Why Buy The Cow When You Can Pay For Better Milk?

There’s a very interesting study profiled by the BBC recently about how most men who pay for sex already have a partner.  Check this out…

The BBC Reports:
Glasgow’s Sandyford Initiative analysed data on 2,500 men who attended a sexual health clinic. One in 10 said they had paid for sex.

Of those around one in four said they repeatedly used prostitutes, 43% had a partner and 20% had a sexually transmitted infection.

Data collected between October 2002 and February 2004 appears in the journal Sexually Transmitted Infections.

The researchers warned that their figures could be an under-estimate of the true numbers who pay for sex.

They found that over half of those men who admitted paying for sex had done so while abroad, while 40% said they had paid for it locally.

An interesting finding of the study was that the majority of the men who pay for sex use condoms, except when recieving oral sex, and that there was a relatively high occurance of STDs with this group – none of which was HIV, however.

But on a bigger scale, why is it what the majority of men who pay for sex already have a partner at home?  (This is one of the questions women just don’t want to know the answer to.)

In my humble opinion, it’s because the guy who goes looking for it elsewhere isn’t getting what he needs from his partner.  In other words, the chick he’s with isn’t “putting out enough.”

Sure, there may be a “dog” factor in all this, as in men just can’t keep it in their pants.  But that may only account for a small percentage.  I think the bigger problem is that men wind up with a partner they’re not happy with, or their partner stopped trying to please them or meet their sexual needs.

Men are sexual beasts, damn it!  We need it at least once a day.  And if our cravings aren’t met, we look for it elsewhere.  Frankly, I’m not shocked at these statistics.  I think most married men find sex workers convenient because you don’t get any crazy “stalker” girlfriends coming along and ruining your family/marriage/relationship, whatever.  As Charlie Sheen used to say:  “I don’t pay hookers for sex, I pay them to go away.”

But here’s the thing:  I really don’t believe in cheating on your partner.  If you’re unhappy, you either have to take steps to fix the problem, or break up and find a better match for yourself.  None of this “sneaking around” bullshit.  You’re together with your partner for a REASON, and if your needs aren’t being met, either do something about it or leave.  Don’t just SETTLE because you don’t think you can do any better or your scared of being alone.  Would you rather run the risk of getting (and passing along) an STD than just DTB (that’s dump that bitch, for those of you not hip to my jive) and move on with your life?

Part of what I love about what I teach in the Art Of Approaching is that it’s EMPOWERING.  It gives you control over an aspect of your life that was previously thought to be uncontrolable.

In other words:  Be a man, go for what you want, and do not settle for anything less!