What Do You Think Of The Art Of Approaching?
Okay all of you out there in cyberspace…
I’ve been selling the Art Of Approaching for a couple years now, and it just seems to be getting bigger and more popular as time goes on.
With the upcoming release of my new course Renegade Rapport, it’s important to remember that it’s the next phase beyond The Art Of Approaching. I’m hoping that anyone interested in getting their hands on Renegade Rapport will have already experienced the Art Of Approaching on it’s own, since a lot of fundamentals are listed in that course.
So here’s your chance to let me know: What do you think of the Art Of Approaching? Did you like it? How has it helped you? Would you recommend it to anyone?
Let me know your answers in the comments section of this entry.
Side Note: The best comment will recieve a special prize! So make it good!
January 16th, 2007 at 12:03 am
In my opinion, the content in Art of Approaching is taught elsewhere, but in ALOT of different places. To obtain that quality and quantity of information, I’ve had to have a WIDE RANGE of background in various methods, which can be time consuming and (to be honest) a waste of valuable time to a beginner starting out. I refer to it as I’ve progressed to different experience levels. The Art of Approaching provides a simple, straight forward approach to approaching that transcends methods. I still look back on it and brush up on some essentials that I’ve forgotten.
January 16th, 2007 at 4:14 am
I really loved the art of approaching and can’t wait for more. One of the things about it that really sticks in my mind is how you taught us how to tell if a woman checks you out.
When the eyes flick down and then back up again as they pass you when your walking down the street. Since learning that I have seen lots of women checking me out and its really help boost my confidence.
I really can’t wait to get a hold of your new material.
Thanks for the great work you have put together.
January 16th, 2007 at 4:37 am
Hi, the art of approaching is just a great e-book to start getting results in the real world. All of the other methods won’t do shit for beginners if you do not start approaching! If you are also someone who does not like to go out consistantly and so do not meet a lot of woman you better know how to do it right… I am extremely curious about the renegade report because I finally want to know how to make a real deep intimate connection with a great woman!
January 16th, 2007 at 5:34 am
I have spent a lot of money on different peoples products and most of it didn’t tell me what I wanted to know. After buying the Art Of Approaching and also the Advanced Multi-Media Course, I started to find and understand some of the information that I didn’t find in other peoples material. I now feel more confident about approaching beautiful women, but I still feel I have a long way to go, and a lot more to learn before I reach the level I would like to be at.
January 16th, 2007 at 6:40 am
IMHO The Art of Approaching is an exceptional value, especially when you consider the cost of some of the other material out there (for that matter even compared to less expensive eBooks). I’m new to the community and as such don’t have a lot of experience with other courses, but the few I have tried haven’t been up to par with tAoA. Joseph gives you a lot of useful information presented in a straight forward, easy to read fashion. I’m not shy about requesting a refund, and have with other courses, but tAoA is a keeper and well worth the money.
January 16th, 2007 at 7:28 am
The Art Of Approaching is, without a shadow of a doubt, the most comprehensive and informative manual on seduction and dating. Joseph lays down the bare facts in an easy-to-understand and digest format.
Everything in this e-book is within grasp of ALL men seeking to learn or improve on their seduction techniques. Not only does Joseph focus on the actual mechanics of seduction and dating, but also on the extremely important subject of INNER GAME.
This book has definitely made a huge impact on the way I view dating and more importantly on the way I view myself!
January 16th, 2007 at 7:30 am
What I really enjoyed about The Art of Approaching was the emphasis on the psychological aspects of meeting women. One of the key things that I took away from the book can be summarized by the title of a subsection: “Women are not attracted to men who aren’t attracted to themselves”. This made me realize that in order to have positive, successful interactions with women, I needed to improve my interaction with myself, and to get rid of all the negative beliefs that hinder me from reaching my goal. Once I identified the things that needed to be worked on, the approaching women part became almost straightforward, thanks to the ideas from the Bootcamp section. There is still a lot to work on, of course, but now I am confident that I have what it takes to succeed.
January 16th, 2007 at 7:34 am
My journey in this world of wingmen and routines started with “The Game” by Neil Strauss. I got my eyes opened to a lot of things that were quite obvious, but things that I’d never thought about in that way before (isn’t always like that with stuff that’s ‘obvious’?). Anyway, after finishing the book I continued my journey to The Mystery Method’s homepage, and after reading a couple of free articles they recommended to check out the AoA. I clicked the link to go to the AoA-website, and immediately purchased the full AoA-course.
Now, to my thoughts on the product: What struck me first was that it seemed to have a much more ‘human’ take on how to meet women. I had read quite a lot on other methods before buying the AoA, and many of them seemed quite ‘robotic’ (in lack of a better word). When I read the AoA it seemed like friendly advice that was always spot-on, in stead of the somewhat impersonal approach some of the other courses seemed to go for. I have yet to go through with the bootcamp-part of the book, but I will as soon as I have the time to do so. But just by reading the e-book I feel more confident, and also more happy with myself, so I am eagerly anticipating what will happen when I start going out in the field. I’m already picking up on the body language of girls who are interested in me!
Or to say it in one sentence: I think the AoA is brilliant.
January 16th, 2007 at 7:48 am
There are a lot of books out there, and only a few which are worth reading. This is one of those and it’s not really expensive. If you only want one book, than this is a good choice. And since the approaching step is the hardest one(because you don’t get practice if you just don’t approach) it’s a good thing to have a book like this for beginners.
January 16th, 2007 at 7:57 am
I agree with others when they say that this information is available other places as well. But the way you have combined the knowledge into one single book/file is great, and I liked that there was a “flow” in the entire book. Made it easy to read a lot or just a little without feeling you missed out on anything. I also liked the way you showed how to create our own openers by how it was structured.
I see this book as a very solid product and I have no regrets about buying it.
January 16th, 2007 at 8:12 am
What i really gained from the art of approaching, was not only a better understanding of how women tend to think when they are approached, but a better, clearer vision of my own thinking. What this has led to for me, is not only huge success with women, but in my life in general. I have been able to use many of the ideas in creating rapport with clients, friends and pretty much anybody else. There is so much more to it than just picking up women. The course works, plain and simple. It has led me to so many other topics, (eg: NLP) websites, and a few wannabe “gurus”.
