Nice Guys Don’t Have To Finish Last.

Have you ever heard that old familiar lament:

“Nice Guys Finish Last, Jerks Get Laid?”

At first glance, it would seem that is true.

There are a lot of Jerks out there who are able to attract tons and tons of women.

And there are a lot of Nice Guys who struggle with getting girls, and feel frustrated.

After all, who wants to have to be a jerk in order to get women?

Here’s the thing…

YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE A JERK TO GET WOMEN!

You just have to change a few things you tend to be “nice” about… Read more

Attracting Girls Through Humor

A lot of guys really get caught up with their “looks” when it comes to attracting women.

They think only “good looking guys” can get girls into them.  However, they’re only focusing on ONE SMALL ASPECT of attraction.

See, men place a large importance on physical attractiveness because that’s what initially attracts us to women – their looks.

So we assume that women must be attracted to our looks as well!

Now, I’m not going to tell you that your physical appearance plays no role in whether or not a woman finds you attractive, because it does.

But it isn’t as IMPORTANT as you might think it is.

To women, physical appearance is only a SMALL FACTOR when it comes to attraction.  (Sure, there are exceptions, but for the most part, I’ve found this to be the case.)

A bigger factor in a woman’s attraction to a man is how he can make her FEEL.

Understand – women are emotional creatures.  They’re more hard-wired to respond emotionally than men are.  This is just how nature made them.

If you can appeal to her EMOTIONALLY, even if you’re not her “physical type,” you can still attract her.

And nothing creates emotion more powerful than HUMOR.

So let’s talk about how you can use humor to attract women to you… Read more

How To Deal With Rejection From Women

It’s probably the thing every guy hates the most when it comes to dealing with girls…

REJECTION.

Nothing stings more than having a pretty girl shoot you down.

After all, it takes a lot of effort to walk up to a girl you don’t know and start talking to her, right?

Well, here’s the good news – its COMPLETELY possible to avoid almost ALL rejection from women.

(And no, this has nothing to do with not talking to them to avoid rejection.  This is about meeting the girls you want, and getting them to respond positively to you!)

So let’s talk about how you can almost completely eliminate any and all rejection from women… Read more

How To Be Sexy (Advice For Men!)

Hey there,

If you’re anything like me (and most heterosexual men), you’re probably of the belief that its impossible for men to be sexy.

I mean, let’s face it.  The female body is a thing of beauty!  And the male body, well…

Let’s just say that most men find nothing at all to be proud of when it comes to their own bodies.

But hey, there’s gotta be SOMETHING about men that’s appealing enough to make women want to spend some “sexy time” with us right?  So what is it?  And most of all…

How to you USE IT to get girls?

Well, in today’s article, I’m going to teach you how to be a “sexy man” and get more attention from the ladies than you know what to do with.

So let’s get started… Read more

A Secret Technique For Bars & Clubs

Has this ever happened to you?

You’re feeling lonely, so you decide to go out and meet a girl, and *maybe* get lucky.

So you get all dressed up, and go out to a nearby bar or nightclub hoping to meet a hot chick.

You spend the night talking to girls, drinking, trying to have a good time – and maybe you even meet a girl who seems into you!

But at the end of the night, you end up going home ALONE.

For whatever reason, things with the girls just didn’t work out.  Maybe their friends dragged them away at the last minute.  Maybe some competition from another guy stole them away.  Maybe they just got too drunk and decided to go home without you.

Either way, the result is the same:  You didn’t get what you wanted!

(Trust me, this happens to the best of us!)

BUT, if you know just one simple, secret technique you can use at any bar or club, I can GUARANTEE you with 99% certainty that you’ll never leave that bar or club without a girl.

And here’s the secret… Read more

Beware that “One Special Girl!”

Hey there,

It’s a common question I get asked by almost every single one of my students…

“Joe, there’s this one girl I really like.  How do I get her?”

And my answer is always the same…

“You don’t.”

Now, that might seem a bit pessimistic.  After all, why can’t we go after the girl we want?

Short answer:  You CAN go after the girl you want, and its possible you can GET the girl you want.  But that doesn’t necessarily mean you should put ALL YOUR EFFORT into going after the girl you want.

See, dating really comes down to a numbers game.  And when you limit yourself to one particular girl, you’re actually HURTING your chances of getting the right girl for you.

(The reason being that “one special girl” you like so much might not be the girl you should be going after.)

So when I hear that question about the “one special girl,” I get worried.

Here’s what you SHOULD be doing to not only increase your chances with that girl you like so much, but also ensure that if it doesn’t work out with her, you’re not completely out of luck… Read more

Scientific Proof Of What Turns Women On!

