women beforehand, and then PULLING them to a location like a bar or a club, you GREATLY increase your chances of either getting some “sexy time” at the end of the night, or furthering your relationship with the girl.

Don’t make the mistake of spending all your time and effort picking up girls at the bar, when its easier to meet girls outside the bar, and then take them out for an almost guaranteed “sure thing.”

This one technique has gotten me SO MUCH success with women, its ridiculous.

And even better, you don’t have to deal with any of her annoying friends trying to block your advances or steal her away from you!

So here’s what you need to do…

Learn to meet women OUTSIDE the clubs.  Discover the techniques to meet any girl you want, wherever you may be.

You can do this by checking out my course The Art Of Approaching.

In it, I teach you every possible way to quickly and easily meet any girl you want.

Check Out My Course Here!

And if you want to discover more great tips about how to date girls and get them into bed quickly, then you should check out my course Consistent Close.

There, I’ll teach you my patented “Three Date System” any guy can follow to get a girl to sleep with him in three dates or less!

Check Out Consistent Close Here!

And remember – if you want to get great results at bars or clubs, bring a girl WITH YOU.  Sure, you can go out and try to pick up a girl at a bar or club, but its so much easier when you bring one with you!

Try it out and see for yourself.  Trust me, you’ll be glad you did.

And as always, please be sure to leave your comments, questions, or creative responses in the comments section of this article.  I check the blog often and always love to hear from you!

Why you should never put all your eggs in one basket...

Hey there,

It’s a common question I get asked by almost every single one of my students…

“Joe, there’s this one girl I really like.  How do I get her?”

And my answer is always the same…

“You don’t.”

Now, that might seem a bit pessimistic.  After all, why can’t we go after the girl we want?

Short answer:  You CAN go after the girl you want, and its possible you can GET the girl you want.  But that doesn’t necessarily mean you should put ALL YOUR EFFORT into going after the girl you want.

See, dating really comes down to a numbers game.  And when you limit yourself to one particular girl, you’re actually HURTING your chances of getting the right girl for you.

(The reason being that “one special girl” you like so much might not be the girl you should be going after.)

So when I hear that question about the “one special girl,” I get worried.

Here’s what you SHOULD be doing to not only increase your chances with that girl you like so much, but also ensure that if it doesn’t work out with her, you’re not completely out of luck…

This is a technique I learned the hard way.

See, I used to be the type of guy who’d find a girl, fall madly in love with her, and focus all my efforts on trying to “woo” her to me.

I’d try to be her friend, I’d try to come off as “non threatening,” and I was very careful to try not to scare her off…

In short:  I did everything you’re not supposed to do.

Understand – guys who place ALL their efforts on ONE GIRL will almost always FAIL, because they don’t have any options!

Back when I was a “desperate chump,” I placed so much importance on that “one special girl,” that not only did I get all bent-out-of-shape when things didn’t go right, but I also IGNORED many opportunities with other women because I wasn’t paying attention.

See, when it comes to “one girl,” you have to deal with the fact that:

1. You might not be her type.
2. She might be in a relationship with someone else already.
3. She may not be looking to get involved with anyone romantically.
4. She might just see you as “a friend.”
5. She may be too busy for a relationship at the moment

There are just any number of things that could prevent ONE GIRL from wanting to be with you, and you can’t deal with all of them.

However, when you’re dating multiple girls, you have OPTIONS, and that gives you a great deal of power!

When you’re seeing many different girls, if one doesn’t work out, guess what?  You just move on to another.  Because you’re not totally invested in any ONE girl, even if you get rejected, or she’s too busy/flaky, etc., you don’t have to worry about not having someone else to fall back on.

Having more than just one choice when it comes to women is the BEST thing for keeping your confidence high, and ensuring that you end up with something, instead of nothing.

And keep in mind - these aren’t girls you “settle” for.  Each woman you see should be a girl you actually like and find attractive!