The Art of Approaching is something i always reccomend to my friends when they ask, How did you pick HER up? or, Howcome the girls always come up to you? It has without doubt made my life more enjoyable than ever before. Its taken a while to learn it all, but it has paid off in dividends. There is always room to improve, so bring on the next step, I just hope im ready for it.
January 16th, 2007 at 8:19 am
I wouldn’t say Art of Approaching only changed my life. It changed ME.
It changed the way I thought, the way I acted. It helped me become someone that doesn’t give up before starting, and not only does that apply with approaching and meeting women, but also in every part of my life. I learned how to build rapport with women, but also people in general. I used to think about what to say next instead of listening.
Now I know how social interactions really work and my life is a hell of a lot more fun since I’ve learned how to finally connect with women.
An interesting fact is that this product is international, my mother tongue is french and since this book is well written and easy to understand, I could get every bit of information out of it and the best part is it applies to everyone on this planet, whatever language they speak.
Thanks Joe!
January 16th, 2007 at 8:52 am
I have been reading and applying other techniques so far but there turns out to be something missing always in those. I was thrilled by your style and the Art of Aproaching because it filled in the missing details. Also, it is much more reasonable and doable that I feel I can actually apply them.
January 16th, 2007 at 8:54 am
I would say that the Art of Approaching has good material in it, but I still haven’t managed to actually use it, I find it doesn’t help me that much. It seems like a you need to believe this for it to work thing, but I can’t help but think I need to see it working for me to believe it. I have had the Art of Approaching for over a month now, and still haven’t grasped approaching complete strangers, let alone strangers who are women
January 16th, 2007 at 8:55 am
Hi everybody,
I am freshly starting to dig into the ArOfAp! So far (also from the mp3 section as well), it appeals to me more that other (complementary?) materials. I REALLY hope that there is a hope even for somebody at my level (pretty much zero). Okey, enough self-pitty. Sorry.
I like it because it is straightforward and clear! I cant wait to actually try the techniques. I should mention that I am in a foreign country where I can barely speak the language (German). If you are a speaker of a latin langauage, you know how not so easy speaking German can be.
But I WILL TRY IT! And I can not but hope that I ArOfAp
will work even in my situation!
So, hats off for the ArOfAp, and if it wil show even the smallest positive result for me, i will probably be speachless for days. So far, I am still in the state where I am convinced that I am as good as it gets (as in the movie).
In any case, it is interesting material and nicely written (I love the conversational style!).
Cheers and keep up
the good work!
Good luck to all the guys out there!
V.
January 16th, 2007 at 8:58 am
The greatest lesson I learned from the Art of Approaching was to release your attachment to the outcome and just enjoy the experience. I started doing cold approaches with a friend of mine as a way to pass time. I still remember the moment when it clicked, when I realized that are women nothing to be afraid of, worshiped, or manipulated. They are just people, and when you engage them on that level, they are in general easier to speak to and way more FUN than the average man!
When she sees that you place enormous weight on your interaction, all she sees is the potential for a hard fall, and even if she likes you, she will be held back by her fears.
But if you are light and carefree, and enjoy yourself regardless, she will feel safe (both with herself and with you), and you can turn her thoughts to what all women really crave: fun, excitement, good times, and finding that man whose touch sends her into transcendent orgasm!
Women are crazy, eh?
Peace and Happiness.
TheIdiotPrince
P.S. For the love of god and women everywhere please please PLEASE check out Van Arrick! If you liked the step-by-step break downs of The Art of Approaching, you CANNOT MISS what this man has to say!
January 16th, 2007 at 8:59 am
I know this guy that went to a bootcamp with Joseph.
We were at the same level pretty much. But he came back a completely different person. It was nuts. It took me about six months to be able to do what he could do.
Of course…by those six months, he was getting 3-somes everynow and then. I still can’t believe it.
He introduced me to Joseph’s book and specially the ‘Bootcamp’ idea.
I like how it is designed to ‘Break any limits’ you have to build a completely different thing.
When I first got it, out of the rush and not really thinking, I did 6 approaches a day for 3 weeks straight.
I’m still proud of that.
Since I’m still nervous when talking to chicks, I’ll continue with my bootcamp until I know what ‘true confidence feels like’.
- Orlando.
January 16th, 2007 at 9:32 am
It is the most comprehensive and easy to follow manual on the market today! And I have gone through many such courses. Pack with so much information that it leaves no room for doubt or questions as to how to apply this stuff. My fears of approaching women is all but gone! I find it so easy to approach these women now that now I find it ridiculous to think that I was afraid of this. Approaching women is not a problem for me anymore now that I have this knowledge I wish I had long ago. I highly recommend the Art Of Approaching to any man who ever wished that they could approach the hottest women in the club or bar or anyplace they can think of but just didn’t know what to do or say!!! It was a lifesaver for me!!!
Sincerely,
Anthony
January 16th, 2007 at 9:36 am
I love the course. It’s one of the only things out there that talks specifically about approaching. Other styles do talk about it, but it’s generally just a quick section. AoA is great too because it also covers inner game issues related to approaching. Approaching is half the battle anyway, so this book is pure gold.
January 16th, 2007 at 11:24 am
wow this guy knows his stuff, i love the course, i’ve been reading his emails and it definitely enlightened me from being a guy who had zero chances to definitely more chances with girls. Its easy to follow and different from other books from other artists, this art of approaching definitely could help any man, ANY man.
January 16th, 2007 at 11:25 am
I must say I m somewhat surprised.
Not one negative thing is said about the aoa.
This is quite unusual here.
Thundercats course must be the real deal……
January 16th, 2007 at 11:39 am
The e-book ‘Art of Approaching’ is a great introduction to the one part of dealing with women that most men find the greatest difficulty with - the approach. They don’t know what to say, and look for great ‘pickup lines’ that will make any woman swoon. But of course if the delivery of these lines is not congruent with their comfort level in dealing with women, they will fail in almost every single circumstance. Following the advice in AoA will help men get on their way to meeting women with more ease then they have had in the past. Of course it is up to them to start getting out there appoaching people, but the basics of what they need to know is all in the book. Fantastic intro to those whose lame excuse is ‘but i don’t know what to say….” AoA is lacking some fundamentals needed in attracting women, but this book isn’t about attraction - it’s about approaching. In that sense it’s a must buy for those that want to taking attracting women seriously.
January 16th, 2007 at 11:44 am
Blows Away the Competition - is my opinion on the course. I’ve tried over 12 other programs just like it in the last 6 years, and nothing has come close to Art Of Approaching.
