How To Keep A Girl Once You’re In A Relationship

How do you keep a girl interested in you long term?

When you become successful with women, there is going to come a time when a special girl comes along that you would like to keep. For many men, that’s the end game – the reason why we’re doing this in the first place – not so that they can sleep with a new hottie every day, but so they will be able to find a girl that has something which makes her unique and well suited for them in particular.

You should know, in as much detail as possible, what you are looking for in “a keeper.” This will be what helps you spot them…

Typically, this doesn’t have anything to do with physical traits.  Usually, you’re already interested in her because you’re physically attracted.  The “Keeper” qualities are typically personality traits that you find appealing.

Things like – is she funny?  Smart?  Does she make you feel good?  Are the two of you sexually compatible?  Do you share the same beliefs and goals?

When you know exactly what you’re looking for in an ideal mate, you’ll be able to spot her when she comes along, so you’re going to want to have some type of list that let’s you know what you’re looking for.

When you find a girl that you especially like, close to your ideal (very rarely, if ever, will you find a girl that meets ALL of your criteria), you should play a slightly different game than when you are when you’re just trying to get a girl into bed.

If you sleep with this girl immediately, she is going to suspect that you are looking more for adventure and excitement than for stability, trust, and a longer relationship.

And for some people, establishing a relationship after a one-nighter can be very hard. Why is this? Because if you slept together the first night you met, even if you do get into some kind of relationship, as soon as she goes out with her friends or you go out with your friends, the issue of trust is going to rear its ugly head.

How can she trust that you are not going to cheat on her?  How can you trust her that she won’t cheat on you? So trust is going to be very difficult to establish fully, and trust is a crucial thing in long term relationships!

So I’m going to give you some advice about this problem. When you meet a girl you want to keep, a girl that you want for a relationship, don’t sleep with her that same night. Instead, just kiss her, or take her phone number after you have built rapport with her and then meet her some other day.

In fact, it is still possible to build a relationship when you hook up the first night you meet. But the key is to make sure you don’t let yourself go at her like an animal.  Instead, be more attentive, more low-energy, have more love making than just pure crazy bedroom acrobatics.

Cuddle her more, hold eye contact longer while being intimate and also try to give her lots of climaxes. Let her gain immense pleasure from being with you. That will be some kind of guarantee that she will come back for more, and also subcommunicate that you like her, and that you care about her and how she feels.

Another thing to be aware of if you’re taking it slow – do not engage in intercourse the first time you’re with her.  Instead, focus on other aspects of lovemaking, like foreplay, heavy petting, and other techniques.  Holding off on the full-on act of being intimate will show her that you’re different from the others, and you want it to be something special.

When it comes to long term, healthy relationships, being intimate is the first thing that must be mastered.  Having a healthy romance will make the relationship a strong one.

After that comes the harder aspects - trust, comfort, and communication.

It’s important that you trust and feel comfortable around your partner.  In fact, these two things usually go hand-in-hand.  The more you trust someone, the more comfortable you are around them, and vice versa.

Trust comes from being honest with your partner, and comfort comes from demonstrating understanding and compassion.

But no amount of intimacy, trust, or comfort is going to happen without communication.  This is the most important factor in keeping a girl for the long term.

Good communication is critical, because communication is what creates intimacy between two people.  Being able to share one’s hopes, dreams, fears, insecurities, bad days, and good days – this all goes towards creating strong bonds that last a lifetime.

Communication isn’t just about sharing your thoughts, emotions, and desires – it’s also about paying attention to her’s.  If women feel neglected or ignored, they lose that emotional connection and will start to seek it elsewhere – this is when women begin to stray.

So always be aware of what your woman is trying to communicate to you, and be open to it.  There is no better way to keep her for the long run.