How To Meet Women

Let’s face it, some things just get better with age.  Things like fine wine, Cuban cigars, and yes, even women!

Meeting a woman who’s older than you can actually be quite a good way to meet a fantastic partner.  Usually, older women are much more experienced, not only in relationships, but also in the bedroom.

So meeting older women can actually teach you a ting or two - not only about relationships, but also about what you’re really looking for in a partner.

So the real question is:

Are you interested in dating a woman who’s older than you are?

Do you find older women more attractive than their younger counterparts?

Well, my friend, you are not alone!

Older women are much more “mature” and experienced in the ways of love. They’ve usually had a lot of practice dealing with men, and know their way around the bedroom.

They can also be MUCH easier to deal with than younger women, who can tend to be a little “high maintenance.”

If you’re a man in your mid-to-late 20s who’s mostly been with women in their late teens and early 20s, dating a woman in her 40s can be a real treat for you!

They tend to be more mature and less selfish – sexually, and in just about every other way – than the women you’re used to dating. And if you’re not looking for anything serious, the chances are higher that they’re not either, if they’re just past child-bearing age.

In that way, they’re kind of like a lot of women in their mid-20s and younger, who don’t feel compelled to start a family in the way that single women who’ve hit 28 or 29 do. By the time a single woman reaches that age range, she’s more likely to feel that now’s the time to act if she’s ever going to have children.

That’s because she’s not getting any younger, and she feels less attractive than she was when she was in her early 20s. In her mind, it’s only going to get harder to find a great man she can settle down with.

(By the way, a lot of women at this stage make a mistake that a lot of men make their entire lives: they get desperate. Some women actually repel men because of their desire to get into a serious relationship sooner than the man is comfortable with. And a lot of women at this stage will settle for a man who they’re not compatible with, but who will end up fulfilling their need to have a family.)

So how can you start meeting older women?

You’re not so likely to find them at trendy nightclubs, but you can find them just about everywhere else you can find attractive women: while you’re out shopping, at coffee houses, local bars, or in bookstores. You can also meet them through school, volunteer activities or through friends.

But bar none, the BEST place to meet older women is online dating sites.

Sites like Match.com and E-Harmony have a bevy of older women just looking for some guy to come along and sweep them off their feet.

Some of them have kids, most of them are divorced, but one thing they all have in common is that they’re probably looking to have a good time!

Also, more and more over 30 women are heading towards social networking sites like MySpace as a way to meet new people. Just by doing a quick search for your target age range in your local area on MySpace will yield a number of potential older women you can meet.

But there are problems with dating older women. You may not be as mature as she is, which can be a problem for both of you. And the age difference can become rather awkward should you decide to get married: If there’s a 15-year age difference between you, then she’ll be 50 when you’re 35!

But that’s not to say that you shouldn’t meet and date an older woman. It can be a great experience for you, if you’re aware of the potential issues that can arise in the relationship.

Honestly, the art of meeting and dating older women could fill a book, and unfortunately, I just don’t have the time to go as much into detail with this as I would like.

So if you’re interested in learning more about how to meet and date older women (or just women in general), then I would highly recommend you sign up for my free How To Meet Women crash course.

No where else on the internet will you find such a detailed and comprehensive resource - for free, no less - on how to meet and date the women of your dreams.

I will show you all the secrets you need to know on how to overcome your anxiety of approaching women, and how to not get rejected - EVER - so you can actually have FUN meeting and dating women instead of feeling like its a chore.

Just click this link to sign up for it now:

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But hurry, I don’t know how much longer I’ll be making this resource available for free.

Wishing you success,

Joseph Matthews
Author of The Art Of Approaching Women

If your goal is to be picking up women, then don’t let all the movie and TV shows fool you.  You don’t have to be a “clown” or a “sleaseball” to effectively pick up a beautiful woman.  In fact, picking up women can actually be an easy and extremely fun task to undertake.  You just need to make a few simple preparations to prepare for success.

You can never really know when a pickup is going to go well, but there are ways you can prepare. So here’s some steps for success BEFORE you go out picking up women!

When you go to a place where you know there will be attractive women, make the decision that you’re actually going to pick them up!

Too often, guys will go out with no real goal in mind. And guess what? When you have no outcome in mind - you’ll usually end up with NOTHING.