I’ve used this course for 5 months now and it has changed my understanding of women. I can now approach any woman and have a fantastic time with her.
I’d highly recommend this book to any guy. At first I was skeptical, but when I read the book it all made sense. Knowledge is Power. This is a must have book!!!
January 16th, 2007 at 12:20 pm
If I have to discribe art of approaching in 1 word it will probably be “live-changer” It has changed my life big time. After I’ve read it I was thinking about it in the mall. I saw a HB walking by and there was a strange flicker in my mind that said “a fuck it, just go for it!” I opened the girl with a opinion opener a little small talk and I even managed to get her phone number, called her up for a date and…… she was my first ex.
it’s easy to read and understand and no rocked science psycology (however I find psycology very interesting, but a friend of mine doesn’t understand a thing of it and still understood it when he read AoA). I would recommend the art of approaching to every man that wants to approach (and more) all those single HB that are waiting for them 
I like the art of approaching the best becouse it’s not so … how would i say it….. difficult.. and not so techinical you know
January 16th, 2007 at 12:30 pm
Hey Thundercat. I’m sure you’re not going to view this as the “best comment which is getting a prize” - but I want to be honest.
Art of Approaching isn’t magic. Sure, it’s a great collection of many of the best openers out there. But although it’s necessary, opening is a very minimal part of the game. I hope and expect the RR is more than that.
January 16th, 2007 at 1:08 pm
Hello, I am a female and I don’t actually use these techniques for picking up people. I came across this website and realized that a lot of these techniques could be used in the business world. This is especially true considering a lot of the time you’re approaching people “cold”. I’m trying to do the same thing a guy trying to pick up a girl is doing. I’m trying to get a lead to like me and be interested in what I have to offer without turning them off with the typical song and dance. Has this helped? Absolutely. I’m much better at reading people and my confidence has improved when approaching people. It’s a good buy and is well worth the price (it’s very affordable). You’ll learn new things every time you read it!
January 16th, 2007 at 1:59 pm
Hey there,
Well I have to say that it works, I haven’t bought it yet, which I should, but because of money issues I cannot sadly. Although many other PUA’s recommend this book, just the newsletter makes enough sense to me that IF I had the money to use then it would go to that. Approaching is the most crucial part of dating and hooking up with women. I am not going to BS with you since well the Renegade Rapport looks astonishing and it is the only reason I am commenting sadly. My own greed.. Others probably have much better reasons for wanting it, but I want to be real with you. I am horrible at approaching women and I am pretty desperate. I am not a good person to talk to women on the spot, or at a dance. Heck! I hate even calling people I am not comfortable with. When I do say something to a woman in general it is usually something like, “Hey whats goin on..” . That’s it, it’s better then nothing, but it usually is nothing with me just giving glances sometimes… I know horrible! Maybe it is because I am 16 and not smart enough to know, but I feel that maybe Renegade Rapport can help with my conversations. The Art of Approaching newsletter has been valuable enough and I haven’t even bought the product. Anyone with the money should buy it and watch out for Renegade Rapport!
January 16th, 2007 at 2:27 pm
What do you think of the Art Of Approaching?
It’s very effective for me. I’m a naturally good conversationalist once the rapport starts building, but I could never muster the courage to approach or even ask out a girl I know. Like you said, the approach is one of the most neglected aspect of the pickup arts. One can’t advance if he doesn’t know the basics well. My sticking point is still the overwhelming approach anxiety and resulting nervousness, but I’m sure with enough practice and some help from the audio and my friends I’ll be able to reduce it if not ignore it. Plus, Art of Approaching is systematic, but not overly technical. That means not too many contrived situations. I suck at that stuff.
Did you like it?
It’s definitely an investment I’m glad I made. Some of the other pickup systems I bought were from lesser-known names and were far more expensive, even during a bargain. Those never worked too well for me, and it was somehow “my fault” that they didn’t. $100 is still pricey for a college student, but I’m sure the general social skills and confidence I develop from the system will do much more than simply earning me a return.
How has it helped you?
The multimedia format basically hammered certain concepts in. I’m more confident about just talking to women, I’m slightly more aware of what I’m doing, and I can read body language better. Huge plus in any social interaction. The strategic thinking helped out as well, as it dissected a hectic complicated situation into a series of steps. Being a systematic guy myself, I was able to learn that easily and apply it to my life. My goal isn’t only to meet women. I’ve made some new friends using Art of Approaching as well. Life-changer? Not really, but it definitely improved my life’s quality drastically.
I’d also like to reiterate a previous comment about how this applies to the business world. I’m a shark in my classes and that’s because first of all I participate, and second of all, the story-telling section gave me insight into how I should answer questions to establish myself as an authority (not nerd) in the eyes of both my professors and my peers.
Would you recommend it to anyone?
I’d definitely recommend this to my friends who have trouble with women, or are good with women, but can’t approach them. I’m Asian, so a special recommendation goes out to all my yellow brothers who still have the self-defeating mentality of “Asians don’t get girls.” APB and Papa from RSD (bad word, I know) did it. Any Asian with a shred of common sense and confidence can as well.
January 16th, 2007 at 2:57 pm
I think the ” Art of approaching ” its the most complete approaching method on the market right now. The Art of approaching is a comprehensive learning method of how to be more succesful with women , especially on overcoming the fear of approaching ,and be comfortable and confident around women.
Not only i like it , i love it , because the art of approaching is responsible for an improvement on my loving life and dating skills , making my life more enjoyable .
The art of approaching helped me a lot , especially increasing my confidence , my self esteem , and my life over all. Its like you having a helping hand around you when you most needed.
Every one who is seriuos about develop or increase their dating skills should obtain this wonderful method . Joseph Matthews is a real seduction master and a real authority on dating and seduction . I recommend this method , like i said before , to every one who is really seriuos about improve their dating skills . love life , self esteem , and life.
January 16th, 2007 at 3:29 pm
When I think of the AOA, I think of it as a course. For anyone who actually took the time to read through the ebook once, read it again and take notes to make sure it digested, and then follow through with the multimedia course, you will begin to notice on a subconscious level a different way of approaching women, both physically, and psychologically. Of course, if you read it and don’t use it, you’re wasting your time and money. If you do use your new knowledge from this book, you will not only change the way you communicate with women, but you will have a great resource to improve your social life.
