How To Relax Around Women
A Question From A Student:
Dear Joe,
My problem is simple - how do I relax? See, I go out to the pubs and clubs, but when it comes time to get up and dance or ask any of the women to dance, or even to sit down with them, I feel like a retard and don’t go through with what I planed to do or say!
Please Help!!!!!!!
From Matthew
Bundaberg, Queensland , Australia
Hi Matthew,
You actually are not alone in this phenomenon. Lots of guys tend to get “uptight” when around women they are attracted to.
Why is this?
Quite simple, really - you are putting PRESSURE on yourself to succeed! That’s what’s causing you to be so “uptight,” as you say.
Now, the good news about this is - you can manage it! Since you’re the one putting pressure on yourself, YOU are also the one who can relieve that pressure!
See, when you go out with the SPECIFIC goal of “hooking up” or “picking up a girl,” you are placing yourself in a pressure cooker.
Every girl you meet is a potential “conquest.” So you are always hyper-aware of what you say, what you do, how you look, and most of all…
HOW YOU CAN SCREW UP!
And it’s that fear of screwing up that is causing all your problems, my friend.
Fortuneately, there is a very simple (yet sometimes difficult to implement) solution to all this.
You must CHANGE YOUR FOCUS from “hooking up” to “having fun.”
Fun is the key to any seduction.
Do stuff you enjoy. Don’t worry about what others think, or if you’re going to be going home with a girl that night. Just act in a way you find comfortable, speak your mind, and have a good time!
Women find a fun guy incredibly sexy. Sex is a by-product of a woman having fun. So focus on fun, and the women will come.
THAT, my friend, is how you relax.