But the best part is, you can STILL try and attract that “one special girl” while you’re dating other girls.

In fact, it actually HELPS you with that special chick you have your heart set on!!!

How?

Simple.  First of all, if the girl is too busy or flaky, you have other options, so you’re not constantly waiting around for her to show you some attention.

Second, she’s not as important to you since you have other options, so its easier to take chances and treat her in a way most other guys don’t.  A.K.A. a bratty little girl!!!

Third, having other women around you and dating you will make you more attractive to that girl you like.  This may sound “counter-intuitive,” but its true.  The social proof of other girls finding you attractive will make that “one special girl” take more notice of you.

So here’s what you need to do…

Start meeting AS MANY GIRLS AS YOU CAN.  The more girls you meet, the more of them you can start dating.  In my course, The Art Of Approaching, I show you how to easily start meeting lots of girls really quickly.

Check it out for yourself here!

Then, start flirting and trying to attract these women, along with that particular girl you want.

I show you EXACTLY how to build attraction and flirt with girls in the course.  It’s fun, and much easier than you think!

And keep working on that girl you like, while still juggling all the OTHER girls.  Eventually, she’ll come around.

But if you REALLY want to know more about building attraction with women, then check out my Renegade Rapport course.  It’s all about how any man can instantly create powerful, emotional connections with girls and get them super-attracted to you fast!

Discover these attraction secrets here!

Remember – always keep your options open!  Play the numbers, and eventually, you’ll find an amazing girl who’s totally into you, and you don’t have to “pine” after her.

In a recent survey by Lifestyles.com, they asked women what turned them on when it came to men.  Their answers were broken down into five of the most popular categories:

1.  Looks
2.  Sense of humor
3.  Intelligence
4.  Faith
5.  Politics

Now, I’ve always been a big believer that when it comes to attracting women, LOOKS DON’T MATTER.

Or, more specifically, looks don’t matter as much as most guys THINK they do.

If you look at that list above, 4 out of 5 of those “Top Attraction Triggers” are things that are non-pysical.

So the “non-pysical” stuff outweighs the Looks stuff by a ratio of 4:1!!!

What’s that mean?  Exactly what I said before:  Looks don’t matter as much as you think they do!

So let’s talk about how you can REALLY attract a woman, no matter what you look like…

First of all, I like to think of “Confidence” encompassing both “Sense of Humor” and “Intelligence.”  So being confident around women means being funny, relaxed, intellectual, and a good conversationalist.  Someone whom others have a good time around!  I’ve always stated that if a woman can have fun with you, she will sleep with you!  And the best part is – being funny and intelligent is something any man can achieve!  So this can very quickly level the playing field if you’re not exactly a male model.

When it comes to “faith” and “politics,” I’ve found those are usually factors that come into play AFTER initial attraction has been established.

For instance, if the girl is into you, and she’s thinking about getting involved with you, then she’ll start to wonder:  Do we share the same faith?  Do we share the same beliefs?  Etc.

Either that, or the opposite is true – women who put a very high importance on Faith or Politics will usually seek out men who agree with their views first, and then decide whether or not to be attracted to them.

But no matter what, this all boils down to how you present yourself to other people, and what YOU want in a woman.  If you don’t mind being with a woman who’s of a different faith or political belief system, then this shouldn’t prevent you from going after the women you want.  However, keep in mind this type of thing could play a BIG role later if you’re thinking about getting into a serious relationship with the girl in question.

A funny thing about this survey, however, is that when women broke down what they find physically attractive in a man, you’d be surprised what they look at and in what order.

So according to Lifestyle.com, women tend to look at the following physical traits in this order of importance:

1. Eyes
2. Hair
3. Butt
4. Back & Shoulders
5.  Legs

Notice nowhere on there is “Arms” or “Chest” or “Calves.”