For its purposes of approaching, I thought the content was great. A few things about what to do after approaching weren’t clear, however this book is about approaching. Topics that I didn’t think would be covered, like the section on a social life, body language, and “strategery”, really helped me. I remember the mindfulness you mentioned of realizing that most of the high quality women we meet won’t be from cold approaching, but from our social circles, and I think that it is an area that could be given it’s own attention, even it’s own small ebook.
Overall, a wonderful resource and reference for someone just starting out, and I congratulate the winner of the “best” comment. May you go out and use your earned knowledge for the better good of making all women you meet feel good.
January 16th, 2007 at 3:46 pm
I would have liked a little more exposition on your research and formative experiences leading up to the release of your e-book. Possibly more references to books and sources that were influential to you.
Over all it was informative and I enjoyed reading it. I think the most valuable thing you can gain from this book is a sort of confidence instilled by simply having a teacher and using their success as a boost for your own.
January 16th, 2007 at 8:14 pm
i work and go to school and there are beautiful women around me all of the time. i’m not scared to approach women, it’s just that i would go blank once i did. well i got the art of approaching and reaad through it and then each day i would read a sectiion and all the while practice everything that joe laid out for me in his book and the results have been phenominal! i don’t get time to go out much because of my schedule, but i don’t need to because this material works all of the time anywhere, if you haven’t gotten it, get it!! i can’t wait to get my hands on “regade” becausse that’s what i’m becomming.
January 16th, 2007 at 10:57 pm
I liked the material in the AOA, but the presentation left a lot to be desired. While it was easy for JM to create these screen movies with voice, the format didn’t lend itself to quick assimilation of material. I felt like I paid to waste my time and save yours.
Would have been MUCH better if there was some digital written material as a supplement. I ended up taking notes, which is all I refer to now.
2cool
January 16th, 2007 at 11:39 pm
The AoA Definitley helped me on my Fear of the Approach. I didnt know what to say to girls. I felt like i was a loser and it seemed that everyone had a girlfriend, but me. When i read AoA, a part of me seem to awaken. I felt like this was the key to starting conversations with girls.
I then got off my ass and tried the material in AoA. It worked like a charm. It was easier than i thought to start conversations with girls. After awhile, I realized It didnt matter what i said in the opener. I can freestyle different versions of the materials in AoA. I can get numbers now. But im still getting flakes out the ass. Thats okay. I still need alot to work on.
I guess it was just the fear of the unknown. And AoA helped me get past that fear. Kudo’s.
January 17th, 2007 at 12:00 am
I’m awesome and gosh darnit people like me. I was listening to my ipod when I heard Joseph Matthew’s voice - giving me the assuredness to talk to the girl on the bike next to me. But, I never really needed the audio help because The Art of Approaching had dealt with my many of my internal issues. It’s a very complete course and uses simple casual language. No question about it! You’ll Always be Prepared!
January 17th, 2007 at 4:08 am
Kissing ass to get a free course? Haha…No seriously the Art of approaching rocked, very in depth and definite must read for any APUA, or established PUAs alike. Ive read the Venusian Arts and Juggler’s Ebooks, and the Art of approaching is on par with both of them. Personally I hate memorization (which is why i wasn’t too successful with mystery’s method), which is the main reason im dying for the Renegade Report, Especially if it builds on and is anything like the Art of Approaching.
January 17th, 2007 at 9:11 am
Hi, I like the book, but there are some issues with the methodology. For example, you mention that affirmations are no good, but yet you write in the book to “psyche” yourself up before going out by saying things like “I’m gonna have fun etc etc”. Arent these basically affirmations to psyche oneself up? Some clarification would be nice. I like the opinion openers; I think they’re, by far, the most effective. I’ve read the book once and am on the way to my 2nd and 3rd times and am looking forward to getting to be a good PUA. I think more input on body language would be great as well and this is one area where rapport and body language are so tied into one another. Hope renegade rapport will go into the science of this…
January 17th, 2007 at 2:30 pm
I’d like to start this off by prefacing that I’ve read a few books on that topic. What your book differs from the others? Well everybody can become superman (I mean the muscle structure) by visiting the gym regularly. This also counts when it comes to women - everybody can become successful with women by.. learning how. I’ll use my example of superman to explain it. All these books give a way of becoming superman (be successful with women), but in my opinion your book The Art Of Approaching gives the quickest way, described in a understandable language with all steps covered (from overcoming the fear to actual dating). If I have a chance now to buy all those books I’ve read and yours, I will chose yours with no doubt and not waste my money on the others - yes, they give some good tips and advices, but they not give enough solid basic, while your book is a very good start (glad to hear the advanced Renegat Rapport is ready). I’d like to thank you for writing this book and letting people chance to feel the success with women in a quick efficient way!
January 17th, 2007 at 4:08 pm
“What Do I Think of Art of Approaching”
Well in my opinion, there are few other things that make ‘The Art of Approaching’ stand out:
First, it takes all the “guess work” out of approaching women. I like the fact that this guide gives SPECIFIC examples of how to initiate a conversation with a woman that’ll spark both her curiosity AND interest.
It’s few places I’ve found which gives you detailed information on how to walk up to a girl and start talking to her. What’s cool is these techniques have worked for me in many different settings (bars, bookstores, the beach, etc.)
Another thing I like is Joseph’s emphasis on adapting a whole lifestyle change. It’s cool that he talks at length on how to increase your confidence and make yourself a better person. Unlike a lot of resources, he seems to actually LIKE women.
It seems like a lot of the other guides out there are written by former losers who want to use and abuse women to make up for years of being scorned. So it’s refreshing change from the other resources I’ve checked out.
It’s more about making changes to yourself and learning how you can be more attractive to women.
Another thing I liked about this resource is how he provides a ‘Boot Camp’ section where you receive a checklist to help you learn the art of approaching. This is one of the first places which tells you ‘how to do it’ instead of ‘what to do’.
The boot camp section is perfect for those who can’t think of how to start meeting women.
Finally and most importantly, I enjoyed ‘The Art of Approaching’ because it can teach you how to open women and engage them in conversation.
You can tell Joseph spent a lot of time on this one particular section. In fact, there are over 100 pages of material which covers many different techniques you can use to approach women.
Now I do have one slight negative comment…
The damn book is over 340 pages long!
I’m a quick reader, but it took me a couple of days to get through it and take notes. I see the average guy having trouble with completing it. The 80/20 principle dictates the most guys will look at it, see it’s length and never get around to finishing it.
