How To Meet Women On The Internet

Let’s face reality – meeting women on the internet has become one of the fastest and easiest ways to start dating a multitude of women.

The stigma of dating over the internet has long faded away.  Today, its perfectly acceptable to turn to the internet to meet beautiful girls.

The only problem is… they’re not usually all that beautiful, are they?

Who hasn’t gone to sites like Match.com and eHarmony, gotten in touch with a girl who had a great picture in their profile, only to meet up with them and find out that picture was from 5 years and 100 pounds ago?

Meeting women on the internet isn’t hard.  But knowing how to meet women on the internet the RIGHT way is a skill few men have learned to master.

If you’re not worried about the quality of the women you meet, then just send out enough emails and you’ll get a number of women ranging from hideously ugly to butt-nut crazy ready and willing to date you.

But if you want to get a QUALITY girl, someone who’s mentally stable, attractive, and most of all – fun – then here are some tips you need to know about how to meet women on the internet.

TIP 1:  Be Extremely Specific About The Type Of Woman You Want To Meet.

Very few guys ever write in their profile what it is they are really looking for.  They either ignore this completely or keep it too general.

Here’s the thing though – if you are extremely clear and specific about the type of girl you’re looking to meet, it will actually GET those types of women to respond to you!

And contrary to popular believe, it won’t scare off too many girls who don’t fit the profile of the woman you want either.  Most women respect a guy who knows what he’s looking for, and they’ll contact you anyway hoping they can “broaden your horizons.”

It’s a very powerful thing to be specific with what you’re looking for in a girl.  Don’t be afraid to go into detail about how you want your girl to look and act.

TIP 2:  Explain What You’re NOT Looking For.

Telling people in your profile what you’re not looking for can be just as effective – if not more so – than telling people what you are looking for.

For instance, saying something like: “I am NOT into girls who like to be smacked around, so if you’re into abusive guys, please, do not contact me.”

In this instance, you’re actually using what you’re not looking for to communicate to girls reading your profile that you’re not someone who’s abusive, and this implies you respect women and would never hurt them.

But you’re phrasing it in such a way where you’re putting the girl in a position where she has to prove to YOU that she’s worthy of your time, and not the other way around.

This is a very powerful tactic.

TIP 3:  Don’t Include A Picture In Your Profile.

Profiles with pictures get a lot more searches than profiles without pictures, but I’ve found that if you’re the one contacting women (and let’s face it, very few women send out emails on these sites), it doesn’t matter if you don’t have a picture up.

In fact, it works out better.  Just say in your profile “I’m worried about some crazy girl on this site cyber-stalking me, so I’m not putting up a picture.  But if you email me, I’ll send one to you. Promise.”  That will be good enough for a response from a girl.

The key here is to let their imagination fill in the gaps of what you look like, and have the words in your profile be what attracts them to you as opposed to your picture.

This is a great technique for guys who maybe aren’t all that attractive, or are insecure about their looks.

TIP 4:  Sign Up For Multiple Dating Sites

Just like you wouldn’t just hang out in one bar or club to meet girls, you don’t want to hang out on just one website to meet girls either.  It’s always best to belong to multiple dating websites if you can, because it increases the number of women you can meet!

Here are some of the sites I like to use to meet women on the internet…

• MySpace
• Match.com
• eHarmony
• Plenty Of Fish
• Yahoo Personals
• OKCupid.com
• J-Date
• Craig’s List

Some of these sites are free, some you have to pay for, but all of them will get you results!

So don’t just limit yourself to one dating site.  Go for two or three if you can.

TIP 5:  Write Funny Emails

Humor is the most attractive thing you can do online.  Writing emails that aren’t the same old “hey, what’s up?” or boring emails like “I noticed you liked blah, blah, blah in your profile, I like blah, blah, blah too,” are very powerful.

And the easiest way to do that is to write emails that are light-hearted and funny.

Sending an email that says something like: “Hey, just wondering how many guys with half-naked pictures of themselves have contacted you today.  I’m taking a survey. (Don’t ask.)” can get a girl to respond to you instantly.

TIP 6:  Get The Girls On The Phone Quickly

Don’t spend too much time emailing back and forth.  People are very different over email than they are on the phone.  By the third email, you should be asking for her number.

Once you have the number, call her up and talk to her.  This is where you’ll find out if there’s some chemistry there, and if there is, you can go ahead and set up a time to meet.

The biggest mistake guys make is they wait too long to talk to a girl on the phone.  Don’t let this happen to you!  Understand that she’s probably getting contacted by lots of other guys, so if she’s a winner, you don’t want to lose her to someone else.

Work fast, and you’ll see some good results.

After all, being in a marriage meant never having to actively go out and attract women.

Typically, guys who were good with women before getting married find that their skills with the ladies just “aren’t what thy used to be.” And guys who struggled until they found their (now ex) wives believe they’re going to struggle even worse now that they’re back on the market.