In fact, the most common thing I’ve personally found that women look for are “eyes” and “smile.”  If you have friendly eyes and a nice smile, that’s usually enough for most women physically.

But the point here is this…

You never know WHAT a woman finds attractive in a man until you approach her and discover it for yourself.

I’m always amazed when I meet a pretty girl, and I’m thinking “There’s no way she’d be interested in a fat, bald guy like me.”  And then, once I use my techniques to flirt with her and have some fun…

She’s totally into me!

Every woman is different, and most women respond more to how you make them FEEL than what you look like.

In my course, The Art Of Approaching, I teach you everything you need to know to be an attractive man and get women to want to be with you.

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When you know the secrets of how to meet and talk to women, it almost doesn’t matter what you look like.  You can get pretty girls attracted to you with almost no effort.

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Hey there,

Do you have problems talking to pretty girls because you think they’re “out of your league?”

Do you see a pretty woman and immediately “clam up” and are afraid to talk to her?

Are you worried that women will reject you, and you have no idea how to overcome that horrible feeling and start meeting the type of women you deserve?

If that’s the case, then you might be making a BIG MISTAKE most guys make when it comes to women – putting them up on pedestals!  But luckily, this type of thing can be easily fixed, IF you know the right tricks to level the playing field with beautiful women.

So let’s talk about how, exactly, you can overcome this…Today’s question comes from a guy who goes by the handle “Legendary.”  And it has to do with how to stop putting attractive girls up on a pedestal.

Legendary writes:

I’ve always met girls through my social circle, so I’ve been going out alot lately to improve my skills at cold approaching.

A few months ago I didn’t even open, now I’m comfortable opening, even get a few numbers here and there but I’m not building attraction for some reason, just being a friendly/funny social guy with girls that are 6′s or less…

when it comes to girls that are 7′s or higher I notice that I really put them on a pedestal and feel that I’m not good enough for them… logically I know this doesn’t make sense: I’m a good looking guy, funny and have a good job.. but its a feeling that I get before I approach them regardless.

Any advice on how to rid my brain of this thought pattern would be highly appreciated…

First off, kudos to you for getting out there and approaching women.  That’s the crucial first step in any type of improvement.  Good job!  Going from not approaching any women, to being able to chat up girls in just a couple months is phenomenal progress!

But now you’re running into some “growing pains.”  As your skill-set matures, you’ll run into a few obstacles you’re not prepared for quite yet, like the one described about putting women on pedestals.

Let me just say – THIS IS VERY COMMON!

Lots of guys do this when they find a woman attractive.  This is actually a natural thing to do.  When we see something as high value, we tend to think about it in terms of being desirable.

And when it comes to “high value people,” we immediately want approval from these people.

THAT is where the danger comes in!

When you seek approval from someone, you’re submitting yourself to be JUDGED.

And that leaves you open to being REJECTED!

Because your subconscious mind knows that a “high value girl” could reject you, as a defense mechanism, you clam up around them.  You try to “play it safe.”  You don’t want to do anything that could cause that girl to reject you.  And as a result, you usually BLOW YOUR CHANCE WITH HER.  Why?  Because you don’t do any of the things you need to in order to attract her!

So the way to get around this is to learn how to lower the value of the girl in your mind, and have a very HIGH VALUE placed on yourself.  When you feel equal, or even slightly superior to a woman, she immediately becomes far easier to approach and talk to!

There are lots of methods on how to make yourself high value to women, and how to lower their value so they’re easier to talk to – and I cover them in my course The Art Of Approaching.

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In my course, I break down the fundamentals of MALE SELF-CONFIDENCE and teach you not only how to mentally build yourself up and project strong, confident energy around women, I’ll also show you some easy techniques to make “high value women” a little less high value, and therefore easier to talk to.

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Before you know it, you’ll be on a level-playing field with any woman – no matter how hot she is – and best of all, you’ll be getting killer results!

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If you’re looking to meet a great woman, one of the things you may want to consider is meeting women who are older than the type you might normally go for.

