How To Stop Putting Women On Pedestals
Hey there,
Do you have problems talking to pretty girls because you think they’re “out of your league?”
Do you see a pretty woman and immediately “clam up” and are afraid to talk to her?
Are you worried that women will reject you, and you have no idea how to overcome that horrible feeling and start meeting the type of women you deserve?
If that’s the case, then you might be making a BIG MISTAKE most guys make when it comes to women – putting them up on pedestals! But luckily, this type of thing can be easily fixed, IF you know the right tricks to level the playing field with beautiful women.
So let’s talk about how, exactly, you can overcome this…Today’s question comes from a guy who goes by the handle “Legendary.” And it has to do with how to stop putting attractive girls up on a pedestal.
Legendary writes:
I’ve always met girls through my social circle, so I’ve been going out alot lately to improve my skills at cold approaching.
A few months ago I didn’t even open, now I’m comfortable opening, even get a few numbers here and there but I’m not building attraction for some reason, just being a friendly/funny social guy with girls that are 6′s or less…
when it comes to girls that are 7′s or higher I notice that I really put them on a pedestal and feel that I’m not good enough for them… logically I know this doesn’t make sense: I’m a good looking guy, funny and have a good job.. but its a feeling that I get before I approach them regardless.
Any advice on how to rid my brain of this thought pattern would be highly appreciated…
First off, kudos to you for getting out there and approaching women. That’s the crucial first step in any type of improvement. Good job! Going from not approaching any women, to being able to chat up girls in just a couple months is phenomenal progress!
But now you’re running into some “growing pains.” As your skill-set matures, you’ll run into a few obstacles you’re not prepared for quite yet, like the one described about putting women on pedestals.
Let me just say – THIS IS VERY COMMON!
Lots of guys do this when they find a woman attractive. This is actually a natural thing to do. When we see something as high value, we tend to think about it in terms of being desirable.
And when it comes to “high value people,” we immediately want approval from these people.
THAT is where the danger comes in!
When you seek approval from someone, you’re submitting yourself to be JUDGED.
And that leaves you open to being REJECTED!
Because your subconscious mind knows that a “high value girl” could reject you, as a defense mechanism, you clam up around them. You try to “play it safe.” You don’t want to do anything that could cause that girl to reject you. And as a result, you usually BLOW YOUR CHANCE WITH HER. Why? Because you don’t do any of the things you need to in order to attract her!
So the way to get around this is to learn how to lower the value of the girl in your mind, and have a very HIGH VALUE placed on yourself. When you feel equal, or even slightly superior to a woman, she immediately becomes far easier to approach and talk to!
There are lots of methods on how to make yourself high value to women, and how to lower their value so they’re easier to talk to – and I cover them in my course The Art Of Approaching.
If you have a hard time talking to women because you’re always putting them on pedestals and submitting yourself to their judgement, then you definitely need to check it out.
In my course, I break down the fundamentals of MALE SELF-CONFIDENCE and teach you not only how to mentally build yourself up and project strong, confident energy around women, I’ll also show you some easy techniques to make “high value women” a little less high value, and therefore easier to talk to.
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Before you know it, you’ll be on a level-playing field with any woman – no matter how hot she is – and best of all, you’ll be getting killer results!
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