Dealing With Competition From Other Men
Eventually, if you’re pursuing a pretty girl, you’re going to have to deal with something.
Let’s face it, if a girl is even halfway attractive, she’s going to be getting attention from a number of other guys, all of whom want to be with her just as bad (and in some cases more) than you!
So what’s a guy to do? How do you compete with other dudes for the affection of the same woman?
Simple. DON’T COMPETE!
Honestly, I never like to get involved in a competition I might lose. So to avoid this, I don’t look at it as competition.
If a guy wants to chase after the same girl as me, he’s welcome to do it. All I can do is put my best foot forward, and if the girl is interested, she’ll gravitate towards me and not someone else.
Now, that’s not saying you can’t do things to make it more likely that the girl will want to hang out with you as opposed to other dudes. But the minute you start “competing” with other men, you give the girl all the power – because eventually she’s going to have to choose someone. (And that someone might not be you!)
YOU want to be the chooser though. Not the other way around.
So when it comes to competition, you just need to focus on being your best, most attractive self, keep communication up, and most of all, don’t let the other guys get to you.
When it comes to being your best, most attractive self, you need to be confident and flirtatious. Be the guy who’s fun and interesting, but don’t fawn all over the girl. Let the other “chumps” do that. If you hang back, but are more interesting than others, the girl will naturally want to gravitate to you.
Communication is key when outshining the competition. In a bar or club atmosphere, guys will compete for girls until the night’s over. But keep in mind – you don’t always have to win out that night. You can get a number and follow up with the girl with phone calls and text messages for a longer courtship.
Often times, just being the guy who stays in touch will separate you from the pack. I’ve personally slept with girls I met months (and sometimes years) after I met them simply because I was good about staying in touch with them! So don’t forget about communicating with them.
And don’t let the competition aspect of picking up a girl get to you. This is the WORST thing you can do. Sure, guys can be jerks sometimes, and some guys can be hyper aggressive. But if you relax and take it in stride, you can outlast them.
But if you get angry or aggressive in return, they win. It’s actually more beneficial to try and befriend the competition, so they become neutralized, than it is to try and degrade them or fight with them.
And most of all – don’t just focus on one girl. Always keep your options open! When you put all your energy into getting just one girl, your chances for failure skyrocket!
Always pursue more than one woman and keep your options open, so even if you happen to “lose out” to the competition, you always have a beautiful girl waiting in the wings for you.