But if you go out with a specific goal, your chances of achieving that goal go up DRAMATICALLY.

It doesn’t matter if it’s as simple as “Talk To One Woman Tonight,” or as ambitious as “Get Two Women To Come Home For A Threesome.”

As long as you have a goal, your chances of picking up a girl will increase substantially.

You don’t even have to be GOING OUT to pick up women. Maybe you’re visiting a food court in mid-afternoon because you’re feeling hungry, and you know you’ll spot at least one attractive woman there who you could see later.

You may or may not succeed in your quest, but you’re much more likely to have a positive outcome if you go with the mindset that you can pull off a successful pickup.

Always take a pen and paper, or at least your cell phone, wherever you go. You’ll need it for when you exchange numbers with women. Be sure to keep a condom with you, too, just in case! Knowing that you have protection on hand is just one more thing that will keep you from chickening out.

Remember: Do Not Give Yourself An Excuse NOT To Pick Up Women!

Picking up women is a mental exercise.  It’s about overcoming your fear, apprehension, and insecurities.  In short:  going up to a woman with the intent of picking her up is HARD.

So the more factors you have working against you, the easier it will be to justify NOT talking to the girl you want to.

This is a bad, bad, bad idea.  Because it’s always easier NOT to do something than it is to actually just DO IT!

That is why you must mentally prepare yourself for going through with the pick up.  Visualize the outcome you want.  Psych yourself up.  Push yourself to go through with it.

Know your environment. When you meet a girl you like, you’ll want to get together with her soon – preferably the same day, while her attraction for you is still high. Be aware of good places nearby where you can “bounce” to, like bars, coffee houses, lounges, art galleries, or other fun place where you and your “target” can have a change of scenery.

You’ll want to go to a place that’s low-key enough so you can get to know each other better. When you bounce from one location to another, it’s like you’re going on another date. Why wait for another week to pass by to take her on another date so you can build comfort with her, when you know you can do it on the same day?

Have a place in mind where you can become intimate with her. If you live nearby and you can bring her home, so much the better.

Have an excuse to take her home that has nothing to do with sex. You can have a DVD that she’s never seen but has to see, or an exotic drink she’s never tried, or some photos you’ve taken of a place where you’ve been that she’s never seen. Or you can play her a song that you’ve written. It doesn’t matter, as long as it makes her comfortable enough to come over!

Look - there is so much I have to share with you on the topic of picking up women, I could go on FOREVER.

If you’re the type of guy who’s ever struggled with picking up women, then you know how there will never be a lack of interest on this subject.

That is why I am offering my elite “How To Meet Women” Crash Course to you absolutely free.  All you have to do is visit my website to get free instant access to it right now.

In just seconds, you’ll get my first tip on how to pick up women, and they’ll keep on coming - a new one every day - until you finally get the girl you’ve always dreamed of.

So just visit my How To Meet Women website and sign up for my special crash course today!  The longer you wait, the longer it will take you to find the girl of your dreams.

Wishing you success,

Joseph Matthews
Author of The Art Of Approaching Women

Okay so you’ve gotten the first date, what do you do when it’s time for the second?

For instance, I recently got this letter from a student named Alex…

Dear Joseph,

Thanks so much for all these great tips.  I’ve been putting some of the basics to work for me such as the 3 second rule and always smiling and at least saying hi to every woman to build confidence, but I still get nervous enough to forget most of the material when I’m actually talking to a woman one on one.  Having a terrible memory normally isn’t helping either.  Ok, thats the bad stuff, now on to the good stuff:

Happily, I’ve just gone on my first ‘get together for coffee’ with a woman since I started reading your ebooks and newsletters.  I met her on a datng site, I have an easier time with material when I have time to think than when I need to constantly improvize quickly.

I completely blanked out on almost everything I was planning to say to her in person when I met her face to face.  I was able to remember some of the smaller things I’ve learned, like improving my appearance and dressing to impress, keeping my smile slight but present, direct eye contact, and monitoring our body language as well as mirroring her.

Even though I blanked I still felt comfortable enough to not give off any nervous vibes (at least I’m pretty sure), and I remembered to keep the conversation flowing smoothly.  I probed for values and tried to keep her talking about things she enjoyed, I remembered to do a little ‘chest thumping’ of my own to demonstrate my own value, and spent the rest of our hour and a half long coffee/non-date working on comfort.