I think the guys who do this are missing out. Because it’s got a lot of useful information.
Maybe to help them out, there should be a condensed version which gives enough information to get started. Kind of like a Cliff’s Notes version.
Welll that’s my .02 cents.
Thanks Joseph…keep up the great work!
January 17th, 2007 at 8:37 pm
Man I wished I had seen and gotten “The art of Approaching” a few weeks earlier than I did cause then I’d known what to do when I had this happen to me……. I was at a club haven a few beers watchin the chicks dancin and decided to go out on the dance floor and try to learn the dance steps–figured Hell I ain’t goin to learn the steps if I dont do it…so I did an screwed up the steps but had fun trying… then all of a sudden this chick comes out on the floor and more or less attacks me, we stumble to the floor and get up laughin…then we danced a couple dances then she motions to her sis to come out and we all danced a few more ( I thinkin DAMN look at Me..O YEAH!!! O YEAH!!!) then we went over to their table, she asked me for a drink…I did…test failed n that was that,Damn If I’d only known……Now that i’ve read “AoA” an Learned ALOT,Man… I can see all the mistakes I’ve made,and I understand why she attacked me…I was having fun and she got excited about it… U can Bet Ur A.. I wont miss that Opportunity again!!!!! I cant wait to read “RENEGADE REPORT” if its the next phase from “AoA”… Man-O-Man!!!
January 17th, 2007 at 8:47 pm
Well, for me… I’ve learned that the
attitude is far more important than
techniques. Without the right attitude
when it comes to approaching woman,
whatever tricks you have–or even the
best tricks in the world–wont work for
you. You may seduce her for a moment,
but she’ll smell that you’re faking it…
and your effort wont work.
It’s much more on the right thing to
“do” rather than the right thing to
“say.” I’ve learned that openers are
just “secondary.” Women still looks on
how they feel about you, not on what
they hear form you.
As of now, I have 8 prospects and
these women are gone crazy. Thanks a
lot. I’m confident know and I have
“metamorphed” from my old geek
personality. I can strike conversations
with women whenever I want, how
beautiful she is, whoever she may be.
I was like a “walking lady-meeting
machine!” LOL!
Well guys out there, just develop your
attitude and the rest will follow.
And by the way, I personally think that
your book MAY not be the best… But
it is guaranteed to make you successful.
This book is morethan techniques, it’s a
system on how to live.
Man, you’re a monster!
January 17th, 2007 at 10:00 pm
I am always wary about products before I purchase. The openers in this book come recommended.
January 17th, 2007 at 10:41 pm
The short version: it works. The slightly longer version: it totally works.
I think we ultimately have to be realistic; no single course of any type will make someone a star in anything. Acquiring exceptional skills in any endeavor–from soccer to stamp collecting–requires time and effort. However, some courses can give you solid results that make a genuine difference, and “The Art of Approaching” definitely pulls no punches.
No man will ever have a 100% success rate with women. Admittedly, we men often make errors in our approach. What makes matters exponentially more complicated is that women have a myriad of issues that we men will never have to deal with in our lives. Therefore, given that women are (as we are) rational beings, rejection is bound to be a reality for each of us at one point or another.
Although life with the ladies is tough, Joe gives men a fighting chance with his course. No, there are no mind tricks that will get all women to beg for a date. However, “The Art of Approaching” does do an awesome job of filling in the gaps in our dating knowledge; thereby taking our dating skills to the graduate level. Any man (with the exception of the absolutely most clueless of men) can drastically strengthen his game with the course. Going from zero to game in nothing flat is no longer a pipe dream. If a man already has some game, he will have some serious game with a little effort.
Prior to reading through “The Art of Approaching” a few weeks ago, I was decently successful with women. I had girlfriends and regular dates. I would say that my success rate was about 70% overall. However, I always saw approaching women as a necessary evil to some pleasant end. Initiating a relationship with a woman was never something I could totally enjoy. All I can say is that I am now having fun with my approaches, and the ladies are enjoying them, too.
A man does not need to make the approach some sort of a high-pressure sale. Smooth is fast, and fast is smooth. Engaging women is a blast, and “The Art of Approaching” provides the direction.
I would recommend this course, that is for sure. The only problem is that there would be more competition out there…
January 18th, 2007 at 12:24 am
I’m not even going to try to pretend to say that this ebook totally changed my life, because it didn’t. My experience with it was a bit different.
A few months ago, through a post in a forum on this subject, I discovered the world of seduction and that I was an AFC, someone who gave women too much importance. I ended up discovering the different PUA’s of the of the seduction world, and their stances on the mysterious topic of love. I learned what was the proper behavior for having success with girls, and things improved, slightly. They explained it usually on their terms, and it was not understandable for a recovering AFC like me, who has been single all his life, and has never gotten past the friend stage with a woman. Good thing I’m still young:)
I won’t say this ebook totally shattered my world, but I like how the meat of the book focuses on what do in the opening acts. This is what a fledging Don Juan needs to know, you can’t have success with women without starting off a interaction right. Your views were neutral, and basic enough to take your reader into account.
Also, most PUA’s tell you the whole deal, how to get women from start to finish. Beginniners find this frustrating, not enough time is spent on each section, and you are teaching us your way of grabbing women. Your book doesn’t explain very much what to do after the opener at all. It gives you a sort of self improvement challenge to grow our journey to be a DJ (Don Juan). This is how everyone should truly teach it, I don’t want to be told exactly how to do things, life always throws a wrench into the equation (believe me, the moment I start spewing canned stuff, funny yet scary stuff starts happening). By giving us a foundation though, and letting us build and test our own ways, we learn slower, but our understanding grows deeper from more experience.
I know that I’ll end up being a Don Juan in time, because I’m following my own path, instead of another person’s destiny.
Thanks for giving me a push in the right direction.
-DJ Adonis
P.S. Thanks for recommending Swingers, it was a decent movie, the plot wasn’t my style, but seeing the difference between the two men’s body language was gold.
January 18th, 2007 at 2:14 am
Hey Joseph,
I purchased AOA and the advanced multimedia course about 6 months ago and it changed my life. AOA gave me a simple step by step guide on how to apporach and gain rapport with women.
Now all my mates think im a legend because of your group theroy tactics. If only they knew how easy it was.