In a recent survey by Lifestyles.com, they asked women what turned them on when it came to men.  Their answers were broken down into five of the most popular categories:

1.  Looks
2.  Sense of humor
3.  Intelligence
4.  Faith
5.  Politics

Now, I’ve always been a big believer that when it comes to attracting women, LOOKS DON’T MATTER.

Or, more specifically, looks don’t matter as much as most guys THINK they do.

If you look at that list above, 4 out of 5 of those “Top Attraction Triggers” are things that are non-pysical.

So the “non-pysical” stuff outweighs the Looks stuff by a ratio of 4:1!!!

What’s that mean?  Exactly what I said before:  Looks don’t matter as much as you think they do!

So let’s talk about how you can REALLY attract a woman, no matter what you look like… Read more

How To Stop Putting Women On Pedestals

Hey there,

Do you have problems talking to pretty girls because you think they’re “out of your league?”

Do you see a pretty woman and immediately “clam up” and are afraid to talk to her?

Are you worried that women will reject you, and you have no idea how to overcome that horrible feeling and start meeting the type of women you deserve?

If that’s the case, then you might be making a BIG MISTAKE most guys make when it comes to women – putting them up on pedestals!  But luckily, this type of thing can be easily fixed, IF you know the right tricks to level the playing field with beautiful women.

So let’s talk about how, exactly, you can overcome this… Read more

How To Approach Older Women

If you’re looking to meet a great woman, one of the things you may want to consider is meeting women who are older than the type you might normally go for.

If you’re looking to meet a great woman, one of the things you may want to consider is meeting women who are older than the type you might normally go for.

But before I go any further with this, I want to make a distinction here…

There is a difference between women who are “older than you,” and “older women.”

For instance, a woman in her 20s could be older than you, but that’s different from a woman in her 30s, 40s, and beyond.

So I’m going to talk about “older women,” in the sense that I mark women over 35 as being “older” in my book.

Some women may take offense to this, and some men out there might even say women in their mid-to-late 30s aren’t “older,” but I judge this based on what women FEEL.

A woman who is 35 and still single definitely FEELS like she’s an older woman.  This is because typically,  she has been married, had kids, or is worried she’ll never get married by this point in her life.

Technically, this type of thinking starts for women around age 30, but by 35, it REALLY kicks into high gear.  So my advice is geared towards women 35+, are we clear?

Okay then…

First of all, approaching older women is generally much easier than younger women.  Not just because it probably doesn’t happen to them all that often anymore, but because the woman will receive the attention better.

When it comes to approaching older women, I like to go with being EXTREMELY complimentary and flirty.  Women who get positive attention from men, especially when the woman is older than they are, will become very receptive to it if done right.

Understand – women feel like they’re always in competition with OTHER women.  Other, younger, women.  So if you can make them feel attractive, they will be quite receptive to you because you’re validating to them that they “still got it.”

Trust me – even if the older woman is still attractive, this will work.  I once dated a 36 year old actress when I was 28.  She was a stunning blonde, but incredibly insecure about her looks because she felt like she wasn’t “young” anymore, even though she looked just as good (if not better) than women ten years younger than her.

And because I was able to charm her and make her feel good, she became attracted to me.

When it comes to women, it really is THAT simple.

But don’t compliment her on her looks.  Compliment her on other things, and THEN have that lead to her looks and other things.

For instance, I might start a conversation by saying:

“Excuse me, I know this might sound cheesy, but I have to ask – have you ever had any kind of dance training?”

(Typically, most girls have taken some form of dance class in their lifetime, but even if they haven’t , you can proceed with this opener)

Follow up by saying:

“I just ask because you move so gracefully, like you just naturally know how to move your body.  You seem so confident with yourself, it really is noticeable.”

From there, you can take the conversation towards asking her about herself.  Then you can stack on stuff like:

“You have an amazing energy about you.  It’s like you have a really youthful spirit.”

And…

“I must say, I think you just might be the most attractive woman I’ve seen in a long time.  I meet a lot of girls in their 20′s who couldn’t hold a candle to you.”

Saying things like this will really make the older woman you’re talking to feel good, ESPECIALLY when you tell them that younger women can’t compare to them.

The trick here is not to be overly complimentary, otherwise your compliments come off as insincere.  You want to be flirty, and sprinkle in your compliments as you go.

Now, of course, being complimentary doesn’t always work.  Sometimes, if the woman is really hot and she has a bit of an attitude, you need to use the usual methods.  But I’ve found in general that this is the way to go when approaching older women.

How To Meet Women At The Gym

If you’re the type of guy who likes to work out and take care of yourself, then chances are you spend a lot of time at the gym.