I noticed something bad however, due to the coffee table between us, I wasn’t able to do any kino aside from the initial and parting handshake.  The good news is I do have her real phone number (talked to her on it already) AND she’s willing to do it again soon, next time closer to her house. (She lives a decent drive from me.)

So now I’m of to go study material for the second date.  Do you have any ideas or suggestions you could give me based on this so far?

-Alex

Hi Alex,

First off:  Congrats on having such a quick success!  Lots of guys like to measure success based on how many women they can sleep with, but I think when starting out, it’s just as important to measure success in terms of POSITIVE interactions.

Let me confess to you:  I HATE to memorize stuff!  Routines and Patterns are not for me.  I have like 4-5 good openers I’ve memorized completely, but other than that, I just like to “wing it” when dealing with the ladies.

Because of this, I know exactly where you’re coming from.

Let me share something with you that I do:  If I’m nervous, or whatever, when I’m on a date, i will actually call attention to what I’m feeling.

I might say something like “Can I just tell you, I’m super-nervous right now?”

The girl will almost always say “Why?”

And I’ll honestly respond with something like “Because I think you’re really great, and I like you a lot, and I’m worried I might fart or something and blow it!”

Being honest with women, especially about your feelings, is ALWAYS a good tactic.  Trying to hide that you’re nervous of scared gives off an odd energy.  It’s almost like you’re trying to hide something.  When I started being honest with girls in this respect, I found that acknowledging the feelings in a way made them go away.

It’s also a great way to get the girl to open up to you about her feelings, because an admission like that is usually reciprocated.

So if you ever blank like you did again, say something like “You know, I had all these great things to say to you in order to sweep you off your feet, but I just totally forgot about every one of them.  It sucks, because I spent 2 hours of my life trying to memorize stories to tell you that I will never get back!”

Anyway, you asked about the second date…

The first date is always a nice “get to know you” deal, especially if you’ve met the woman online.  it gives you a chance to see if this is someone you want to meet with again.

If you’ve read my book, you’ll know I like the “minidate” method.

So for Date #2, you’re going to want to meet up to do something fun or interesting.  You can meet for dinner if you want, but I usually like to do something like “let’s go to an arcade!” or something wierd.  But meeting for a meal can be fine too.

Anyway, the goal of Date #2 is to minidate her into feeling like you’ve gone on 4-5 dates.  So dinner, arcade, bookstore, movie, etc.  It doesn’t matter where you go or what you do, as long as you do a couple different things.

I’ve even gone so far as to go with my date underwear shopping!  (Not for me, for her, lol.)  Those are always interesting.  But it usually leads to some fun times. 

But more than anything else…

HAVE FUN!

It doesn’t matter what you do one date #2 as long as you and her are having fun together!

Some guys take dates so serious, they forget that the point is to have a good time with the girl.  So they get all serious because they feel the pressure to sleep with the girl.

So a good rule of thumb:  Do something fun on date #2!

That’s never steered me wrong.

A guy named Spyro sent me a very interesting letter about women who string guys along.

Hey Joseph,

I just read your last email, and its pretty clear that most people have the wrong beliefs.

Fact is that I’ve thought about it hard and long and I’ve realised that it is beliefs that are getting in my way.  Beliefs that make me doubt myself constantly and prevent me from action, even at times when I’ve had a woman at the point where I should be going to the next step, that I have kept saying to myself “I need to gain more value” then I’d try too hard and no need to explain what happens when guys do that.

I think that belief has been instilled through media and through some
girls that I’ve been around in my high school years, where basically they say that you have to prove yourself to be THE BEST man in the universe for you to even have a chance for them… pretty shitty thing to have psychologically beaten into me, and I see it every day.

The other one that spawns from that one, in a way, is that women like to have a fan club.  They come across a guy they think will improve her social status, then lure him in with false promises, and he becomes whipped (this nearly happened to me around the end of last year). The one thing that bothered me about this is when I realised what was happening I stopped contacting her completely, no explaination, nothing… I haven’t heard from her since… I believe I built up a degree of value with her.  Maybe I lost all of it at one point or, maybe she has enough of these fan club guys that she doesn’t miss one.

Honestly, this does cause some bitterness, because she is extremely good looking, and I know that she is a good person, she just doesn’t have a clue when it comes to her love life.  Its like she meets a guy starts being attracted to him, but when she makes him apart of her fan club… that squashes all the attraction!