Add to that the fact that a freshly divorced man tends to be older, fatter, and balder than he was when he first got married, and his insecurities about his looks can actually prevent him from getting success with new women!

Luckily, meeting women after a divorce doesn’t have to be difficult. Here are some simple steps you can follow to help you start meeting more women right away…

STEP 1: Figure Out What You Want

Most guys don’t know how to get back into the dating game because they have no idea what they actually want! So before you even start thinking about meeting girls, figure out what your goals are.

Are you looking to get back into a serious relationship? Or do you just want something casual and fun? Do you want to get married again? Or do you want to enjoy being single for a while?

What about the type of woman you want? Would you be willing to date a single mom? Do you want to go after a younger woman? An older woman?

Think about what you want to have, and once you figure out what you’re looking for, you’ll find that you’ll be able to achieve it easier than if you had no idea what it was you wanted.

STEP 2: Set Aside Time To Meet New Women

The life of a freshly divorced man can be difficult and hectic. Maybe you had to move to a new place? Maybe you have to work harder to pay for alimony. Maybe you have kids and you have to spend time with them.

The list of things you have to deal with now that your single can be long and overwhelming. But if you want to meet a new woman, you must set aside time to focus on your dating life!

Give yourself a little bit of time every day to focus your energy and attention on meeting girls, and then set aside at least 1 or 2 days for a “date night,” or a night where you can actually go out with a woman you’ve met.

If you don’t make time for bringing women into your life, guess what? IT WON’T HAPPEN! So schedule accordingly.

STEP 3: Use Online Dating Services

If you’re nervous about getting back into the field, or you just want a fast way to start meeting women on your busy schedule, the internet is a great place to start.

Women online are actively looking for a great guy to date, so you know the girls you contact on these sites would be in the market. But more than that, it’s also extremely easy to meet lots of women! Just send them an email and see if they respond. It’s as simple as that.

STEP 4: Use Your Friends And Family

Don’t forget about the power of networking when it comes to meeting new women. Ask your friends and family members to introduce you to a woman they think would be a good match for you.

Some guys don’t like to go this route, because they don’t want to seem like they need help. But meeting a woman through friends and family is actually much easier than meeting a woman on your own, because you have a system in place to “build you up” before the girl ever meets you.

Having a female friend or your mother play matchmaker can be really beneficial. Just make sure you’re clear with the people helping you out what you are looking for in a woman.

STEP 5: Be Social

When you’re married, most of your social life revolves around your wife and family. However, after a divorce, you have to get out of the house and actively be social with other people.

Go to your kid’s soccer games or school events, and mingle with other single parents. Go to happy hour with your co-workers after you get off the job. Invite people to go to sporting events and movies with you.

Do whatever you can think of to get out of the house and mingle with other people. This is how you meet new women, or people who can introduce you to new women.

Here are some extra tips to help you out with your quest to meet a new girl to have in your life…

• Never talk bad about your ex-wife when you meet a new woman. This can come off as you being bitter with women, and could reflect badly on you. If the subject of your ex comes up, just say “There was a time when she was the light of my life, but now I’m moving on.” It’s better to be classy than bitter.
• Brush up on your conversation skills. Don’t be afraid to chat up a woman innocently. Ask questions, be interested in her. You don’t have to go for the date right away.
• Don’t worry about your age, weight, or bald spot. If you let these things bother you, they’ll lower your confidence and keep you from success with a girl. Better to focus on the reasons WHY a woman would be attracted to you than reasons why she WOULDN’T.
• Text messaging can be great for dating. Be sure to use texting to keep in touch with all the new women you meet. If you aren’t used to texting, learn to love it! It will really help you when setting up a date.
• Go after what you want. Don’t settle for a woman you don’t really like just because she’s convenient. Date as many women as it takes to find one that actually makes you happy.

Most of all, remember that dating is supposed to be fun and exciting! Try and have a good time meeting new people and being more social. If you’re not having fun, it’ll be hard to meet the right woman for you.

With a userbase of over 200 million members, MySpace is the perfect candidate to use in your efforts to meet women.  In fact, it’s one of the best resources available to guys looking to find women to date!

Why is this?

Because not only is MySpace free to use (a feature which ensures many, many women will use it), but MySpace actually augments, and to a certain extent, replaces the social lives of the women who use it!

What I mean by this is, women who use MySpace regularly depend on it to keep in touch with friends and fulfill their social needs.  A busy girl with no time for dating or going out with friends can still feel connected to people by logging onto MySpace, chatting, sending emails, and seeing updates from their friends.

Not only that, women on MySpace tend to skew younger, which means the average age for girls who use MySpace is between 18 and 30.  This actually makes meeting the women on MySpace a much easier task, because many of the women you’ll be contacting aren’t as jaded as women who’ve been playing the dating game for years.