In fact, it’s not unusual for guys to spend anywhere from an hour to two hours a day working out!

From personal experience, when I work out, I’ll be at the gym five days a week, alternating between an hour of cardio and an hour of weight training.

And that time at the gym adds up!  Some people even go further by joining classes, getting a personal trainer, and hanging out at the local juice bar.  So it’s no surprise that because some of us spend so much time at the gym, we’d like to know how to meet women there!

After all, it’s not just the fact that some guys spend a lot of time working out at the gym, there’s also the fact that some very attractive women spend a lot of time there too!  (In an effort to remain as attractive as possible, of course.)

But as much as it makes sense to try and meet girls during your workout, it can seem like a very daunting task!  But if you know a few simple tricks for meeting women at the gym, you might be surprised to find that it’s actually easier to do than you think.

Let’s go through the tips now…

TIP #1:  Taking Advantage Of Cardio

Typically, people will do cardio workouts for anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour.  Let’s face it, that’s a LONG time to do nothing but run in place!

If you see an attractive girl you’d like to meet doing cardio, see if you can get on a machine next to her to do your cardio.  This will give you the opportunity to start up a conversation with her.

You’ll be amazed at how easy it is to talk to someone when they’re doing a cardio workout, and that’s because cardio is BORING.  The girl will typically be watching closed-caption TV, flipping through a magazine, or listening to music on an iPod.  But talking to someone can pass the time just as fast, and as long as your approach is smooth, she’ll be more than willing to chat with you!

TIP #2:  Find Out Her Playlist

One of the biggest obstacles guys face at the gym is competing with iPods.  People like to listen to music when they work out, and seeing a pair of ear-plugs can scare you off from starting a conversation.

But I’ve found that actually asking the woman about the music she listens to when working out is a great way to not only get her to listen to you instead of music, but a good way to quickly bond with her over mutual interests.

The way I do it, is I’ll try and get the girl’s attention, either by waving at her or tapping her on her shoulder.  This will get her to pause her music and look at me.  Then I’ll say…

“Sorry to bother you, do you mind if I ask what music you’re listening to?”

When she give you her answer, you can respond:

“I’m getting kind of bored with my music, so I’m looking for some new stuff to listen to during my workout.  What kind of music do you think is the best to workout to?”

From there, I can start talking about favorite bands, concerts I’ve been to, etc.  It’s a great way to get her attention away from her iPod and focused on you!

TIP #3:  Offer Advice

Often times, you’ll see girls working out throughout the gym on various machines or weights.  A great way to start up conversations with them is to offer them advice or feedback on their form.

Just make sure that it’s “friendly” suggestions, and that you’re not telling them they’re doing things wrong.

People at the gym who work out without personal trainers usually have mistakes in how they are using machines or performing a certain exercise.  So if you can offer them some tips on how to make their workout more effective, they’ll actually really appreciate it!

And once you offer them your advice, you can start asking them about their training goals, and carry on the conversation from there.

This is a very effective way of meeting girls who are weight training.

TIP #4:  Join A Class

Most gyms offer a variety of classes you can sign up for.  These range from yoga, to spinning, to dancing, etc.

Here’s a tip – most of these classes are filled by a majority of WOMEN.  So taking a class can give you a tremendous opportunity to meet girls!

Not only that, but many classes can become social functions, and give you excuses to talk and chit-chat with girls.  I can’t tell you how many girls I’ve dated because I was the only guy in their class at the gym.

You’ll also notice a lot of the girls in your classes also work out at the gym, so you have a great way of meeting them if you see them in the general training area.  Just approach them and say “Hey, aren’t you in my spinning (or whatever) class?”

Seriously, it does not get much easier than that!

TIP #5:  Take Advantage Of The Juice Bar

Most gyms nowadays have some type of juice bar, or place where you can sit down and drink a protein shake or smoothy.  Take advantage of this when you’re trying to meet women at the gym!

There are two ways you can utilize a juice bar…

The first is to invite women you meet while working out to join you for a drink.  This is a great way to do an “instant date” after meeting a girl.  Instead of letting the girl just leave after she’s done working out, ask her if she’d be interested in grabbing a drink with you at the smoothy bar.

Then, sit down and chit-chat with her.  It’s just like getting coffee together, but much quicker and easier.

The second way to use the juice bar area is to actually see if there are any women you’d like to meet there already, and ask to join them while you drink your beverage.  Most women won’t refuse you, and you can start chit-chatting with them after you sit down.

Ultimately, there are lots of great ways to meet women during your workout.  Just keep trying different methods until you find one that works for you.

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