Beware that “One Special Girl!”

Why you should never put all your eggs in one basket...

Hey there,

It’s a common question I get asked by almost every single one of my students…

“Joe, there’s this one girl I really like.  How do I get her?”

And my answer is always the same…

“You don’t.”

Now, that might seem a bit pessimistic.  After all, why can’t we go after the girl we want?

Short answer:  You CAN go after the girl you want, and its possible you can GET the girl you want.  But that doesn’t necessarily mean you should put ALL YOUR EFFORT into going after the girl you want.

See, dating really comes down to a numbers game.  And when you limit yourself to one particular girl, you’re actually HURTING your chances of getting the right girl for you.

(The reason being that “one special girl” you like so much might not be the girl you should be going after.)

So when I hear that question about the “one special girl,” I get worried.

Here’s what you SHOULD be doing to not only increase your chances with that girl you like so much, but also ensure that if it doesn’t work out with her, you’re not completely out of luck…

This is a technique I learned the hard way.

See, I used to be the type of guy who’d find a girl, fall madly in love with her, and focus all my efforts on trying to “woo” her to me.

I’d try to be her friend, I’d try to come off as “non threatening,” and I was very careful to try not to scare her off…

In short:  I did everything you’re not supposed to do.

Understand – guys who place ALL their efforts on ONE GIRL will almost always FAIL, because they don’t have any options!

Back when I was a “desperate chump,” I placed so much importance on that “one special girl,” that not only did I get all bent-out-of-shape when things didn’t go right, but I also IGNORED many opportunities with other women because I wasn’t paying attention.

See, when it comes to “one girl,” you have to deal with the fact that:

1. You might not be her type.
2. She might be in a relationship with someone else already.
3. She may not be looking to get involved with anyone romantically.
4. She might just see you as “a friend.”
5. She may be too busy for a relationship at the moment

There are just any number of things that could prevent ONE GIRL from wanting to be with you, and you can’t deal with all of them.

However, when you’re dating multiple girls, you have OPTIONS, and that gives you a great deal of power!

When you’re seeing many different girls, if one doesn’t work out, guess what?  You just move on to another.  Because you’re not totally invested in any ONE girl, even if you get rejected, or she’s too busy/flaky, etc., you don’t have to worry about not having someone else to fall back on.

Having more than just one choice when it comes to women is the BEST thing for keeping your confidence high, and ensuring that you end up with something, instead of nothing.

And keep in mind - these aren’t girls you “settle” for.  Each woman you see should be a girl you actually like and find attractive!

But the best part is, you can STILL try and attract that “one special girl” while you’re dating other girls.

In fact, it actually HELPS you with that special chick you have your heart set on!!!

How?

Simple.  First of all, if the girl is too busy or flaky, you have other options, so you’re not constantly waiting around for her to show you some attention.

Second, she’s not as important to you since you have other options, so its easier to take chances and treat her in a way most other guys don’t.  A.K.A. a bratty little girl!!!

Third, having other women around you and dating you will make you more attractive to that girl you like.  This may sound “counter-intuitive,” but its true.  The social proof of other girls finding you attractive will make that “one special girl” take more notice of you.

So here’s what you need to do…

Start meeting AS MANY GIRLS AS YOU CAN.  The more girls you meet, the more of them you can start dating.  In my course, The Art Of Approaching, I show you how to easily start meeting lots of girls really quickly.

Check it out for yourself here!

Then, start flirting and trying to attract these women, along with that particular girl you want.

I show you EXACTLY how to build attraction and flirt with girls in the course.  It’s fun, and much easier than you think!

And keep working on that girl you like, while still juggling all the OTHER girls.  Eventually, she’ll come around.

But if you REALLY want to know more about building attraction with women, then check out my Renegade Rapport course.  It’s all about how any man can instantly create powerful, emotional connections with girls and get them super-attracted to you fast!

Discover these attraction secrets here!

Remember – always keep your options open!  Play the numbers, and eventually, you’ll find an amazing girl who’s totally into you, and you don’t have to “pine” after her.