Keep up the good work
Ryan
January 18th, 2007 at 8:03 am
Having read the majority of the so-called gurus in the area of dating, I rate this high. First, The Art of Approaching, doesn’t waste time on talking about nonsensical things. It gets right to the point. The manner in which it is written is more like a close friend talking to another friend that it makes it easy to get through. It doesn’t require you to become a clown or dress like a damn fool. It encourages you to just be yourself with the material. Mr. Murphy’s work is always geared towards making it ‘easier,’ instead of more and more lines and a whole host of other junk that is time consuming and really leads to nowhere. Besides, why spend so much money on all the other stuff out there, when you can get the best right here for less. Every month more and more gurus are popping up. Stay with the Art of Approaching, the DVD’s and his new material coming out and I assure you, “You’ll be the Man/Player/Pimp.” Just Do It!!
January 18th, 2007 at 8:23 am
I wish I had the opportunity to recommend the Art of Approaching under a better context. In a giveaway as generous as the one Joseph Matthews is proposing, my motives may seem jaded and what I have to say has likely been said in one of the 46 posts below me.
So setting aside the ass-kissing contest, I want to assure each and every reader that my post is honest and heart-felt. Mr. Matthews’ blog was my first experience with this world of seduction, and not all of us prospective “PUA’s” have such a solid bridge to cross. I did. I had before me a fire hydrant from which I had only planned to take a sip.
Mystery, Tyler Durden, Style, Swinggcat, David Deangelo, Gunwitch, Ross Jeffries - oh dear god! Some were good, some were bad, some were on the fence. All were presented through Matthews’ opinion and perspective, albeit, but all were presented with the promise of a whole new life. I mean, it wasn’t a question of whether my game was good or bad. I had no game at all. That blog opened my mind, eyes, and doors I had never imagined.
The Art of Approaching was the first product I purchased from this world. What a kickass investment. This community, and even this blog, is as intimidating to a layman as a scholarly article database is to a college student. Here, in this book, everything was condensed and consolidated, and all in the first step of pick-up.
I was approaching women later that day, pulling numbers later that number, landing dates later that week, and getting laid later that month. That month took my social and sex life, beat it to its last breath, and then rebuilt it into not only a fearless but greatly enjoyable experience.
All of my knowledge stands on the foundation of this blog. All of my experience stands on the foundation of this book. I don’t know what Joseph intends to share in his new product, or who he will choose to share it with first. I don’t care. I trust that whatever is up his sleeve is of excellent standard. And I’m glad I could take this opportunity to instill the same trust in anyone reading it who has struggled like I and so many others have in the past.
January 18th, 2007 at 9:33 am
Hi Joseph,
Did I like your ebook? You betcha!
Did it change my life? Not just mine but my mate Marco is a completely changed man.
Let me enlighten you, my dear friend.
Modesty aside, I am easy on the eye so, I never had many problems approaching girls, as a matter of fact, they were who took the initiative!
So one night out in town, with a mate of mine that used to be dead shy, introduced me to your ebook after I saw him jumping from set to set making lots of girls sharing their opinion & laughing their arses off!!!
When I asked where he got his new burst of confidence from, he proceeded to explain with sheer enthusiasm and detail about this secret society and all its PUG’s, and praised your book as ‘the easiest pussy magnet manual available to man’.
Sceptical as I was, I asked Marco to lend me the book so I could read it and give my honest male opinion.
I forget to mention that we’re not English but Portuguese guys from the island of Madeira, so your work is well known even in the most secluded island in the Atlantic Ocean and that your book is simply known as “O íman da pachacha!”, but I digress.
Back in track, a week passed and I tried a lot of your openers with Portuguese girls (after adapting them to our ways of course), and was more than impressed with the results especially the opinion ones.
I pointed out before that girls always opened me, what I didn’t say was that because of that little tiny detail, I never took the lead as there was no need to!
Nonetheless, a lot of times girls would open me straight away but sometimes, they would take too bloody long!!
As you might have guessed, even with hundreds of girls in my life, I’ve always been very shy.
The result of your ebook in my life was that I don’t need to wait for the girl to loose her inhibitions and open me with silly lines; in fact I can go up to them and show that I can walk the walk & talk the talk!
And that my friend, is rather priceless!
But as you might have guessed a bunch of canned lines work up to an extent in a tiny island. Sooner or later you come across a girl that has been opened by either meself or Marco!!!
That ain’t a issue for me however Marco still needs a wee bit of help.
So if this Renegade Rapport can aid people, it will definitely be very useful to my mate!
Finally, as his birthday falls on the 1st of February, what better present can I give to the one that introduced me to this crazy reality where other men can actually have huge ‘cojones’?
Bring it on!
January 18th, 2007 at 11:06 am
As a man of 38 I am glad to see this info out there. I have helped myself to quite a few servings of cute young things since I have started following Joseph’s writings and system. It is all about taking that leap of faith and getting out there an being who you were meant to be and not who society deams you. For any of you that think that this is a joke and do not take what joesph and other are out there teaching, wae up and smell the roses boys. This course will not only help you with women but with the business life too. Can’t wait to see wha this renegade plan will bring to the table
keep up the good work and lets change the world
January 18th, 2007 at 1:18 pm
The Art of Approaching is the first thing I have read in the seduction community besides the occasional e-mail or blog. It really is a great resource and has helped me very much in not only meeting people but also with my current relationships. The fact that you include your personal experiences has helped me tremendously. Thank you and I’m excited to see what you have in store for us.
January 18th, 2007 at 2:08 pm
I think its awesome, u get high, u get a rush, its fun, its nice to make her smile, she flirts u too, get touchy touchy , even when u get blown off its fun, coz u get more confident later, and u have a mad story to tell, its mad, yup, laters
January 18th, 2007 at 2:22 pm
I have read and listened and watched to alot of the various gurus in the community. I have read the message boards and I can say that I have taken away useful information and ideas from most all of them. However, I also noticed there are different ideas from all of these guys on how to use these skills. I often compare the skills of picking up women to a superpower, and like any superpower, you can use them for good or evil(alright evil might be a little extreme, but you get the picture). Unfortunately, it seems as though there are quite a few people within the community that use their skills for the dark side. There is a pocket of guys that are misogynist and look at it as a way to get even or own women as a possession. I like…naw, I love women, and that is the feel you get from the AOA program. It is developed by a man that loves women, and emphasizes using the powers you gain to express that. I like that it is more about not changing yourself, but emphasizing those aspects of ourselves that are interesting and intriguing that we all possess. I have always liked who I am, and I don’t really feel like changing myself to where I am going out wearing an LED belt buckle, or seeing how many digits I can get. I want to meet a lot of women, but to add their energy to my life, and sometimes that may mean sex, but other times it may just mean hangin out with a really kool girl that I may not have have had the cojones to talk to in a prior life. That is why I would recommend the AOA, it comes from a more positive mind frame than other programs I have encountered and is easier to adapt to your own personality.