Lastly, In all my life I’ve only had mild sucess with women, never had a normal conversation lead to sex. I’d always screw up at some point and ended up frustrated. So now whenever I see that hottie that makes me swallow hard, I quickly find myself thinking, “not worth it, all that effort only to end up frustrated.” Then I don’t approach, and every other guy that does approach walks away with nothing, which just reinforces my belief :/

I’m sitting here by your website fighting with myself whether or not to buy your book, because I know that even if your book came in pill form, it would pretty much be useless unless I had the right beliefs in place.

But anyway, the biggest things that I need to sort out are 1) the right beliefs and 2) how to stay that “other guy”, the one that refuses to join her fan club, and that she HAS to chase.

Any thoughts and opinions would be much appreciated!

Spyro

Hi there Spyro,

First off, I want to tell you that you are right - beliefs are the most important thing in the WORLD where it comes to success with women.

If you have bad beliefs, having success with girls can be VERY hard and frustrating.

That’s why I devote most of my Art Of Approaching course to teaching guys how to develop the proper beliefs, and change their old, ineffective, and sabotaging belief systems.

Like the old saying goes…

“Whether you believe you can, or you can’t, you’re right!”
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So here’s an email I got from a poor college kid who’s having some trouble with the ladies…

Hi Mr. Matthews,

Thanks so much for your advice so far, I’ve tried a few of your techniques, some are great for ‘pulling’, but I’m in a weird situation at the moment. From the begining: I’m a university student, 18 years old, 5′11, use the gym alot and am told I’m fairly good looking by my female friends (hope that doesn’t sound big headed though), there is one problem however, that is I’ve never had a girlfriend and I am looking for a relationship.

Everyone says “Your at uni!  You’ll find someone easy!” Truth is I haven’t. I go clubbing, etc, and am average at dancing. Some of my female friends with boyfriends even said I’d be a good excuse to leave their boyfriends, but I think that’s because they know me well (plus I’m not only after ‘one thing’).

I’ve gotten close to a girl before, but a ‘mate’ came between us which resulted in her getting back with her ex.  Anyways the only thing I’m aware of doing wrong is going up to women and
talking.

Its just weird because I’ve always had low self esteem, especially
when I WAS overweight.  Also, most girls I like nearly all have boyfriends.

At uni, its hard to find anywhere to approach a girl and just get her to like me.  Whenever I’m with my uni mates I feel like the inferior one because they all have had a fair bit of experience with women. I’m this serious about giving up (which I hopefully won’t).  I’ll even send a photo of me just to proove I’m not some weirdo who has obvious reasons for struggling with women. I feel like I might have left out some details but don’t know what…

Thank you if you can help my crisis, I’m positive you can.

Wow - you’ve touched on a whole lotta things all at once here.

Where to begin…
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The great and mighty GUNWITCH writes in with some helpful Haloween tips…

Some tips from my site for halloween.

Wear a COOL costume. Something that says “sex” in her mind. Zorro, a vampire without the dime store rat teeth, a rockstar, a human looking devil even.

DON”T be a zombie, or a urinal, or a siamese twin with a blow up doll taped to your head!

Vice versa, talk to more women who are “with it” enough to be wearing a sexual outfit as well. Witches, hookers (hey shannon), vampiress’, Elviras (hey sherry), female devils (hey erica) etc etc etc. If she turns you on, approach and smile and make good eye contact!

Be HIGH ENERGY. Don’t be like all the other weird people who are kind of in thier costume “character”, be really outgoing, yell “HEY cool costume!” at chicks. Network the whole place and let your vibe when you get interest do the seducing, not the words. Remember its a fun night and the only night many of these chicks are out, so you don’t wanna bore anyone. Dance, mover her around the place, play paper rock scissors, you get the idea, be FUN more than usual.

CLOSE CLOSE CLOSE. Let the cat out of the bag early and often, as soon as you get any sexual vibe, offer to get alone with her back at your place or hers. Chicks are WAY out of character on Halloween, even the most uptight ones, PLUS they are in disguise full blown. This means almost no resistance to sex or “feeling like a slut”.

HAVE YOUR BASE GAME DOWN!