On top of everything else, there’s a huge advantage to using MySpace to meet women because people don’t think of it as a “dating site,” therefore you’ll find lots of girls aren’t expecting guys to contact them and try and pick them up.

This means the barrier to meeting women is far less than a site that’s more of a “meat market,” like Match.com.  The reason for this is because girls on dating sites get deluged with emails from guys trying to “get with them.”  On MySpace, girls typically only get emails from people they know.

So here are a few easy steps you can follow to start meeting beautiful women on MySpace…

STEP 1:  Create A Profile

Creating a profile on MySpace is free and very easy to do.  In fact, the whole process will take you less than five minutes to complete.

STEP 2:  Fill Out Your Profile

Once your profile is created, you’ll want to put information about yourself on it.  Think of it like creating a profile for a dating site.  You’ll want to have a flattering picture of yourself, an interesting headline that will grab people’s attention, and some information about yourself and the type of woman you are looking to meet.

Be sure to include your interests in your profile.  This is a great way to give people conversation topics to chat with you about after checking out your profile.

You can also personalize your profile by changing the theme of your layout, adding music you like, adding videos you enjoy, and a whole host of other things to make your profile more personal.

STEP 3:  Add People You Know As Friends

After your profile is created, invite some people you know to become friends with you.  Having a small number of friends helps you look more “normal.”  It’s inadvisable to begin contacting women right away without having any friends yet, since this makes it look like you’re just trying to use the site to meet chicks (something that’s actually a turn off for most girls on MySpace!)

MySpace makes this easy by accessing your address book and sending out friend requests via email.  But be sure to only send an invite to people you feel comfortable letting see your profile!  You may want to uncheck coworkers and the like.

STEP 4:  Search For Women

MySpace has a great search feature that allows you to look for exactly the type of people you’d like to be “friends” with.  Just click the Search button, but be sure to use the “Advanced Search” option.

This will allow you to search based on gender, age, race, height, and most importantly, location!

I typically like to search for women, age 18-30, who are interested in dating, within 10 miles of my zip code.

The results you get should be numerous, especially if you live in or around a big city.  Simply browse through the pictures in the results, and find girls you think are attractive, and check out their profile pages.

STEP 5:  Contact Women

Once you find a profile you like, click the button to send them an email.  This is done through MySpace’s system.

Your email should be short, sweet, and most of all – fun and interesting!

Sending an email that just says “Hey what’s up?” won’t get you anywhere.  Instead, make your email one to two paragraphs, commenting on something about her and how well you think you’d get along.

So sending an email like:

“Hey, I was just checking through MySpace and stumbled across your profile.  You seem totally awesome!  Seriously, if you were living in the 80’s, you’d probably be ranked up there with Def Leopard and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, that’s how awesome your profile is, lol.

Anyway, we should chat.  Email me back and tell me what your favorite 80’s movie is, and we’ll compare notes.”

As you can see, the response above is short, interesting, somewhat humorous, and bound to get a girl’s attention.

Contact as many women as you like using this method.

STEP 6:  Follow Up

You’ll find most women you contact will begin to respond to you.  Continue to email back and forth, and even add them as a friend if you like them.  Allow them to get to know you.

Once enough rapport has been built up, you say you’re bored with email and ask them for their number so you can text them.

Telling them you’re going to text them as opposed to call them is important, because then they’ll be sure to give you their cell phone number, and they’re not committing to have to talk to you on the phone.  Most girls will be willing to share their cell phone number if you approach them like this.

Once you have the number, start texting, ask when a good time to chat is, and then call them up at the appropriate time to set up a date, or a get-together.

It’s really that simple to meet women on MySpace.  And you’ll find the quality of women, in terms of looks, is much better than most paid dating sites!

Here are some other quick tips to help you use MySpace to get dates…

• Download MySpace Messenger so you can chat with your friends and other women when you’re online.  IM sessions go a long way towards establishing rapport!
• Look through your friend’s friends to find girls you like.  Meeting through someone you both mutually know can make the transition to romance much easier than approaching a girl you don’t know.
• Dating is a numbers game, so try and meet as many women through MySpace as possible to maximize your chances of finding a winner.
• Ask women you meet throughout your life if they’re on MySpace, and get their email so you can add them as friends.  This is a great way to keep in touch and follow up with women you’re interested in.
• Don’t worry about messing things up with one girl.  There are so many women on MySpace, and new ones signing up every day, you’ll always have another chance to get things right.

Meeting women on MySpace can be fun, easy, and most of all – effective!  Instead of wasting your time on paid dating sites, give MySpace a shot and see what kind of results you can get.

But if you’re paying $30 a month for these sites, you are probably missing out on one of the single best online dating sites around. And best of all, it’s free!

I am, of course, talking about Craig’s List.

