Interview With Dr. Paul

Donnovan, of Attraction Chronicles fame, has one of his Seduction Masters Interviews up, this time with Dr. Paul.  Dr. Paul is one of those “confidence creator” guys who’s taught at a few David DeAngelo seminars.  He’s a good guy, and his stuff seems to really work.  Here’s my favorite part of the interview…

Donovan & Dr. Paul write:
4. Can you describe the first time you used a counter-intuitive routine that yielded it’s promised results, and how you felt?

I don’t use routines. That’s ridiculous. I’m about being myself and knowing what time it is with people and their behavior. Be real. I think there are a lot of promised results not based in science. And guess what, they don’t work every time, for every guy in every situation. Science does. That’s why it has lasted since the first caveman threw a rock in the air and shouted “cool” when it reliably fell to the ground every single time he threw it. Well, that’s caveman science for you. I do like mystery’s material in the sense that it does have an experimental testing tone to it, which is kinda sorta science-like, but still based in personal experience rather than formal research and education. Like him as a person too. He’s an inquisitive mind, and a good heart, wanting to help guys. Some other folk, well whatever…

Here’s why I like this answer…

I like it because Dr. Paul is really touting a hard-core, confidence based mentality here.  Guys with the right set of inner game don’t need to use routines, etc.

But, that being said, I don’t 100% agree with him.

Tell that to someone who has little, no, or bad experiences with women, and he’s going to look at you cross-eyed.  To most guys struggling with women, the whole “Be Yourself” advice is about as worthwhile as tits on a log.  (Though some would argue tits are NEVER worthless, but I digress…)

I think to dismiss routines completely dismisses the whole “process” of learning seduction.

Most guys don’t know anything about women, or how to pick them up, date them, or even understand them.  This is because no one ever taught them, or they were taught wrongly.  I think the use of routines helps to re-train people and put them on the right path for them to GET TO THE POINT where they don’t need to use them.

Most routines are part of a process of attraction.  The whole Find, Meet, Attract, Close mentality is a step-by-step process, and each step has routines that go with it.  This is so guys who have struggled in the past have a guideline to follow.  Once one has experience AND success with the process, they can start to shed routines because they have a better understanding of the process AND themselves.

That is why I am still a big believer in routines and patterns and all that jazz – because it gives you a good starting framewrok from which to learn.

I don’t use too many routines anymore, but when I first started out, I used them ALL THE TIME.  And I’m glad I did, because it helped me understand how the attraction & dating process worked with women, and it also make me focus on my internal game and helped to fine tune it.

The goal of every man should be like Dr. Paul suggests – get to the point where you DON’T NEED pre-canned or memorized material, where you can showcase your personality and have that be your main attractor.  But don’t expect it to happen overnight.  It is, after all, a process.