January 18th, 2007 at 5:40 pm
Art of Approaching has changed me quite a bit. I am a very shy person around people in general not just girls. I needed confidence around women as well as a proven method to interrupt a woman and talk to her. The theories of approaching that were laid out in the Art of Approaching allowed me to enter into conversations with anyone including very good looking girls that used to make me piss my pants before. Now I have an extremely valuable tool to work on cold approaches and start getting more women in my life.
January 18th, 2007 at 6:00 pm
The most important thing in pickup is learning to approach new, random women without worrying about what happens. It’s all just fun, you’re just meeting people and sharing interesting experiences. And if you get laid, well that’s a plus! If you don’t, nothing lost, in fact you’ve probably made a new contact and a new friend, who has hot friends to boot…
January 18th, 2007 at 6:02 pm
Art of Approaching really powered my love life to reach another level. When I first visited the website, I noticed that it was very straight foward and down to earth. There wasn’t a lot of persuasive salesman-like propaganda that is placed in a lot of other sites. That was only hte beginning. Joe is also unlike other pickup artists becasue he stresses the fact of apporaching women naturally instead of goody routines, picklines, etc. Everything in the Art of Approaching has a very natural feel to it. You don’t need to memorize much, just by reading the book, your character is changed for the better. I think this is what the Art of Approaching is really about. Changing one’s character naturally to make him a better person around women. I would recommend Joe’s book to everybody. It is not only improves who you are around women, but around just people in general. After reading his book, I was able to charm just about anyone; my boss, my friends. I know for a fact that Regenade Rapport will be written similarly to the Art of Approaching, and I can’t wait. Joe, I really want to send out a thanks to you, and I look foward to getting a copy of Regenade Rappot!
January 18th, 2007 at 6:48 pm
Well, Joseph, here I am, answering this blog entry in the hopes of getting that “special prize.” I’m sure HUNDREDS of people have written to you already telling you how amazing the Art of Approaching is, how it’s changed their lives, how it’s gotten them laid by tons of hot women . . . blah blah blah blah blah.
I could go on for days about that, but I won’t. That’s boring. It’s the same thing everyone else wrote. After all, one of the whole points of the Art of Approaching is to teach us how to be different, right? It teaches us to get the girl thorough teasing and banter, not through sucking up and flattery. So I’m not going to suck up to you like all these other wusses, telling you how great your stuff is in the vain hopes that you’ll magically give me the prize. I’m not going to tell you how it’s helped me, or give any examples or “lay reports” from my life because, frankly, I don’t have any better stories than anyone else . . . and besides, like a hot girl who gets hit on 40 times a day, I’m sure you’re sick and tired of those lay reports anyway. I mean, if sucking up to a woman and telling her how great she is doesn’t work with her, it’s not going to work with you, is it? So when you’re deciding who to give that “special prize” to, just keep in mind that while all those other wusses are sucking up to you and talking about how much you’ve taught them, remember that I’m the one actually proving that I’ve learned from you.
January 18th, 2007 at 10:46 pm
Hi, I just read some of the blogs, and damm, I thought I was having problems. I´ve been in this path for about a year and three months by now, and I have studied several Dating Gurus in this community.
I have to say that all of them are good and each one of them has their own characteristics that make them unique and successful. Now, what I like about Joseph, is that he put things on a much more simpler way sort of speak, that made me see all the missing parts of the big puzzle and everything is starting to click. Things like the eye contact test (which is important to learn to speak with your eyes at a sexual level), building rapport in order to create trust and comfort (these things are essential in order for you to move forward with a woman) Another big thing is that he encourage guys to go out there on the field to take the experience, because in order to succeed in this area like he said there’s got to be a combination of Knowledge/Experience along with the strengthen of your confidence, and that my friends are the bases for you to build up…
Hey to me this path hasn’t been quite easy , I mean I have some cool stories, but just before I found out about Joseph, something tough happen to me, I met that one special girl (a girl that I have like for about 4-5 years ago) so I did a cold approach on her, got her attracted and then the following days somehow I managed to screwed it up Je Je; It was devastating, I learned a lot with that particular experience, still hurts a little, but then I saw on TV an interview of the world greatest BMX champion, they where talking about bad injuries, broken bones, and all that; and he said well you get up- you Recover - and then Ride Again… So yes I’ve been doing my own boot camps I go to the malls, random stores, hey a great place to practice are the universities; try it you might end up with something else. Sometimes I feel like am doing a Harvard/Berkley type experiment and found myself having a blast and laughing at the things I’m doing on a cool way of course that helps me to have a better mindset on my approaches. I mean I’m still inside of the Wall of my own limiting beliefs, but little by little, I am doing way much better than when I started, I have learned to never loose hope and keep the faith no matter what, and I encourage everyone to do so. It’s important to be patience, study and practice; but you got to hustle while you wait. In general I can tell his field expertise is above the average in this community, the way he shares his stories and put things he makes it really really cool and laid back, not complicated at all, Natural and Smooth.
I am not talking adulative in order to obtain the Renegader for Free, obviously I´d love to earn it, but I would buy it anyways, I dont care, The only thing is that the goddamn company that process the credit cards (clickbank) for some reason is not able to process mine. You can Ask Amber \”one of the lovely ladies that work with you \” as she said, qute. I have to write it through here because I´ve been trying to buy the Art of APP ebook since last year, and have´nt been able to because of what I explained, yes my Cards work well. All I know from Joseph is through the daily emails, the mini-course, and the Self MAstery. So Yes Joseph, I have to solve that problem and you can help me out in order to obtain your materials. Damm, I think I have wrote a lot, ah jeje . Someone might catch and learn something, For instance I have just learn something that is obvious and is the concept of not putting too much Importance on women. Hey you know, just to finish, in one of the blogs someone said that is a problem to recommend Jospeh´s Material because there would be more competition (I know he was half jocking) and there might be some truth on it; But one thing that is important to learn in this journey fellow readers, is to look at the world as a place of abundance, Not Scarcity, but Abundance, yes there is plenty for everybody.