Craig’s List was started by Craig Newmark in 1995 to better help people connect through events around San Francisco. Since that time, this simple site has exploded into a national community.

Craig’s List is, at it’s heart, a classified ad site. It allows people to find places to live, find work, buy and sell stuff, and even find dates – just like the classified ads in the back of your local newspaper.

Anyone who’s ever visited Craig’s List may be skeptical about fining quality women on such a “low rent” looking website. But if you’re judging a book by its cover, you’re really missing out.

Here are the advantages to using Craig’s List for dating purposes:

1. Large Userbase

Craig’s List gets literally millions of visits a day. This means that your chances of meeting a great woman on this site is greatly increased.

2. Local Targeting

Craig’s List is divided into sections for local areas. This means you can actually meet women who are local to your area quickly and easily.

3. It’s Free!

Most dating sites require a monthly subscription. But Craig’s List is a free site, which means that more women use it than your typical dating website. This means more chances for you to meet the right girl!

4. Dedicated Community

Craig’s List is more than a service site, it actually has people who visit the site daily, multiple times. It has message boards, and is updated constantly. They also have members who moderate the website. All this contributes to a vibrant community that you can become a part of – something most dating sites lack.

So now that you know why Craig’s List is a great site to meet women on, let’s talk about how you can go about using Craig’s List to find dates.

Step 1: Create a new email address

One thing you’re going to want to do before you start using Craig’s List to find love is create a “dummy” email address. This will help you keep from getting spammed from the site, since lots of disreputable people use Craig’s List to harvest email addresses, so it’s a good idea to have a “throw away” email address that you use just for Craig’s List.

Step 2: Create an account on Craig’s List

Creating an account is free. Just sign up using the email address you created. This will allow you to repost your ads very easily, something which will come in handy later.

Step 3: Write An Ad

Next, you’re going to want to craft an ad to post on Craig’s List, explaining the type of girl you’re looking for.

Step 4: Create Up To 5-10 Ad Variations

Craig’s List has strict guidelines on posting duplicate content. They don’t want their site spammed by ads, so you’ll want to re-write your ad at least 5-10 times, so you are able to post it often.

Step 5: Post Your Ads

Once you have all your ad variations ready to go, post your ad. You’re going to want to post your ad at least twice a day, once around noon, and once around 5 or 6 o’clock. This will increase the likelihood of your ad being seen.

Step 6: Repost Your Ads

Every 3 days, you’ll be allowed to repost the same ad you posted before. Just log into your account and look at all your posts, then select the ones you’d like to repost.

Step 7: Keep Reposting Your Ad

You will want to repost your ad often, since this is the key to success with having women on Craig’s List respond to you.

Step 8: Browse Ads From Women

In addition to posting your ad, you’ll also want to browse ads that girls have posted on Craig’s List.

Step 9: Email Women you’re Interested In

Once you find an ad you’re interested in, be sure to email her. Use the Craig’s List email address you created though, don’t use your personal email.

Now that you know the general process of meeting women on Craig’s List, let’s talk about two important factors – where to post, and how to craft a great ad.

First off, you have two choices of categories to post in on Craig’s List. The first is “Men Seeking Women,” and the next is “Causal Encounters.”

The “Men Seeking Women” section is where women browse looking for guys that seem interesting. This is a section for finding dates. The “Casual Encounters” section is for more physical interactions, such as casual sex, one night stands, etc.

Figure out which section is more for you, and post there. You can of course post in both sections if you like, but I’ve found it’s best to focus your efforts on one section only.

Now let’s talk about crafting a winning ad.

The first thing you want to do is create a great headline. Your headline is what’s going to get people to click on your ad. Usually, you want to have some type of benefit in the headline to entice women to check you out.

For instance, a headline like “Looking For A Great Girl I Can Wine, Dine, And Romance” showcases a big benefit to the girl. Every girl likes to be romanced, so why shouldn’t they check out your ad?

Another great tip is to include a picture in your ad. Ads with pictures get clicked on more than ads without pictures. If you’re wary about putting your image on Craig’s List, just find a generic picture of a romantic restaurant or something like that to include in your ad. Any picture will do, just so Craig’s List can list your ad as having a picture in it in the results listing.

Use humor in your ad when you can. Showcasing a fun, funny attitude will make you stand out from the others and get you more responses. You always want to try and communicate your fun personality to girls, and this is especially true online.

Talk about yourself in the ad. Don’t just give details like hair color, body size, height, etc. Also include things you’re passionate about, things you like doing, and your idea of what a great date will be.

Then, talk about the type of girl you’re looking for. Be specific! The more specific you are, the more chance you have of getting a girl you like!

Always tell the girl that she must send you a picture, or at least a link to a MySpace or Facebook page so you can see what she looks like. Don’t just assume they’ll send a picture. Let them know you’re happy to share a picture of you in return. Most girls will respond well to this. If a girl emails you asking for a picture, give her one of you, but always ask for one in return.