Check out my website, and buy the course at the discount price through halloween of 19.95, and give it a read or a listen through, and work the materials. Remember just because it’s a loose holiday, is no excuse to run poor game, never forget your foundations…

Take advantage of the special 19.95 price through halloween, you will find no better deal on a full audio course from a top guru than right here right now with this special.

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Gunny even decorated his site for Halloween!  How cool.  =)

The Dating Wizard (Yes! He’s an actual Wizard! Harry Potter style, yo!) sent me a rather good article about pleasure, sex, sexual pleasure, yadda, yadda, yadda…

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There are lots of reasons guys get frustrated with the process of dating women.

Not the least of which is the idea that there is something about them that is unattractive to the opposite sex.

Look, we all have things about us that we don’t like.

(After all, we know ourselves better than anyone else.)

But here’s the thing…

IF YOU LET YOUR LOOKS DETERMINE YOUR HAPPINESS, YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY!

There is no such thing as “Perfection.”

You will always be either too fat, or too skinny, or too bald, or your ears stick out a little bit too much…

There will ALWAYS be something about yourself that you don’t like!

But the simple fact of the matter is this - just because YOU don’t like it, doesn’t mean others won’t.

You never know what physical attributes women will find attractive. So why try to obsess over what you THINK they won’t like?

I used to think that just because I’m overweight, that meant girls wouldn’t like me.

But I’ve seen TONS of overweight guys who had smoking hot girlfriends!

And I used to think that, if they could get a girl being fatter than me, then I could most certainly get a girl too!

You know what? I WAS RIGHT!!!

For every shortcoming you think you have, take a look around. Chances are, there’s some guy out there with the same shortcoming who’s succeeded with it.

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How would you like to get women advice from the guy who married Angelina Jolie?

No, I’m not talking about Brad Pitt, I’m talking about the older, uglier dude who landed her before Golden Boy got his sloppy seconds.

I’m talking about Billy Bob Thornton.

In a recent issue of FHM (the one with naked Janet Jackson on the cover), there’s a short article about Billy Bob’s upcoming movie, School For Scoundrels.

In it, Billy Bob teaches a bunch of hopeless geeks how to be more confident and meet women…

(Kind of like what I do, but I don’t think my customers are geeks. =)

In the very short interview with Billy Bob, I found this excerpt most interesting:

From FHM Magazine:
Q: In School For Scoundrels, you teach a class of nerds how to pull chicks. What do you wish you knew before starting out with the ladies?

BBT: That you shouldn’t get married if the girl asks you. That’s happened to me a few times. With women, you have to be confident, but not cocky. They like confidence with a certain vulnerability.

Now, I agree with Billy Bob on this one.

Sure, saying “You gotta be confident” isn’t a big revelation to you, I’m certain, but hear me out…

Billy Bob makes a very good distinction here, which is confidence with cockiness, and confidence with vulnerability.

Now, what do you think he means by that?

(Don’t worry, I’m about to tell you…)

Here’s my distinction:

Cockiness is about disregarding anyone’s thoughts or emotions but your own. When you’re cocky, the only reality that matters is that which exists in your own mind.

Now, there IS something to be said for being cocky. A little bit of cockiness can be attractive in a man.

BUT…

Being vulnerable is about being emotionally available.

And as we all know: Emotions are like COCAINE to chicks! They can’t get enough of them!

Displaying a bit of vulnerability allows you to establish emotional connections with women.

THIS is what gets them “into” you.

Seriously, once a woman has established a deep emotional connection with you, you’d have to admit you’re a baby-killer to get her NOT to sleep with you!

THAT’S how powerful this stuff is!

And that’s how Billy Bob landed ol’ Angelina in the first place.

So what does this mean to you?

Well, in my course The Art Of Approaching, I cover two things that no one else out there even seems to touch on:

1. How to build and establish your confidence.

2. How to create strong, lasting emotional connections with women.

Billy Bob does it naturally. I had to learn it the hard way.

BUT, it is learnable! If I can do it, then you DEFINITELY can.

Click here now to check it out!

And pretty soon, I’m sure you’ll be able to get girls that put Angelina to SHAME!

(Seriously, I used these techniques to start seeing a model! I’m a fat, hairy, bald dude, but this model is seriously into me. If it works for ugly dudes like Billy Bob and me, it’ll work for you too!)

Talk soon,

Joseph Matthews