If you’re looking to meet a great woman, one of the things you may want to consider is meeting women who are older than the type you might normally go for.

But before I go any further with this, I want to make a distinction here…

There is a difference between women who are “older than you,” and “older women.”

For instance, a woman in her 20s could be older than you, but that’s different from a woman in her 30s, 40s, and beyond.

So I’m going to talk about “older women,” in the sense that I mark women over 35 as being “older” in my book.

Some women may take offense to this, and some men out there might even say women in their mid-to-late 30s aren’t “older,” but I judge this based on what women FEEL.

A woman who is 35 and still single definitely FEELS like she’s an older woman.  This is because typically,  she has been married, had kids, or is worried she’ll never get married by this point in her life.

Technically, this type of thinking starts for women around age 30, but by 35, it REALLY kicks into high gear.  So my advice is geared towards women 35+, are we clear?

Okay then…

First of all, approaching older women is generally much easier than younger women.  Not just because it probably doesn’t happen to them all that often anymore, but because the woman will receive the attention better.

When it comes to approaching older women, I like to go with being EXTREMELY complimentary and flirty.  Women who get positive attention from men, especially when the woman is older than they are, will become very receptive to it if done right.

Understand – women feel like they’re always in competition with OTHER women.  Other, younger, women.  So if you can make them feel attractive, they will be quite receptive to you because you’re validating to them that they “still got it.”

Trust me – even if the older woman is still attractive, this will work.  I once dated a 36 year old actress when I was 28.  She was a stunning blonde, but incredibly insecure about her looks because she felt like she wasn’t “young” anymore, even though she looked just as good (if not better) than women ten years younger than her.

And because I was able to charm her and make her feel good, she became attracted to me.

When it comes to women, it really is THAT simple.

But don’t compliment her on her looks.  Compliment her on other things, and THEN have that lead to her looks and other things.

For instance, I might start a conversation by saying:

“Excuse me, I know this might sound cheesy, but I have to ask – have you ever had any kind of dance training?”

(Typically, most girls have taken some form of dance class in their lifetime, but even if they haven’t , you can proceed with this opener)

Follow up by saying:

“I just ask because you move so gracefully, like you just naturally know how to move your body.  You seem so confident with yourself, it really is noticeable.”

From there, you can take the conversation towards asking her about herself.  Then you can stack on stuff like:

“You have an amazing energy about you.  It’s like you have a really youthful spirit.”

And…

“I must say, I think you just might be the most attractive woman I’ve seen in a long time.  I meet a lot of girls in their 20′s who couldn’t hold a candle to you.”

Saying things like this will really make the older woman you’re talking to feel good, ESPECIALLY when you tell them that younger women can’t compare to them.

The trick here is not to be overly complimentary, otherwise your compliments come off as insincere.  You want to be flirty, and sprinkle in your compliments as you go.

Now, of course, being complimentary doesn’t always work.  Sometimes, if the woman is really hot and she has a bit of an attitude, you need to use the usual methods.  But I’ve found in general that this is the way to go when approaching older women.

If you’re the type of guy who likes to work out and take care of yourself, then chances are you spend a lot of time at the gym.

In fact, it’s not unusual for guys to spend anywhere from an hour to two hours a day working out!

From personal experience, when I work out, I’ll be at the gym five days a week, alternating between an hour of cardio and an hour of weight training.

And that time at the gym adds up!  Some people even go further by joining classes, getting a personal trainer, and hanging out at the local juice bar.  So it’s no surprise that because some of us spend so much time at the gym, we’d like to know how to meet women there!

After all, it’s not just the fact that some guys spend a lot of time working out at the gym, there’s also the fact that some very attractive women spend a lot of time there too!  (In an effort to remain as attractive as possible, of course.)