Longer ads actually tend to do better than shorter ones. Long ads stand out, and girls will take time to read the ad if it’s interesting. So don’t worry if your ad seems long.

Use proper grammar, punctuation, spelling, and spacing. The nicer your ad looks, the easier it is to read, and the more responses it will get!

When you combine regular ad posting with emailing women directly on Craig’s List, you’ll start to see lots of women contacting you.

But just a few words of warning…

Warning 1: There are lots of “fake women” posting personals on Craig’s List. These are done by SPAMMERS looking to harvest email addresses. If you get a generic “hey, thanks for emailing me” ad, be wary, since it’s typically some spammer trying to get you to sign up for a porn site.

Warning 2: Women can be suspicious of guys online, so always be up-front and honest with them. Women have safety issues most guys don’t, don’t do what it takes to make a woman feel good about contacting you.

Warning 3: Don’t spend too much time emailing. Try and get the girl’s number so you can call or text her as soon as you can. Too much emailing might get you stuck as an “online fantasy.”

Warning 4: There are crazy women on Craig’s List, so if you’re going to meet them, always meet them at a neutral place, like a coffee shop, never have them come directly to your place. You want to screen them first to see if they’re stable before inviting them into your home.

Warning 5: Don’t give up! Too many guys post one ad on Craig’s List and then quit. If you want to be successful, you have to post regularly and often, and keep emailing women until you find a good one.

When you follow all these tips, you’ll get amazing success with meeting women on Craig’s List.

In fact, it’s not unusual for guys to spend anywhere from an hour to two hours a day working out!

From personal experience, when I work out, I’ll be at the gym five days a week, alternating between an hour of cardio and an hour of weight training.

And that time at the gym adds up!  Some people even go further by joining classes, getting a personal trainer, and hanging out at the local juice bar.  So it’s no surprise that because some of us spend so much time at the gym, we’d like to know how to meet women there!

After all, it’s not just the fact that some guys spend a lot of time working out at the gym, there’s also the fact that some very attractive women spend a lot of time there too!  (In an effort to remain as attractive as possible, of course.)

But as much as it makes sense to try and meet girls during your workout, it can seem like a very daunting task!  But if you know a few simple tricks for meeting women at the gym, you might be surprised to find that it’s actually easier to do than you think.

Let’s go through the tips now…

TIP #1:  Taking Advantage Of Cardio

Typically, people will do cardio workouts for anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour.  Let’s face it, that’s a LONG time to do nothing but run in place!

If you see an attractive girl you’d like to meet doing cardio, see if you can get on a machine next to her to do your cardio.  This will give you the opportunity to start up a conversation with her.

You’ll be amazed at how easy it is to talk to someone when they’re doing a cardio workout, and that’s because cardio is BORING.  The girl will typically be watching closed-caption TV, flipping through a magazine, or listening to music on an iPod.  But talking to someone can pass the time just as fast, and as long as your approach is smooth, she’ll be more than willing to chat with you!

TIP #2:  Find Out Her Playlist

One of the biggest obstacles guys face at the gym is competing with iPods.  People like to listen to music when they work out, and seeing a pair of ear-plugs can scare you off from starting a conversation.

But I’ve found that actually asking the woman about the music she listens to when working out is a great way to not only get her to listen to you instead of music, but a good way to quickly bond with her over mutual interests.

The way I do it, is I’ll try and get the girl’s attention, either by waving at her or tapping her on her shoulder.  This will get her to pause her music and look at me.  Then I’ll say…

“Sorry to bother you, do you mind if I ask what music you’re listening to?”

When she give you her answer, you can respond:

“I’m getting kind of bored with my music, so I’m looking for some new stuff to listen to during my workout.  What kind of music do you think is the best to workout to?”

From there, I can start talking about favorite bands, concerts I’ve been to, etc.  It’s a great way to get her attention away from her iPod and focused on you!

TIP #3:  Offer Advice

Often times, you’ll see girls working out throughout the gym on various machines or weights.  A great way to start up conversations with them is to offer them advice or feedback on their form.

Just make sure that it’s “friendly” suggestions, and that you’re not telling them they’re doing things wrong.

People at the gym who work out without personal trainers usually have mistakes in how they are using machines or performing a certain exercise.  So if you can offer them some tips on how to make their workout more effective, they’ll actually really appreciate it!

And once you offer them your advice, you can start asking them about their training goals, and carry on the conversation from there.

This is a very effective way of meeting girls who are weight training.

TIP #4:  Join A Class

Most gyms offer a variety of classes you can sign up for.  These range from yoga, to spinning, to dancing, etc.

Here’s a tip – most of these classes are filled by a majority of WOMEN.  So taking a class can give you a tremendous opportunity to meet girls!