Keep it up,
Lele
PD: Joseph , please remmember how to solve my problem in order to obtain your materials, and thanks for everything.
January 19th, 2007 at 12:25 am
I got to be honest man. I didn’t think it was all that great. In fact some of the lines just seemed really lame to me. It just didn’t feel like it was anything that could go anywhere. I read it a long time ago and I will take another look, but I remember skimming most of it because it just felt like stuff I might do if I were nervous and not confident. Certainly it must have been meant for day game. I will say I am curious about your new book though because I am a big fan of Juggler and you have always seemed to agree more with him then you do Mystery in principle. So I may have to check it out…but as for art of the approach it just felt like some AFC lines to have for an excuse to talk to someone.
January 19th, 2007 at 4:57 pm
Well where to start? Probably 2 years ago when I accidentally stumbled across David DeAngelos stuff. His Double Your Dating E-book showed me so much of where I was going wrong. The 2 main things I got from that and was able to correct straight away were “Cocky and Funny” and “Oneitis”.
I haven’t had a single case of “oneitis” since. Not now that I know obsessing over one girl who I hardly know is entirely down to not having options. Right now I cannot imagine ever being that way again.
I’m lucky. I’ve always been naturally cocky and funny, but when I was around girls I’d clam up and not do it for fear of “offending” them. Now It’s always on!
“It’s always on!” (if a woman is talking to you, assume she’s interested) is another trick I’ve picked up from David D through his excellent monthly “Interviews with Dating Gurus” series. Which is where I discovered a certain Mr Matthews! These interviews are always informative, but I was amazed by how much Joseph said that struck a chord with me. Especially as I had already identified approaching woman as possibly my weakest point. And not just women - starting conversations with complete strangers generally was a huge problem. I was fed up of being left alone in bars by friends who had spotted someone they knew and had to go and talk to them. So I took a chance on “Art of Approaching”.
Just as with David D’s stuff, there are really practical tips I can take away from this. The main one being the Bootcamp section. Trust me - I’ve learnt a ton of stuff through David D’s Interviews and E-book, but I’ve just not had a clue how to put the individual pieces together. This book solves this. It’s also helped me get some perspective - I’m not going to suddenly turn into Casanova overnight. You need to learn to walk before you can run, and crawl before you can walk. At least I won’t be crawling to any more women. That’s a start!
Not to say that “The Art of Approaching” just puts the pieces together for you. Nowhere, and I mean NOWHERE else have I come across anyone stating such an obvious and helpful tip as “How to tell if a girl is checking you out”. Ladies and Gentlemen - IT’S IN THIS BOOK!! And let’s face it, if you know a girl’s checking you out, that’s half the problem solved.
And I have to mention the confidence section too. David D’s book covers this, but I think Joseph has the edge here. Such a simple but profound phrase as “You don’t know what a woman is into” has really stuck with me. Everytime I have a negative thought about my appearance - I remind myself of this. I already know I’m not the worst looking guy around, but this helps take up the rest of the slack!
So, do I recommend “The Art Of Attraction”. Undoubtedly, yes. Where I’m not so sure is if I rate it above everything else. Maybe I’m biased because I started with David D’s stuff (and discovered Joseph’s stuff through it), but I felt “Double Your Dating” gave me a better general grounding. But that’s the beauty of getting more than one opinion on things. Both David and Joseph are working to the same goal (getting the girl), just both covering different parts of the subject (Dating v Approaching). Ideally you should check out both. In my opinion, the two books go together like strawberrys and cream!
I don’t know what $46.94 will get you in the US, but, thanks to the exchange rate, in the UK it’s less than a tank of petrol. And guess what? In this book there’s even the exact line to say next time you’re filling up and you spot a cracking bird at the next pump!
January 19th, 2007 at 9:46 pm
Art Of Approaching… what do I think of it? I came upon a website one night that said something like, “Free 7 Day Course On How To Meet Women”. It was a pretty dark night for me. I was very down about myself and the complete ‘no-fly-zone’ that was me and women. I signed up for it and was impressed by the advice that Joseph Matthews delivered. What upset me was the tag at the end about paying for this ‘Art Of Approaching E-book’.
I thought great, there’s was something that SEEMED like a genuine, altrustic act but at the end of the day, like the rest of the world, it asks for a credit card number. I figured if I bought this ebook then maybe it would have one or two interesting things to say but it’ would probably just be a shammy way for some guy to make a buck. I thought I’d still be as lonely and clueless as I was then.
I can’t tell you how that E-book watched me from the dark coners of my email. Many weeks past and when I came back from some fairly average night out I’d find this thing quietly raising its hand saying ‘ just give me a go, please’. One day I just decided it wasn’t too much money and if this guy had really put sincere work into this thing then it could be the best money I ever spent.
First off I was amazed at the depth of AOA. I’ve seen some criticise it for being too short but I think such people are nuts. I read that thing cover to cover and afterwards went through and made abridged noes for myself so I can do a quick scan refresher course on the stuff that is most helpful to me.
I could see why Joseph charges for AOA because it is obviously the result of a huge amount of research, study and thought. I literally imagine that a lot of his blood, sweat and tears are in this book, and some other things… ahem.
I have simply found Art Of Approaching superb and have never regretted giving it a chance. It doesn’t claim to be some magic fruit that will have women following you down the street like a cheezy deoderant ad. What it does do is simpy ‘decant truth’. The book deals with the dynamics of how you take a person you don’t know and help them give you the time of day. This alone is an amazing asset to meeting women who you’d normally never meet.
Beyond that it deals exhaustively with human interaction and attraction, helping you create and intuit the signs that will get you off your couch and onto her couch. There is also a dimension of experience and knowledge that Matthews brings to the pages which you simply can’t get without a mentor who’s been on the front line swinging and missing and picking himself up again for years. He’s like the big brother you wish you’d always had who could help you with this stuff.
For me Art of Approaching has removed the stagnating influence of fear and indecision around women. It has helped me get to a place with many women where I can finally start being myself and finding a connection - because you’ve gotten through that awful first interview phase where she’s deciding whether to palm you off or not.
AOA will not make you a god but it will give you the overall understanding and strategy to unlockyour interactins with women. Most importantly it can remove the self-defeat that right now might be sabotaging nearly every encounter you have. Or more often don’t have.