But as much as it makes sense to try and meet girls during your workout, it can seem like a very daunting task!  But if you know a few simple tricks for meeting women at the gym, you might be surprised to find that it’s actually easier to do than you think.

Let’s go through the tips now…

TIP #1:  Taking Advantage Of Cardio

Typically, people will do cardio workouts for anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour.  Let’s face it, that’s a LONG time to do nothing but run in place!

If you see an attractive girl you’d like to meet doing cardio, see if you can get on a machine next to her to do your cardio.  This will give you the opportunity to start up a conversation with her.

You’ll be amazed at how easy it is to talk to someone when they’re doing a cardio workout, and that’s because cardio is BORING.  The girl will typically be watching closed-caption TV, flipping through a magazine, or listening to music on an iPod.  But talking to someone can pass the time just as fast, and as long as your approach is smooth, she’ll be more than willing to chat with you!

TIP #2:  Find Out Her Playlist

One of the biggest obstacles guys face at the gym is competing with iPods.  People like to listen to music when they work out, and seeing a pair of ear-plugs can scare you off from starting a conversation.

But I’ve found that actually asking the woman about the music she listens to when working out is a great way to not only get her to listen to you instead of music, but a good way to quickly bond with her over mutual interests.

The way I do it, is I’ll try and get the girl’s attention, either by waving at her or tapping her on her shoulder.  This will get her to pause her music and look at me.  Then I’ll say…

“Sorry to bother you, do you mind if I ask what music you’re listening to?”

When she give you her answer, you can respond:

“I’m getting kind of bored with my music, so I’m looking for some new stuff to listen to during my workout.  What kind of music do you think is the best to workout to?”

From there, I can start talking about favorite bands, concerts I’ve been to, etc.  It’s a great way to get her attention away from her iPod and focused on you!

TIP #3:  Offer Advice

Often times, you’ll see girls working out throughout the gym on various machines or weights.  A great way to start up conversations with them is to offer them advice or feedback on their form.

Just make sure that it’s “friendly” suggestions, and that you’re not telling them they’re doing things wrong.

People at the gym who work out without personal trainers usually have mistakes in how they are using machines or performing a certain exercise.  So if you can offer them some tips on how to make their workout more effective, they’ll actually really appreciate it!

And once you offer them your advice, you can start asking them about their training goals, and carry on the conversation from there.

This is a very effective way of meeting girls who are weight training.

TIP #4:  Join A Class

Most gyms offer a variety of classes you can sign up for.  These range from yoga, to spinning, to dancing, etc.

Here’s a tip – most of these classes are filled by a majority of WOMEN.  So taking a class can give you a tremendous opportunity to meet girls!

Not only that, but many classes can become social functions, and give you excuses to talk and chit-chat with girls.  I can’t tell you how many girls I’ve dated because I was the only guy in their class at the gym.

You’ll also notice a lot of the girls in your classes also work out at the gym, so you have a great way of meeting them if you see them in the general training area.  Just approach them and say “Hey, aren’t you in my spinning (or whatever) class?”

Seriously, it does not get much easier than that!

TIP #5:  Take Advantage Of The Juice Bar

Most gyms nowadays have some type of juice bar, or place where you can sit down and drink a protein shake or smoothy.  Take advantage of this when you’re trying to meet women at the gym!

There are two ways you can utilize a juice bar…

The first is to invite women you meet while working out to join you for a drink.  This is a great way to do an “instant date” after meeting a girl.  Instead of letting the girl just leave after she’s done working out, ask her if she’d be interested in grabbing a drink with you at the smoothy bar.

Then, sit down and chit-chat with her.  It’s just like getting coffee together, but much quicker and easier.

The second way to use the juice bar area is to actually see if there are any women you’d like to meet there already, and ask to join them while you drink your beverage.  Most women won’t refuse you, and you can start chit-chatting with them after you sit down.

Ultimately, there are lots of great ways to meet women during your workout.  Just keep trying different methods until you find one that works for you.