Not only that, but many classes can become social functions, and give you excuses to talk and chit-chat with girls.  I can’t tell you how many girls I’ve dated because I was the only guy in their class at the gym.

You’ll also notice a lot of the girls in your classes also work out at the gym, so you have a great way of meeting them if you see them in the general training area.  Just approach them and say “Hey, aren’t you in my spinning (or whatever) class?”

Seriously, it does not get much easier than that!

TIP #5:  Take Advantage Of The Juice Bar

Most gyms nowadays have some type of juice bar, or place where you can sit down and drink a protein shake or smoothy.  Take advantage of this when you’re trying to meet women at the gym!

There are two ways you can utilize a juice bar…

The first is to invite women you meet while working out to join you for a drink.  This is a great way to do an “instant date” after meeting a girl.  Instead of letting the girl just leave after she’s done working out, ask her if she’d be interested in grabbing a drink with you at the smoothy bar.

Then, sit down and chit-chat with her.  It’s just like getting coffee together, but much quicker and easier.

The second way to use the juice bar area is to actually see if there are any women you’d like to meet there already, and ask to join them while you drink your beverage.  Most women won’t refuse you, and you can start chit-chatting with them after you sit down.

Ultimately, there are lots of great ways to meet women during your workout.  Just keep trying different methods until you find one that works for you.

The list goes on and on.

The fact of that matter is that school is very conducive to meeting women.  And that makes the process of getting dates much easier than it normally would be.

But what happens when you get out of college and enter *gulp* the real world?

While in school, you have a number of activities, sports, clubs, study sessions, and all types of other social gatherings to help you meet girls, once you’re out of school, your life will typically consist of two things:

Work and home.

You wake up, you go to your job, and then you go home, eat, go to bed, and repeat everything the next day.

The transition to entering the rat race after college is done can be depressing for a lot of men, because their lives become entirely centered around their jobs.

This means that the pool of women they have to choose from is limited to thewomen they meet at their jobs, or the women who live close to them.

And whenever your options are limited, that’s NEVER a good thing.

The key to meeting lots of great, high quality women after graduating from college is to keep being as social as possible, and don’t let your life be consumed by your job.

Here are some tips to help you meet women after college:

TIP #1:  Use The Internet

This should seem like a no-brainer.  Online dating is great for men who are too busy to go out and meet new girls.  So you should always be using the internet to meet new women.  This is probably the fastest and easiest way to meet girls.

TIP #2:  Get Out Of The House

Afte a long day of work, sometimes the last thing we want to do is go out at night.  But if you don’t go out, how do you expect to meet anybody?

Set aside one or two days a week where you go out with the specific intention to meet women.  Whether it be going to a bar to pick up a girl, or going out on a date, it’s important you make time for your love life.

TIP #3:  Take Advantage Of Errands

No matter how hard we work, we still have to do things throughout the course of our daily lives.  Whether it be going grocery shopping, or taking your suit to the dry cleaners, there’s always something we have to do for ourselves.

When this occurs, don’t just rush to get your errands done.  Take advantage of opportunities when you see them!  After all, lots of girls have to go grocery shopping and drop off clothes for dry cleaning as well.  So if you see a girl you find attractive while running errands, take some time and meet her!

TIP #4:  Happy Hour

The hour before work starts and around the time work typically ends is a great time to meet girls – if you’re in the right place!  In the morning, it’s coffee shops women go to for their morning cup of java.  After work, it’s the bar with the cheap drinks.

Go to these places at the right time, and you’ll find tons of women just hanging out, waiting to grab a drink before heading home.  Use this time to your advantage!  Women L-O-V-E to be social in both these places.

TIP #5:  Throw Parties

In college, a great way to meet girls is to throw a party and invite them over.  Well, that doesn’t change after you’re out of school.  Throwing parties is a great way to meet new people!

Organize a get together somewhere, make sure there’s plenty to eat and drink, and invite everyone you know to show up.  And have them invite everyone THEY know as well!

Being the “Party Guy” can really score you a lot of points with girls who are looking to have a bit of excitement in their lives.  And it can be a lot of fun too!

Tip #6:  Pursue Your Passions

Don’t let work rule your life.  Continue to pursue your passions.  If you like college basketball, continue to go out to games.  If you like live music, continue to go to concerts.  Whatever it is you enjoy, go out and do it, and while you’re doing it, meet as many women as you possibly can.

After all, chances are there are some girls who share your passions!  And what better way to start a conversation than to talk about something you both love?

The worst thing you can do is just spend all your time working and watching TV.  That won’t get you anywhere.  Just take action, get out of the house, and know how to start conversations with women.

When you’re able to do all that successfully, meeting girls out in the “real world” is both fun and easy.

I’m sure most of you guys have experienced this before.

For instance, sometimes a girl will say “I only like to date guys who are taller than me.”

And then, the next guy you see her out on a date with is about a foot shorter than she is.

Sometimes a woman will say she prefers to be taken out to dinner and a movie.

And then, she tells you the best date she ever had was when a guy took her on a walk on the beach.

Sometimes the woman says she’s looking for a guy with a nice, steady job who can provide for her.

And then, she’s seen galavanting around with some dirt-poor schmoe who doesn’t have a penny to his name.

No matter how you look at it, lots and lots of women say they respond to one thing, when in reality, they ACTUALLY respond to something else.

I call this strange phenomenon “Girl Speak.”

A big problem guys have is they don’t know how to properly translate “Girl Speak,” so they end up taking what the girl says literally.

But this is a huge, HUGE mistake!

Women very rarely say what they actually mean.  And because of that, they respond really well to guys who know how to interpret what they are really saying.

Take me for instance…

I’m a fat, bald, ugly shlub.  Definitely no winner in the looks department.

But I’ve dated women who say they aren’t into “fat” guys.  In fact, they actually prefer guys who “take care of themselves” and “go to the gym.”

Yet they still agree to date me!

I’ve dated girls who were way younger than me.  One of my more recent girlfriends was 20 years old.  I’m 30.  This girl wasn’t interested in dating an older guy, yet for me she made an exception.

I dated one girl who only liked black guys.  Me, I’m white as white can be.  Seriously.  They don’t get any whiter than good ol’ Joe.  But again, the girl made an exception.

If I had taken their “Girl Speak” literally, I’d have never gotten past the initial meet.

But I know the key to by-passing the most common “Girl Speak” objections.

You know the ones…

“I only like guys with great bodies.”
“A guy who wants to take me out needs to have a nice car.”
“I want a tall man.”
“I want a guy my own age.”
“I have a boyfriend.”
“I’m not looking for a serious relationship.”

Blah, blah, blah.

So how do I do it?  Well, its fairly simple actually…

Don’t try and change their minds… change their EMOTIONS.

When a girl tells you about a specific thing she finds attractive, you got to understand that’s not a LOGICAL attraction trigger she’s sharing with you.

No, sir.

When a girl tells you something like “I like to date tall guys,” she’s not telling you she’s attracted to guys who are tall.

She’s telling you she’s attracted to the way tall guys make her FEEL.

Normally, if you ask a girl why she likes tall guys, she will share with you that maybe she “feels safer” with tall men.

So in that case, she’s looking to feel secure with the guy she’s dating.

Guess what?  You don’t have to be tall to make a woman FEEL secure!  you just need to know how to trigger that emotion inside her.

So let’s say you want to get a woman attracted to you – no matter what you look like.

Do you know how to make a woman feel that kind of attraction?

The key is making her feel FUN when she’s around you.  If you can make a woman feel fun, chances are she’ll feel attracted.

Why?

Because attraction is all about feeling good!  And if you can create some good old fashioned sexual tension in there – guess what?

She’s going to be SEXUALLY attracted to you!

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And if you want to learn how to create sexual tension with any girl, and never get rejected, you owe it to yourself to take a look at my book, The Art Of Approaching.

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Or, just continue to be fooled by “Girl Speak” and never get attraction from the women you want.

The choice is yours.

Talk soon,

Joseph Matthews

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Meeting a woman who’s older than you can actually be quite a good way to meet a fantastic partner.  Usually, older women are much more experienced, not only in relationships, but also in the bedroom.

So meeting older women can actually teach you a ting or two – not only about relationships, but also about what you’re really looking for in a partner.

So the real question is:

Are you interested in dating a woman who’s older than you are?

Do you find older women more attractive than their younger counterparts?

Well, my friend, you are not alone!

Older women are much more “mature” and experienced in the ways of love. They’ve usually had a lot of practice dealing with men, and know their way around the bedroom.

They can also be MUCH easier to deal with than younger women, who can tend to be a little “high maintenance.”

If you’re a man in your mid-to-late 20s who’s mostly been with women in their late teens and early 20s, dating a woman in her 40s can be a real treat for you!

They tend to be more mature and less selfish – sexually, and in just about every other way – than the women you’re used to dating. And if you’re not looking for anything serious, the chances are higher that they’re not either, if they’re just past child-bearing age.

In that way, they’re kind of like a lot of women in their mid-20s and younger, who don’t feel compelled to start a family in the way that single women who’ve hit 28 or 29 do. By the time a single woman reaches that age range, she’s more likely to feel that now’s the time to act if she’s ever going to have children.

That’s because she’s not getting any younger, and she feels less attractive than she was when she was in her early 20s. In her mind, it’s only going to get harder to find a great man she can settle down with.

(By the way, a lot of women at this stage make a mistake that a lot of men make their entire lives: they get desperate. Some women actually repel men because of their desire to get into a serious relationship sooner than the man is comfortable with. And a lot of women at this stage will settle for a man who they’re not compatible with, but who will end up fulfilling their need to have a family.)

So how can you start meeting older women?

You’re not so likely to find them at trendy nightclubs, but you can find them just about everywhere else you can find attractive women: while you’re out shopping, at coffee houses, local bars, or in bookstores. You can also meet them through school, volunteer activities or through friends.

But bar none, the BEST place to meet older women is online dating sites.

Sites like Match.com and E-Harmony have a bevy of older women just looking for some guy to come along and sweep them off their feet.

Some of them have kids, most of them are divorced, but one thing they all have in common is that they’re probably looking to have a good time!

Also, more and more over 30 women are heading towards social networking sites like MySpace as a way to meet new people. Just by doing a quick search for your target age range in your local area on MySpace will yield a number of potential older women you can meet.

But there are problems with dating older women. You may not be as mature as she is, which can be a problem for both of you. And the age difference can become rather awkward should you decide to get married: If there’s a 15-year age difference between you, then she’ll be 50 when you’re 35!

But that’s not to say that you shouldn’t meet and date an older woman. It can be a great experience for you, if you’re aware of the potential issues that can arise in the relationship.

Honestly, the art of meeting and dating older women could fill a book, and unfortunately, I just don’t have the time to go as much into detail with this as I would like.

So if you’re interested in learning more about how to meet and date older women (or just women in general), then I would highly recommend you sign up for my free How To Meet Women crash course.

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Wishing you success,

Joseph Matthews
Author of The Art Of Approaching Women

You can never really know when a pickup is going to go well, but there are ways you can prepare. So here’s some steps for success BEFORE you go out picking up women!

When you go to a place where you know there will be attractive women, make the decision that you’re actually going to pick them up!

Too often, guys will go out with no real goal in mind. And guess what? When you have no outcome in mind – you’ll usually end up with NOTHING.

But if you go out with a specific goal, your chances of achieving that goal go up DRAMATICALLY.

It doesn’t matter if it’s as simple as “Talk To One Woman Tonight,” or as ambitious as “Get Two Women To Come Home For A Threesome.”

As long as you have a goal, your chances of picking up a girl will increase substantially.

You don’t even have to be GOING OUT to pick up women. Maybe you’re visiting a food court in mid-afternoon because you’re feeling hungry, and you know you’ll spot at least one attractive woman there who you could see later.

You may or may not succeed in your quest, but you’re much more likely to have a positive outcome if you go with the mindset that you can pull off a successful pickup.

Always take a pen and paper, or at least your cell phone, wherever you go. You’ll need it for when you exchange numbers with women. Be sure to keep a condom with you, too, just in case! Knowing that you have protection on hand is just one more thing that will keep you from chickening out.

Remember: Do Not Give Yourself An Excuse NOT To Pick Up Women!

Picking up women is a mental exercise.  It’s about overcoming your fear, apprehension, and insecurities.  In short:  going up to a woman with the intent of picking her up is HARD.

So the more factors you have working against you, the easier it will be to justify NOT talking to the girl you want to.

This is a bad, bad, bad idea.  Because it’s always easier NOT to do something than it is to actually just DO IT!

That is why you must mentally prepare yourself for going through with the pick up.  Visualize the outcome you want.  Psych yourself up.  Push yourself to go through with it.

Know your environment. When you meet a girl you like, you’ll want to get together with her soon – preferably the same day, while her attraction for you is still high. Be aware of good places nearby where you can “bounce” to, like bars, coffee houses, lounges, art galleries, or other fun place where you and your “target” can have a change of scenery.

You’ll want to go to a place that’s low-key enough so you can get to know each other better. When you bounce from one location to another, it’s like you’re going on another date. Why wait for another week to pass by to take her on another date so you can build comfort with her, when you know you can do it on the same day?

Have a place in mind where you can become intimate with her. If you live nearby and you can bring her home, so much the better.

Have an excuse to take her home that has nothing to do with sex. You can have a DVD that she’s never seen but has to see, or an exotic drink she’s never tried, or some photos you’ve taken of a place where you’ve been that she’s never seen. Or you can play her a song that you’ve written. It doesn’t matter, as long as it makes her comfortable enough to come over!

Look – there is so much I have to share with you on the topic of picking up women, I could go on FOREVER.

If you’re the type of guy who’s ever struggled with picking up women, then you know how there will never be a lack of interest on this subject.

That is why I am offering my elite “How To Meet Women” Crash Course to you absolutely free.  All you have to do is visit my website to get free instant access to it right now.

In just seconds, you’ll get my first tip on how to pick up women, and they’ll keep on coming – a new one every day – until you finally get the girl you’ve always dreamed of.

So just visit my How To Meet Women website and sign up for my special crash course today!  The longer you wait, the longer it will take you to find the girl of your dreams.

Wishing you success,

Joseph Matthews
Author of The Art Of Approaching Women